ExpatInItaly Posted March 16, 2017 Posted March 16, 2017 Yes, I had this feeling when a toxic relationship ended a couple years back. But walking away from him was among the best decisions I've ever made. 1
Author Mackem23 Posted March 16, 2017 Author Posted March 16, 2017 Any advice if the out of the toxic relationship we had a child ever time we have a fight she uses my child as a weapon against me a keep praying her and her new bf last cause she leaves me be when she's with him
ExpatInItaly Posted March 16, 2017 Posted March 16, 2017 Any advice if the out of the toxic relationship we had a child ever time we have a fight she uses my child as a weapon against me a keep praying her and her new bf last cause she leaves me be when she's with him Get a lawyer and a formal custody agreement. 2
OatsAndHall Posted March 17, 2017 Posted March 17, 2017 I had a experienced a tremendous amount of relief when my ex-wife and I split as our relationship had become to contentious and volatile over the years. I didn't realize just how badly our relationship was affecting me until we separated. There are times when I do miss her but that is because we were together for six years. I can count on two hands the number of days we were away from each other over that space of time and we were best friends. On the rare occasion where I am dwelling on things, I just have to remind myself of the relief I felt when we divorced.
Altair0770 Posted March 17, 2017 Posted March 17, 2017 I feel relieved I'm no longer being lied to. I miss the person, and am happy that I am healing from such a traumatic breakup that nearly ended my life. I'm relieved that I don't have suicidal thoughts and am generally a happy person and I love who I am. Do I miss my ex? I honestly don't know. I miss what she pretended to be in the honeymoon stage. But I do not miss the lies and insults thrown at me. 3
Author Mackem23 Posted March 17, 2017 Author Posted March 17, 2017 my ex rebounded or so I believe with this guy who I know they have been seeing each other 3 weeks but the problem I have is I have a daughter with her and I get her 4 days of week but so far they have spilt up 3 times in 3 weeks that's when she turn her attention back to me till they work things out that's when she leaves me and stops with the threats about my days with daughter so my question is does this relationship have any chance of working
Maldives Posted March 27, 2017 Posted March 27, 2017 So ex got with someone new, so I went no contact then she started messaging Saturday telling me how much she misses me etc etc then on Sunday was with her new bf got no messages stressed then texted on Monday saying she's breaking up with him and misses me so like a fool I went down and slept with her and saying we going to work things out for our baby and her child who is like mine, then today she text saying she needs time by her sell and wants to be single for while but loves me and always will etc I just blocked her and I know real reason is she's with that new bloke again am going full no contact she was never like this before am back to square one and just wondering why she would do this She's trying to make u jealous u r both in a struggle for power and generally wat that means rather than being loving and supporting because those two things are missing here u try and hurt each other to get the very thing u want from each other the love and support u crave from one another make sense? I hope so ur hurting each other to vet love bit it shouldn't work that way there is underlying hurt and resentment from ur past actions cheating getting a boyfriend that quick yes she's doing good that to get back at u
Author Mackem23 Posted March 28, 2017 Author Posted March 28, 2017 (edited) Don't know if this is right place to write this. I just needed to get it off my chest me and girlfriend broke up lots over two and half years I was not very good bf. I new she loved me more then I loved her so abused that position. And then we had our baby daughter and again I was still walking out and stuff we tried to make it work again after one month break it lasted one day then she started texting and seeing a other person and started seeing him that when I realised how much I loved her so tried to get her back she left the new person and blocked him on everything but now we are back and texting I can not get this other man out my head am paranoid what is not like me being very full on with girlfriend we both had a talk and agreed that this could not continue. I just want her happy now but something has changed between us I can feel now feel bad for splitting her and the other person up. We both love each other but..... Edited March 28, 2017 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 5 threads merged ~6
Sweetfish Posted March 29, 2017 Posted March 29, 2017 Don't know if this is right place to write this. I just needed to get it off my chest me and girlfriend broke up lots over two and half years I was not very good bf. I new she loved me more then I loved her so abused that position. And then we had our baby daughter and again I was still walking out and stuff we tried to make it work again after one month break it lasted one day then she started texting and seeing a other person and started seeing him that when I realised how much I loved her so tried to get her back she left the new person and blocked him on everything but now we are back and texting I can not get this other man out my head am paranoid what is not like me being very full on with girlfriend we both had a talk and agreed that this could not continue. I just want her happy now but something has changed between us I can feel now feel bad for splitting her and the other person up. We both love each other but..... What in the .....
Pollyannaslim Posted April 3, 2017 Posted April 3, 2017 I am so sorry you are going through this and can only imagine how difficult it must be to try to protect your heart and care for your child. When we’re hurting, I am inclined to believe that the best thing we can do is find a loving support system to help us through the difficulties that life throws at us. Yes family and trusted friends are instrumental, but often times it takes someone from the outside to help us see things more clearly. He/she may be a therapist, or that individual might even be part of a loving community (i.e. church) either of whom will not only lend a compassionate ear, but quite possibly help you formulate a plan – to heal your heart AND take the necessary steps to do what is best for your child. If I may ask, have you considered talking with someone who can help you work through the hurt? I have faith in knowing that once you do that, you will find the strength you need to move on and create a life of peace AND happiness for you and your child. Yes… I am “old school” and do believe that one should do everything in their power to keep the family unit together, but there are circumstances where the best thing for all concerned is to choose a different path. I wish you well and will keep you, your ex and baby in my prayers!
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