marnus25 Posted March 15, 2017 Posted March 15, 2017 Ok I've been here went all the way forgave her 4 times for cheating on the same guy... I tried to have empathy for her actions due to the fact that her parents cheated on each other and they are still together...my parents were old school so never had that drama...but trust me if a person cheats once and you forgive them too soon they will see you as a doormat I was there I always give people the benefit of the doubt...don't do what i did it will only give you heartbreak...like honestly if someone cheats on you they don't respect you they consider their interests more important than yours and the relationship so please don't be an idiot...we were together for 3 years i was so bitter in the end i allowed such negativity in my life and it screwed me up it's been 3 weeks nc i feel amazing and don't look back anymore...Its scary I know it is to leave the relationship but pleaaaase please just go don't stay just leave... 1
confusedone19 Posted March 15, 2017 Posted March 15, 2017 Hey Marnus know how you feel i put up with it for 5 years and now im in such a low place.... should have walked along time ago but i didnt
Telemachus Posted March 15, 2017 Posted March 15, 2017 I get the point of your posting; it's a caution to others based on your experience. However, please consider what it means to forgive. You wrote that you "forgave her four time for cheating on the same guy." You probably meant "with" the same guy, not "on" the same guy. The way this is otherwise written you're the one she cheated on. That aside, forgiveness means that you forego the right to use something against her. It doesn't seem from your posting that you've actually forgiven her for anything, because you're still expressing bitterness about it. You can feel bitterness, but in describing and expressing her actions in a negative way, you're demonstrating that you haven't forgiven her. Forgiveness doesn't mean that you stay together; it means that you never bring it up again, not as an accusation or insult. You don't have to forget, but you do have to hold your tongue or refrain from tapping on those keys in any negative way when you feel the urge. That's forever and always.
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