sieger123 Posted March 16, 2017 Posted March 16, 2017 Hey guys so I am new here and I do have a blog in which I write self help/ relationship advice. So the reason I think the soul mate idea is stupid and this is from a part of my article: Think of your favorite romantic movie (please not Twilight), tv show or whatever. The main plot is basically how there are these two people and that no matter what happens if its meant to be its meant to be. They will always somehow end up together and with no one else. Love will find a way and the birds will sing and it will all be happily ever after. Now.. who do you think wrote that plot? Was it the olympic athlete who runs sprints for fun? The high performing entrepreneur who had made his first business by the age of 2? Probably not. It was just a writer whose job it was to entertain you and sell you a fantasy. Just like The Walking Dead, Avatar, Harry Potter, etc. You are putting your dreams on something a writer came up with to entertain you? I don’t see too many people running into pillars at train stations trying to find the way to Hogwarts.. do you? (if you do please take a video and send) Your life isn’t a movie. Sometimes relations are not meant to last or even start in the first place. There are simply way too many people out there for you to be hung up on one person. Basically the point is that we shouldn't go into what society says and try and find the one. Just live as you are and meet people and eventually you will find someone and it might or might not work out. There is no guarantees here. Do you guys agree?
hercules22 Posted March 16, 2017 Posted March 16, 2017 i dont really believe in it either of course those movies and shows will play out some bull**** lol
mikeylo Posted March 16, 2017 Posted March 16, 2017 Some people agree about soulmates. I've also read about twin flames.Its all pretty heavy stuff but people do believe.
basil67 Posted March 16, 2017 Posted March 16, 2017 (edited) I don't agree that society has ever suggested that there is one person for us. Most of us know that real life is not like the movies. Edited March 16, 2017 by basil67 2
PrettyEmily77 Posted March 16, 2017 Posted March 16, 2017 It probably made some sense when religious dogmas rules most people's lives and when living beyond 40 was considered a luxury. Now, it's a sweet idea.That's about it. 1
CptInsano Posted March 16, 2017 Posted March 16, 2017 The math for finding that one soulmate in the world doesn't add up, because you will never be able meet enough people to find a single person destined for you. Let's say, my true soulmate lived in Novosibirsk. In have no plans of visiting Novosibirsk anytime soon, so I would essentially be out of luck. No true romance for me, as I would never meet enough women to have a realistic chance of finding her. Of course we are compatible with many people, plus we also "grow together". Our behaviors and patterns are not immutable. What doesn't fit now may fit in the future. I had a long relationship with a woman who rather rudely rejected me 12 years prior to that relationship. We both weren't the same people we were when we first met. 1
Tressugar Posted March 16, 2017 Posted March 16, 2017 We all have several soulmates in a lifetime. Not in the way of what Hollywood has portrayed. I'm talking about real life here. Now the Twin flames concept, I'm still working on that. I'm a life-long student of spirituality.
Kitchen Posted March 16, 2017 Posted March 16, 2017 No, there is not just one soulmate. But there aren't many (from the people you meet). Only a handful of people out there I've met whom I felt crazy for (who felt that way for me too). Actually only 2. And I'm 29.
CptInsano Posted March 16, 2017 Posted March 16, 2017 But there aren't many (from the people you meet). I would consider the number to be at about 1% of the women around my age, simply based on the number of women I get to know a little closer vs. actual relationships that I had.
Larryville Posted March 16, 2017 Posted March 16, 2017 As Cpt points out: I had a long relationship with a woman who rather rudely rejected me 12 years prior to that relationship. We both weren't the same people we were when we first met. People seriously underestimated how much they change from decade to decade but also will change in the future. People just don’t recognize how much their seemingly essential selves would shift and grow. One important fact is to be a “soulmate” (If there is such a thing) you’re “mentally” inseparable. Soulmates are said to often have a mental connection similar to twins. They might pick up the phone to call each other at the exact same time. Though life may keep you apart at times, your minds will always be in tune if you are "soulmates". My relationship with wife # 2 was very much like this. I was more so in my early years, a very high strung, OCD, seriously moody and if it were possible to monitor vital signs 24/7 her presence or her voice could almost immediately calm me down. If we were separated for any stretch of time my moods were greatly affected. I could recall countless stories, but the bottom line is folks describe things like this to come up with the soulmate tag. IDK if I would call it a soulmate, but at least for me there was an extraordinary comfort. This is what is essentially my current achilles heel in dating, few people I will ever meet is going to give me that comfort and mental connection. Two seriously incompatible people on paper can make that type connection. If not for OLD would have been almost impossible to meet her. Which kinda goes to... There are simply way too many people out there for you to be hung up on one person. However... If you are “hung up” on someone, nothing could be further than a soulmate than that. 1
smackie9 Posted March 16, 2017 Posted March 16, 2017 There will be more than one because as we get older and go through life, we all change as individuals. What our priorities are, likes, dislikes, interests, friends, experiences all change over time, so of course you won't see a spiritual connection with someone you were madly in love with twenty years ago. Man alive, when I look back I wonder what the hell I saw in them. 3
elaine567 Posted March 16, 2017 Posted March 16, 2017 Some people though do seem to have the ability to "grow" with their companion, so that whilst both may be entirely different people to the people they were in their twenties the bond they share is still as relevant decades later as it was then. I guess it has more to do with a mindset, than actually having met a person that perfectly fits, but I could be wrong..
GunslingerRoland Posted March 16, 2017 Posted March 16, 2017 I don't honestly see many adults subscribing to this theory really. Seems like a bit of a straw man argument. Welcome to the site though! 1
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