Is sleeping with someone on a first date bad?

[Curiousroxy86]

In your opinion. Does it kill any chance of a relationship? I had a relationship for 4 years that started as a one night stand..

I am reading lots of articles that say it doesn't matter, that if a guy wants to be with you he will, so it doesn't matter how many dates it takes for you to have sex - because he truly wants you.

Then some say they loose interest.

 

I went out with a guy and we are both looking for long term and we are really into each other. Didn't have sex but it was really hard not too! I think if there is chemistry and you both already discussed what you are looking for (ie. long term) then why should it matter? If you could be with this person for a while potentially, why would it matter when you have sex? Isn't it good to know if there is any sexual chemistry sooner anyways?

But then some stuff I read says that men will loose interest or loose respect for you if you "give it up too easy" and that they "want what they can't have"

I know these are possibly like evolutionary things, but if two people are into each other does it really matter? And what if you wait 5 dates for example to have sex with someone, and they end it, or they could do the same after 1 date...so does it really matter??

 

I believe it is true that men do what they want to do. If they like you they pursue you. But for me personally I want to know if he likes me before opening my legs. If you are fine with a guy possibly ghosting on you after you open your legs then by all means get your freak on. But if your not okay with that then I would advise not to pork on the first date.

[Titanll]

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I am of the school of throwing any so called rules out of the window and doing what you feel. Of course, this implies that you "know" yourself well. Timing sex is sort of ridiculous in my opinion...this goes for the number of phone calls per week, how often per month to date and other such insanity.

Edited March 17, 2017 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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[smackie9]

This topic keeps coming up all the time. The reality of it is, on the rarest of occasions a LTR can come out of a ONS or a first date.

 

BUT: When guys on a survey, are asked if they see potential in a girl that sleeps with them on the first date, 99.9% say no. It's that old attitude she must be "easy" so she can't be trusted or too many guys have hit that.

 

So if you do decide to have sex on the first date, the odds are against you for a LTR.

Edited March 17, 2017 by smackie9

[Jj66]

My best (longest lasting) relationships have come from 2nd date sex. We could hardly keep our hands off each other. Only one significant relationship went past date 3.