greenbee81 Posted March 13, 2017 Posted March 13, 2017 Hello everyone, Just want to ask a question about this girl I'm dating. I met her online and she lives over am hour away. She's a great woman and we seem to have connected instantly. The 1st night we met, I visited her and she insisted I sleep over since we were drinking. We slept on the same futon cuddling and a few kisses, no sex. (Still no sex to this day, we've met 5 times). So she brought up that her husband (ex) was deported back to europe and was the reason for their divorce, I think she said they were married 8 years, that was 3 years ago. Couple nights ago, I spent the night again and we were kissing very pationately and afterwards in a stupid stupor from drinking I asked if we could be boyfriend and girlfriend and she said she wants to play it safe. I'm worried that maybe her ex husband will return to the states and I will be dropped like trash on garbage day. Am I being too quick? Should I be worried? I've never felt this way about a girl before and if I think it won't work out I will cease in meeting her to avoid a huge heartbreak. What should I do?
anzhoulau Posted March 13, 2017 Posted March 13, 2017 What does she mean by "play it safe"? Date casually?? And 5 dates is too soon to become bf/gf, you barely know each other's life.
Author greenbee81 Posted March 14, 2017 Author Posted March 14, 2017 Yeah I know I'm going pretty fast, but this whole thing is a rollercoaster. She's constantly telling me she can't stop thinking about me. I'm going to try to go slower, maybe text her less.. I don't want to lose this girl.
smackie9 Posted March 14, 2017 Posted March 14, 2017 The Ladder Theory - Ladder Manifestations Please have a look at this article and it will explain what is going on. 2
smackie9 Posted March 14, 2017 Posted March 14, 2017 Tip never ever sleep in the same bed unless sex is on the table.....cuddle sleep overs are for 12 year olds, not adults. 2
d0nnivain Posted March 14, 2017 Posted March 14, 2017 The sexless cuddle sleep over seems weird to me too. Her letting you crash on the couch while she went to her bedroom to prevent drinking & driving I can sort of understand but who gets so smashed on a 1st date off OLD that they can't safely get home? If you like her keep dating but stop trying to label things. The "talk" too early is a turn off. Wait a few months, evaluate the behavior then talk about what you are.
Author greenbee81 Posted March 14, 2017 Author Posted March 14, 2017 (edited) Tip never ever sleep in the same bed unless sex is on the table.....cuddle sleep overs are for 12 year olds, not adults. Well there was a lot of touching and heavy making out. Weird part is she wants me to meet her parents later. Maybe I'm someone she shows to her parents while she dates musicians Haha! Reminds of me of an American dad episode.. She's extremely gorgeous and makes 3 times what I do, so naturally I'm skeptical. Edited March 14, 2017 by greenbee81
smackie9 Posted March 15, 2017 Posted March 15, 2017 Ya it makes you wonder what's wrong with her to have lowered expectations....
Author greenbee81 Posted March 16, 2017 Author Posted March 16, 2017 Well she wants me to come over tomorrow and stay the night. All I know is right now I'm in heaven...
Author greenbee81 Posted March 17, 2017 Author Posted March 17, 2017 So I spent th4 night at her place again. This time was amazing, well it always is. But when we went to bed we started kissing as usual, but I was much more brave this time and started touching her and felt her body open up and just went for it. Incredible sex, very slow and sweaty. We talked afterwards til morning and says she wants to spend all her time with me and will move her work schedule around (she owns her own business). This morning we made love again, this time a lot faster. Don't think I'm worried anymore
coolheadal Posted March 18, 2017 Posted March 18, 2017 Not all about sex, there is a lot who don't want to start having it. When the time is right. What's wrong with the cuddle, snuggle, fondling.. Why does it have to mean otherwise. I say when the time is right you don't have to put sex on the table always. So many women just want to be loved and hold instead of being forced to have sex. Sleep together and enough the company. If more happens then let it, if not they wait it out.
Author greenbee81 Posted March 18, 2017 Author Posted March 18, 2017 Not all about sex, there is a lot who don't want to start having it. When the time is right. What's wrong with the cuddle, snuggle, fondling.. Why does it have to mean otherwise. I say when the time is right you don't have to put sex on the table always. So many women just want to be loved and hold instead of being forced to have sex. Sleep together and enough the company. If more happens then let it, if not they wait it out. That's how I feel too. You should read what other members on this thread have said...
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