kittycute Posted March 14, 2017 Posted March 14, 2017 I met this guy on a dating website, he seemed very nice and very interested. The first few days of talking I agreed to meet up with him , we met up and had a great time I felt the chemistry and was excited to see more of him. The next week we had another date and everything seemed the same as before and he said how much of a fun time he had. He wanted to hang out more but our conflicting schedules made it a little difficult. We had planned to have another day this coming week but something changed. The night before we were talking normally then all of a sudden the next morning he was acting different, and saying he wanted to talk... which ended in him saying he doesn't know if we should continue to date etc. He was just getting to know me and we seemed to get along really well and He would tell me how much he liked me then all of a sudden this....i'm just really confused and hurt from the random rejection
BC1980 Posted March 14, 2017 Posted March 14, 2017 I met this guy on a dating website, he seemed very nice and very interested. The first few days of talking I agreed to meet up with him , we met up and had a great time I felt the chemistry and was excited to see more of him. The next week we had another date and everything seemed the same as before and he said how much of a fun time he had. He wanted to hang out more but our conflicting schedules made it a little difficult. We had planned to have another day this coming week but something changed. The night before we were talking normally then all of a sudden the next morning he was acting different, and saying he wanted to talk... which ended in him saying he doesn't know if we should continue to date etc. He was just getting to know me and we seemed to get along really well and He would tell me how much he liked me then all of a sudden this....i'm just really confused and hurt from the random rejection That kind of stuff happens in the early stages of dating, and there might not even be a real reason. It could be any reason under the sun, and you'll probably never know. Also, with online dating, a lot of people are dating multiple people, so there is a real possibility he met someone else. 7
Whodatdog Posted March 15, 2017 Posted March 15, 2017 I seems "all of a sudden" to you, but to him its just no interest. The first and even second date are to see if theres some interest, some chemistry. You can have a good time with someone without there being chemistry. It just wasnt there for him. 2
Author kittycute Posted March 15, 2017 Author Posted March 15, 2017 I seems "all of a sudden" to you, but to him its just no interest. The first and even second date are to see if theres some interest, some chemistry. You can have a good time with someone without there being chemistry. It just wasnt there for him. I understand that it was just odd to me since he was talking completely different to me the night before so there was no big sign of him not being interested until the next morning.
GoldSparkz Posted March 15, 2017 Posted March 15, 2017 It sounds like you are new to OLD. After a while you develop a thick skin and stuff like this doesn't bother you. Next time, try not to fall for the guy so soon because you don't know what's going on in his life. When you start fantasizing about the guy after the first date, you end up disappointed when you realise that the guy in the fantasy is not the guy in real life. 1
ChatroomHero Posted March 15, 2017 Posted March 15, 2017 ... which ended in him saying he doesn't know if we should continue to date etc. He was just getting to know me and we seemed to get along really well and He would tell me how much he liked me then all of a sudden this....i'm just really confused and hurt from the random rejection Why didn't you ask him why?
Larryville Posted March 15, 2017 Posted March 15, 2017 I understand that it was just odd to me since he was talking completely different to me the night before so there was no big sign of him not being interested until the next morning. I met this guy on a dating website, he seemed very nice and very interested. The first few days of talking I agreed to meet up with him , we met up and had a great time I felt the chemistry and was excited to see more of him. a lot of people are dating multiple people, so there is a real possibility he met someone else. So many people with OLD if they get into a stretch where that just don’t meet people who they click with evolve a sense of insecurity, the first person who seemingly pays any measure of (positive) attention to them they immediately put on a pedestal. First don’t do that. Second, look at the numbers of people who are in the game, you are simply one of many. Until it is crystal clear you are not. Have you not been with a guy who you were not quite into but you still tried your best to be nice, and polite too? People put way too much emphasis on a first chat, date and over emphasize the situation. If that is you, learn to get a better read on people AND learn to control your emotions… Emotional Intelligence Test. EQ reflects a person's ability to empathize with others: identify, evaluate, control and express emotions ones own emotions; perceive, and assess others' emotions; use emotions to facilitate thinking, understand emotional meanings.
angel.eyes Posted March 15, 2017 Posted March 15, 2017 Besides all the great reasons given by other posters, one more possibility: He learned something about you in your interactions that made him realize you were incompatible. Also, just because you thought there was chemistry doesn't mean he felt the same way. One guy pushed for a reason when I told him at the end of several dates that we weren't a match. I explained I didn't feel any chemistry, and he proceeded to give me a blow-by-blow of all the moments I seemed to really enjoy our dates. I'm very outgoing and a total extrovert. I can have a fun time with a tree stump. It doesn't mean there is any chemistry. (I didn't say that to him of course, I just reiterated that unfortunately there was no chemistry.) Don't have any expectations in early dating. At least in this situation, you became overly invested way too early in the process. 1
smackie9 Posted March 15, 2017 Posted March 15, 2017 He found someone else.....you would be a fool to think they are only focusing on you. He put it out there that he may have conflicting schedules probably because he's dating other women. It's not unusual for people to multi date. There have been many threads about this. He doesn't have to tell you that he is dating others, and doesn't have to tell you why he doesn't want to have another date. You have to grow a thick skin if you are going to use OLD.
Author kittycute Posted March 15, 2017 Author Posted March 15, 2017 Why didn't you ask him why? I just did recent and he said because 1 he just got out of a relationship and shouldn't have just jumped into dating because its not fair to me , also that I have too much school and so does he so we weren't able to make enough time to hang out and he didn't like that.
Author kittycute Posted March 15, 2017 Author Posted March 15, 2017 He found someone else.....you would be a fool to think they are only focusing on you. He put it out there that he may have conflicting schedules probably because he's dating other women. It's not unusual for people to multi date. There have been many threads about this. He doesn't have to tell you that he is dating others, and doesn't have to tell you why he doesn't want to have another date. You have to grow a thick skin if you are going to use OLD. actually he gave me a reason why not long ago so now i know, and no one said that he had to tell me if he was dating others and It wasn't even a question I asked.
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