palmsand Posted March 14, 2017 Posted March 14, 2017 I'm not sure when or how to broach the subject of friends or past dating with this new girl, we are both 23. First saw her a few days ago and later realized that she never mentioned any friends, activities with other people, past dating, etc. She did say she feels bad expecting the guy to pay for the drinks or meal on a date, but that's all. She is relatively new to the area, however. Maybe it's just too soon to go into stuff like this? I am quite inexperienced too I get the impression she is quite inexperienced with dating, for a few reasons. Her pof profile says longest relationship is less than a year, which could mean no relationships in the past(the case with mine). She is good looking in person but her pictures are terrible, honestly. I was kind of scared to meet her actually. We talked on the app for two weeks before meeting because she was sick so we had to push the date back a few times, and I noticed that she was only ever online to message me(apparently) or to read my messages, once or twice a day at most. Basically, I'm not sure how quickly to proceed with more communication, physical interaction, etc. I did hug her on the first date, she seemed a little surprised but didn't react negatively. I got her number and she has initiated conversation so she must have thought things went well. Do you agree with this assessment? Like right now I'm wondering if I should text her today, because she texted me yesterday? Not sure of what to say other than how was work? We have a date Wednesday but don't want to seem distant.
act00 Posted March 14, 2017 Posted March 14, 2017 I don't understand this waiting game around texts, and when to text and we have to wait X hours/days, etc. She texted you. Text her back. It's fine if you don't have long conversations. Asking how work went is fine. You can tell her when you see her, you're not huge on texting so that this doesn't become a "thing." You can also apologize and say, "I'm not a big texter," if she says anything via text. It sounds like you texted a lot on the app, and she was probably expecting the same level of talk with personal phone; what did you talk about on the app? Can this continue, though maybe not with the same frequency? It's never too early to ask about her life. Her family, brothers and sisters, where she's from, where she's lived, what she likes to do, and this will expand to other things to talk about. You may prefer to do this in person or on the phone instead of text, and that's fine. She liked you enough to text you, and there are no guarantees what your future is together, but if you like her back, don't play cat and mouse.
goldway90 Posted March 14, 2017 Posted March 14, 2017 It's okay to text just don't overdo it, you don't want be a texting buddy. Texting and calling is to set up dates. And please stop hugging and kiss the girl next time.
Author palmsand Posted March 16, 2017 Author Posted March 16, 2017 Saw her last night and surprisingly she just came out and answered my questions. She asked how long my last relationship was, I said I hadn't had one, she was surprised. She hasn't had one either. So I think that bodes well for us, being in the same boat and not judgmental of each other's inexperience. The 2nd date went very very well. With the texting I just don't want to come off as desperate. It's a fine line it seems.
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