Author lily999 Posted March 16, 2017 Author Posted March 16, 2017 (edited) What it sounds to me he was looking for something serious, you didn't reciprocate and wanted casual. You didn't send a text for weeks while he continued to date and found someone he's more aligned with i.e. a potential relationship. You finally reached out, and he told you truth. I guess he had already started to date that girl when he was hooking up with me. That was why he stated in his last text ' I have to be honest..." Because when I was seeing him I asked him if he was single and I told him I don't mess up with any guy who is already taken. His answer was always"I am single". After he got serious with that girl and got enough sex from me , he became "honest" Edited March 16, 2017 by lily999
Gr8fuln2020 Posted March 16, 2017 Posted March 16, 2017 I think "I'm sorry, but I realized we're not right for each other" covers most situations that are in early stages. ...and keep it short and sweet and don't get pulled into an emotional discussion as some like to do.
curiouslysearching Posted March 16, 2017 Posted March 16, 2017 This 100% . I can't vouch for guys but my "go to" rejection line is "sorry, I'm seeing someone/started seeing someone" even if it's not true. It's just a lot easier and like someone above said , there's no "nice" way to reject someone. Cookie, you even have your own "GO TO" line when you aren't feeling it? Would you consider yourself to be a "player"??? 1
curiouslysearching Posted March 16, 2017 Posted March 16, 2017 You BOTH didn't contact each other for 2 weeks....that looks like a mutual understanding that you BOTH are not going to see each other again. BTW "casual" means you both are free to date others. I wasn't sure what casual actually meant....I am learning great deal....this has been a slice of heaven
curiouslysearching Posted March 16, 2017 Posted March 16, 2017 I think "I'm sorry, but I realized we're not right for each other" covers most situations that are in early stages. pretty good blanket statement I do believe
stillafool Posted March 16, 2017 Posted March 16, 2017 After he got serious with that girl and got enough sex from me , he became "honest" But you two only did it once, right? You wanted it also didn't you and I assume you liked it or you wouldn't want to see him again. 1
Miss Spider Posted March 16, 2017 Posted March 16, 2017 Definitely, curiously., that's just how I keep all my guys in check..you know? Hahaha no..not even close.. I just meant over the years I've found this line is good to let down easy. That and" sorry I have a bf" 1
TheTraveler Posted March 16, 2017 Posted March 16, 2017 I wasn't sure what casual actually meant....I am learning great deal....this has been a slice of heaven When someone drops the word "casual" on you, an alarm bell should instantly ring in your head this person isn't looking for something serious or a long-term relationship. 2
curiouslysearching Posted March 16, 2017 Posted March 16, 2017 Definitely, curiously., that's just how I keep all my guys in check..you know? Hahaha no..not even close.. I just meant over the years I've found this line is good to let down easy. That and" sorry I have a bf" Cookie, I do believe you are priceless.....keep those dudes in line will ya 1
Author lily999 Posted March 17, 2017 Author Posted March 17, 2017 I don't think it makes any sense that you were the one pushing him away, you didn't answer him for weeks, you never initiated contact, yet you say now you're the one who feels rejected. Were you playing some sort of game? Hard-to-get? If so, you can see now that this doesn't really work, right? Not jumping into the person's lap is one thing, being utterly disinterested at pretty much every attempted contact is another. Don't play games next time. And forget about this guy...you're the one who didn't want him in the first place, according to you. Really, none of this makes any sense. I never "didn't answer him for weeks". After the last time we met, neither of us contacted each other. After two weeks of our last meeting, I initiated the contact and told him I miss him, but got rejected as he told me he was dating someone he met from work. I guess he wasn't so interested in me and I didn't' really push him away because at the beginning he was clear about he just wanted sex, but he wanted to "take things slow"
todreaminblue Posted March 17, 2017 Posted March 17, 2017 i prefer to be truthful.....i wouldn't tell a guy i am seeing someone if i am not i would stutter im a bad liar.....i would just say im not the woman for you.....ill list a few of my flaws.....and say see you can do better than me..i would drive you prematurely grey..... ..and then i list what i respect about them and what is good about them.. and if its just that they had the guts to step aup and ask me i say that....because a lot of guys dont have those guts.....and I say thank you for being sweet and thinking of me...and tell them they will find the woman for them..if they need advice ill help them out down the track/........and if they dont turn nasty...i really appreciate that..i turn rejection into a laugh most of the time if i do it right........deb
mightycpa Posted March 17, 2017 Posted March 17, 2017 When I went out with a girl and found I wasn't interested for whatever reason, I'd usually try to friendzone her. It would start with an announcement that I was seeing/interested in someone else, but that we shouldn't lose touch. Then I'd disappear for a few weeks. At the next opportunity, I'd invite her as a friend to a gathering or party or wherever a crowd of my friends was going to be, and I'd invite her to bring some of her friends along. I'd always mention that there would be a lot of interesting guys there. I did that because sometimes, I might enjoy meeting one of her friends, or maybe one of my buddies could hook up with her or one of her friends. You never really knew. The fewer number of times we dated, the better that worked. I learned that move from my buddy JT. He did that, and I met more than my share of girls through him, and even more girls through them. Single young men, take a lesson here. Don't discard the people you date and don't work out with. These are precious resources you're squandering. Waste not, want not! OP, my guess is that he would have been happy to go his merry way and never contact you again if you didn't contact him. That way, an option for future sex still exists, no matter how remote. Because you did contact him, he gave you the old "seeing somebody" routine. We have no idea if it's true or not. That's how most guys think. 3
Author lily999 Posted March 18, 2017 Author Posted March 18, 2017 When I went out with a girl and found I wasn't interested for whatever reason, I'd usually try to friendzone her. It would start with an announcement that I was seeing/interested in someone else, but that we shouldn't lose touch. Then I'd disappear for a few weeks. At the next opportunity, I'd invite her as a friend to a gathering or party or wherever a crowd of my friends was going to be, and I'd invite her to bring some of her friends along. I'd always mention that there would be a lot of interesting guys there. I did that because sometimes, I might enjoy meeting one of her friends, or maybe one of my buddies could hook up with her or one of her friends. You never really knew. The fewer number of times we dated, the better that worked. I learned that move from my buddy JT. He did that, and I met more than my share of girls through him, and even more girls through them. Single young men, take a lesson here. Don't discard the people you date and don't work out with. These are precious resources you're squandering. Waste not, want not! OP, my guess is that he would have been happy to go his merry way and never contact you again if you didn't contact him. That way, an option for future sex still exists, no matter how remote. Because you did contact him, he gave you the old "seeing somebody" routine. We have no idea if it's true or not. That's how most guys think. I agree with what you said. Most likely this guy found out that I was getting attached so he said "I have met someone at work" to let me know that he isn't romantically interested in me, and he didn't care to sleep with me either. Like you said, he might never contact me again if I didn't text him first 2
curiouslysearching Posted March 18, 2017 Posted March 18, 2017 I agree with what you said. Most likely this guy found out that I was getting attached so he said "I have met someone at work" to let me know that he isn't romantically interested in me, and he didn't care to sleep with me either. Like you said, he might never contact me again if I didn't text him first There are a lot of guys out there for you to meet. You will meet someone who values you and will make you very happy...I sure do hope so 1
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