Rocko73 Posted March 15, 2017 Posted March 15, 2017 Hi all, meet a girl last week, went back to her places that night and stayed the night as well as Friday night, we went away for the long weekend we had great time away, and we had sex a few times. I gat home on Tuesday night and get this SMS from her not sure how to take it or how I should reply to it. Hey sorry I was stuck working just about to crash have to be up 5.30 am will speak soon. Hey just wanted to say I've had awesome weekend away and so pleased we both got to get away from the rat race I think your going to fit in really well with everyone it's going to be great . I need you to know though I'm not looking for anything more than friendship at the moment I only got stopped seeing Shane a couple months ago and still getting over things the main issue was that he didn't want kids and I really do want a few of my own which makes it hard especially as I get older as many people don't want more or can't have more hope you understand and know I've had a great weekend but not in a position to get in a relationship Pls help
montie1 Posted March 15, 2017 Posted March 15, 2017 Its really how you feel. She clearly stated where you both stand. She does not want a relationship for whatever reason but she also had a great time with you. Hanging out and having sex and stuff like that. For me man when it comes to people and relationships of whatever magnitude being straight forward is always the best idea. If you have feelings for this woman which i take it you do, you tell her. Your just friends with benefits. If you want something more you tell her. She's already made it clear on where she stands. Now its your turn. You keep being that guy or if you have feelings towards her you let her know about it
d0nnivain Posted March 15, 2017 Posted March 15, 2017 If you are good with occasional companionship & sex, understanding that you are placeholder, a boy toy, somebody for her to have casual sex with but for whom she is probably not going to develop feelings, reply "no problem" and keep on doing what you are doing but don't even mention the word relationship. If you want a relationship & can see yourself falling for her, reply: "Hey, I had fun too but I could see myself falling for you. Since you don't want that, I'll bow out now. Best wishes." Personally I find it egregious that she would drop such an emotionally laden subject on you so casually & via text no less. This woman is clueless. 4
Tribble Posted March 15, 2017 Posted March 15, 2017 If you are good with occasional companionship & sex, understanding that you are placeholder, a boy toy, somebody for her to have casual sex with but for whom she is probably not going to develop feelings, reply "no problem" and keep on doing what you are doing but don't even mention the word relationship. If you want a relationship & can see yourself falling for her, reply: "Hey, I had fun too but I could see myself falling for you. Since you don't want that, I'll bow out now. Best wishes." I agree with this. It's all about what you want. Your options are FWB or part ways. There is no relationship here so if that is what you want, move on. She should have mentioned this before you slept together in my opinion. But I guess she may not have realised it was too soon after the end of her relationship. Regardless, she's told you the situation. Be thankful it didn't go on too long and you developed real deep feelings.
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