guild11 Posted March 13, 2017 Posted March 13, 2017 Hey guys, I have a girlfriend for about 2 years, We work in the same place and we are both supervisors. She left the country for a month due to family related stuff. While she is away I got closer with one of my female subordinates. She is 23 and I'm 27, she is in relationship too but it seems like she tries hard to get my attention. I love my GF but I never was in long term relationship before her. Is it normal thing that passes? Is this how you end up cheating ?
Titanll Posted March 13, 2017 Posted March 13, 2017 Why? Scratching my head...I'm not even sure how you can be in love and crushing on another at the same time. Time to really think about what you are feeling...
somanymistakes Posted March 13, 2017 Posted March 13, 2017 Lots of people experience crushes on others while they're in a serious relationship, it is not unusual and does not mean that your love is inherently doomed. However, it can easily become a problem if you are not careful. If you are lonely and spending too much time with another woman, yes, it may develop into an emotional connection which eventually can lead to an affair. If you are not experienced in maintaining boundaries, you need to avoid being alone with this woman or giving her personal information about yourself (talking about your life and wishes and so on leads to bonding). Keep it professional.
Larryville Posted March 15, 2017 Posted March 15, 2017 Is it normal thing that passes? Is this how you end up cheating? Seriously!? Just curious if your current girlfriend was hung up on some other dude how would you feel? A crush… a brief but intense infatuation for someone, especially someone unattainable OR inappropriate. You have bigger issues, you have been in your current relationship too long. Do her a favor end it so you don’t waste HER time. If you are not experienced in maintaining boundaries… He’s not… I got closer with one of my female subordinates.
preraph Posted March 15, 2017 Posted March 15, 2017 You need to sit down a make a list of the boundaries you would hope your gf adhered to if the situation was reversed, and then follow that list and pull away from this work person.
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