Me [23 M] with my Girlfriend [21 F] Moving from dating phase to relationship

[Versacehottie]

I just found it extremely strange your "gf" would remove a comment so i asked her like a lot of people on these sites told me to do. I dont find that bad

 

Well that's the difference. Pretty much over time on LS people are kinda split almost down the middle. Some are really forthright and direct even at the expense of the relationship and advocate that approach. They have a more black and white view on how relationships would & should go down. Not necessarily wrong and certainly keeps things moving toward the goal of two people who can agree at the same time to want to be in a relationship together. Then, there are the others (which I would say I'm a part of) who kinda take it on a situation by situation basis and see things more in shades of grey. Like in your case, OP, I still see you at the point that you "needed answers from her" as in the middle of the dating game with her. You can keep playing the game or try to jump to the end. Jumping to the end may cause the end of the relationship but will relieve the anxiety you are feeling about the uncertainty of where "you stand". You might lose the relationship in the process with this behavior which most likely was seen as needy and insecure in your case.

 

I didn't read your thread until you had already asked her for an answer but if i had, I would have said to just chill out and see what happens. You can always ask for your answers at a point down the road; you can always decide you don't like what's going on and walk away. But if you are not ready to walk away (like you still like this girl a lot) and aren't sure of what's going on you just have to realize that pushing for an answer might get you a NO. So it's a bigger risk. I wouldn't blame everything on her. Some people also need to learn how to conduct themselves in a relationship (probably an ongoing process for just about everyone!). Have you ever thought that maybe one reason she didn't like the fact that you posted the comment on IG was that she thinks you have trouble controlling certain parts of your behavior and she just doesn't want the whole you and her thing to play out publicly until she has more information and security about how you conduct yourself? You wanted more security about how she feels ABOUT you and she wanted more security about YOU. It should make sense. googly heart eyes alone might have made me do the same thing about a new guy i was dating.

 

So i don't think it was absolutely 100% bad but not the best & maybe not handled the best by you. You could have still "asked" but in a way that doesn't put someone on the defense & unsure about you. The "way" matters much. Also just showing your hand that you are trying to claim her on social media & then get upset about it, reeks of insecurity. It's kinda a test on your end if you are honest with yourself about it, right? You probably were feeling that she wasn't as into it as you were so you put the comment on IG to see if you could stake your claim to her publicly. Then it didn't fly with her & now you are making that the issue when the real issue is that she probably isn't as into you as you are into her or is more secure about it than you are. Either way, it's silly to put so much emphasis on what happens on social media and let it creep into or destroy your relationship. but if you use it for tests it will do that. Needless to say, all the current events probably turned the tide for her where she doesn't sound into you very much at all to be honest. Im sorry

[Braytc]

Well that's the difference. Pretty much over time on LS people are kinda split almost down the middle. Some are really forthright and direct even at the expense of the relationship and advocate that approach. They have a more black and white view on how relationships would & should go down. Not necessarily wrong and certainly keeps things moving toward the goal of two people who can agree at the same time to want to be in a relationship together. Then, there are the others (which I would say I'm a part of) who kinda take it on a situation by situation basis and see things more in shades of grey. Like in your case, OP, I still see you at the point that you "needed answers from her" as in the middle of the dating game with her. You can keep playing the game or try to jump to the end. Jumping to the end may cause the end of the relationship but will relieve the anxiety you are feeling about the uncertainty of where "you stand". You might lose the relationship in the process with this behavior which most likely was seen as needy and insecure in your case.

 

I didn't read your thread until you had already asked her for an answer but if i had, I would have said to just chill out and see what happens. You can always ask for your answers at a point down the road; you can always decide you don't like what's going on and walk away. But if you are not ready to walk away (like you still like this girl a lot) and aren't sure of what's going on you just have to realize that pushing for an answer might get you a NO. So it's a bigger risk. I wouldn't blame everything on her. Some people also need to learn how to conduct themselves in a relationship (probably an ongoing process for just about everyone!). Have you ever thought that maybe one reason she didn't like the fact that you posted the comment on IG was that she thinks you have trouble controlling certain parts of your behavior and she just doesn't want the whole you and her thing to play out publicly until she has more information and security about how you conduct yourself? You wanted more security about how she feels ABOUT you and she wanted more security about YOU. It should make sense. googly heart eyes alone might have made me do the same thing about a new guy i was dating.

 

So i don't think it was absolutely 100% bad but not the best & maybe not handled the best by you. You could have still "asked" but in a way that doesn't put someone on the defense & unsure about you. The "way" matters much. Also just showing your hand that you are trying to claim her on social media & then get upset about it, reeks of insecurity. It's kinda a test on your end if you are honest with yourself about it, right? You probably were feeling that she wasn't as into it as you were so you put the comment on IG to see if you could stake your claim to her publicly. Then it didn't fly with her & now you are making that the issue when the real issue is that she probably isn't as into you as you are into her or is more secure about it than you are. Either way, it's silly to put so much emphasis on what happens on social media and let it creep into or destroy your relationship. but if you use it for tests it will do that. Needless to say, all the current events probably turned the tide for her where she doesn't sound into you very much at all to be honest. Im sorry

 

Appreciate the time for the advice. Thank you!

 

 

The thing is this wasnt in the middle of dating. Everyone here keeps saying as if we went on a date or two and im trying to claim her. She's been hinting in way more ways than 1 that we are together. Think of us as in a year long relationship and this is happening, okay? This isnt the dating phase anymore. Would you still say that what im asking for is a problem?

 

I wasnt thinking anything. Whenever we're together or not next to eachother she told me how she felt about me and us. Its not "i went to instagram to try and get attention" or something...shes basically mine. Then turns around out of no where and pulls this ****.

 

What you're not getting is this whole thing was set in stone. Then she keeps turning around and doing weird stuff like this that feels sketchy and flaky. It's not that i went out on a date with her and nothing was really set in stone and we were just casually dating, we've spent nights in bed together (just cuddling not sex yet), telling parents and friends about eachother, went to eachothers houses, then she was even bringing up sex with her in the near future just in a funny way but she was. Things were like moving forward....yet not moving forward. And idc what anyone says about that , thats playing games and screwing around with someone which isnt understandable to me at all.

Idk if all girls do this or what but if she thinks im going to let my life pass me by until she tells me a yes or a no even though its not even for sure a yes , nobody will ever in history be with her. Thats just completely unfair and ridiculous.

[Braytc]

I think she told you already why...she doesn't want you guys to be public and you to seem thirsty ie desperate. You don't fight that by pushing for more answers. Don't look at just her words, what she's callling you, but her actions. She's not acting girlfriendy..she's hiding you.

 

 

Did you wind up apologizing to her? I thought you think you did nothing wrong.

 

 

I think you really need to give her space and next time, don't push someone for answers as to why they pushing you away/keeping you at a distance. I don't think that ever ends well.

 

Im going to apologize to her tonight. Wanted to give her the day at least before i talk to her again. Idk if this is fixable but ill at least try. I cant help but laugh at this really, so unnecessary and makes it so much harder than it is. Even when she says " i THINK we should just be friends FOR NOW" Those keywords even say she doesnt want to get rid of me. If she wanted to get rid of me she would have stopped responding to my texts, removed me from friends on social media, blocked me or unfollowed me , and just cut off ties or something. It feels like shes still there but shes soo back and forth. Every week she seems different towards me

[Miss Spider]

Appreciate the time for the advice. Thank you!

 

 

The thing is this wasnt in the middle of dating. Everyone here keeps saying as if we went on a date or two and im trying to claim her. She's been hinting in way more ways than 1 that we are together. Think of us as in a year long relationship and this is happening, okay? This isnt the dating phase anymore. Would you still say that what im asking for is a problem?

 

I wasnt thinking anything. Whenever we're together or not next to eachother she told me how she felt about me and us. Its not "i went to instagram to try and get attention" or something...shes basically mine. Then turns around out of no where and pulls this ****.

 

What you're not getting is this whole thing was set in stone. Then she keeps turning around and doing weird stuff like this that feels sketchy and flaky. It's not that i went out on a date with her and nothing was really set in stone and we were just casually dating, we've spent nights in bed together (just cuddling not sex yet), telling parents and friends about eachother, went to eachothers houses, then she was even bringing up sex with her in the near future just in a funny way but she was. Things were like moving forward....yet not moving forward. And idc what anyone says about that , thats playing games and screwing around with someone which isnt understandable to me at all.

Idk if all girls do this or what but if she thinks im going to let my life pass me by until she tells me a yes or a no even though its not even for sure a yes , nobody will ever in history be with her. Thats just completely unfair and ridiculous.

 

Ohh no sex yet, but bring it up, Well, clears things up completely. For me, at least.

 

 

She's been stringing you along. Playing games, yep. Let me guess, you guys talk a lot and are very close..like BFFs. But she doesn't want to make it official, have sex(yet..but jokingly in the "near future"....), and blows hot and cold. She doesn't wanna make it official on FB because she's still looking for the guy she wants to be with. Im sorry but please move on.

[goldway90]

She honestly just texted me back.

Am i being too pushing in wanting to know what is going on between us? I think that is something i have the right to know. It feels like she's playing a lot of games lately.

I just asked her if there's something wrong.

She said "i just have a lot going on (my name)"

I asked her, again because im a good "boyfriend", if its something she's feeling or anything she can talk to me about. Seems like an okay thing to say right?

She said "i just rather keep to myself"

I said "Are you happy with me, is it concerning us?"

She said "i dont wanna talk about this right now"

And again, i feel i have a right for her to talk this out with me and communicate with me. So i said i'd like to know.

She says "Can you stop? You know what, i think we should just be friends for now"

I told her "can i stop? i think i'm being thoughtful trying to talk things out with you. Why do you say that though?"

Then she gave me which seems to be like an 11 year old immature text "im going to sleep. Night"

 

Dude you're needy like too much! You're not her therapist and she already told you to stop. When a woman tells you " i don't wanna talk about this right now" it means you're being so Annoying.

 

Do nothing, stop texting and let her come to you. The more you text and apologize the more she gets turned off and you'll get a permanent place in the friendzone.

[Braytc]

Ohh no sex yet, but bring it up, Well, clears things up completely. For me, at least.

 

 

She's been stringing you along. Playing games, yep. Let me guess, you guys talk a lot and are very close..like BFFs. But she doesn't want to make it official, have sex(yet..but jokingly in the "near future"....), and blows hot and cold. She doesn't wanna make it official on FB because she's still looking for the guy she wants to be with. Im sorry but please move on.

 

Well we both aren't very old, go to college and live at home with parents. You can't exactly just come over and have sex lol. We slept together a few nights. Not all girls ive dated in my life just jump into sex right off the bat, idk if you have.

 

Do you want to see the text messages for the past month between us?

[Braytc]

Dude you're needy like too much! You're not her therapist and she already told you to stop. When a woman tells you " i don't wanna talk about this right now" it means you're being so Annoying.

 

Do nothing, stop texting and let her come to you. The more you text and apologize the more she gets turned off and you'll get a permanent place in the friendzone.

 

Thanks for the advice. So in the future you think i should just stand down, and not say anything about a concern because relationships in 2017 arent built off of communication and talking to one another about a problem? Not trying to be negative or anything but that's what it sounds like.

 

So i should just do nothing for my future reference? I'm trying to learn from this. The problem is i dont want to not text her for days so then she thinks that i dont care about her.

[Versacehottie]

Appreciate the time for the advice. Thank you!

 

 

The thing is this wasnt in the middle of dating. Everyone here keeps saying as if we went on a date or two and im trying to claim her. She's been hinting in way more ways than 1 that we are together. Think of us as in a year long relationship and this is happening, okay? This isnt the dating phase anymore. Would you still say that what im asking for is a problem?

 

I wasnt thinking anything. Whenever we're together or not next to eachother she told me how she felt about me and us. Its not "i went to instagram to try and get attention" or something...shes basically mine. Then turns around out of no where and pulls this ****.

 

What you're not getting is this whole thing was set in stone. Then she keeps turning around and doing weird stuff like this that feels sketchy and flaky. It's not that i went out on a date with her and nothing was really set in stone and we were just casually dating, we've spent nights in bed together (just cuddling not sex yet), telling parents and friends about eachother, went to eachothers houses, then she was even bringing up sex with her in the near future just in a funny way but she was. Things were like moving forward....yet not moving forward. And idc what anyone says about that , thats playing games and screwing around with someone which isnt understandable to me at all.

Idk if all girls do this or what but if she thinks im going to let my life pass me by until she tells me a yes or a no even though its not even for sure a yes , nobody will ever in history be with her. Thats just completely unfair and ridiculous.

 

Well I would probably have a similar mindset as her so idk maybe it helps to listen to someone coming from her point of view.

 

Hmmmm, first of all, I thought I read that you had only been dating a month. To you, that means you are together and you liken it to a solid relationship--yet you haven't had sex. To her, that length of time and the circumstances obviously means something different (independent of her words because look at her actions). You are just at the beginning. Still figuring things out with her. She is not yet comfortable with certain things and you don't know each other fully yet.

 

You might think you were set in stone but she isn't feeling that you are. If you feel that stuff is sketchy and flakey from her, why are you still interested anyway? Then it is easy--state your position rather than trying to force the answer that you want from her (a yes we are together&i like you because basically you've been getting that according to you but it's not sufficient).

 

If you felt like she was playing games and it was ridiculous and unfair then why do you even care about her? Doesn't that cause you to lose respect for her character or not want to date her? idk, sounds a little possessive to me. I know some posts, including mine here, can put people on the defense--but look at what you are saying about what you think about her actions toward you and you actually have the whole matter resolved without anyone's help. The back and forth, hot and cold doesn't work for you. If you are sure your actions played no part in that, then you should be fine to rise above and walk away. good luck

[goldway90]

Thanks for the advice. So in the future you think i should just stand down, and not say anything about a concern because relationships in 2017 arent built off of communication and talking to one another about a problem? Not trying to be negative or anything but that's what it sounds like.

 

So i should just do nothing for my future reference? I'm trying to learn from this. The problem is i dont want to not text her for days so then she thinks that i dont care about her.

 

She already communicated to you that she doesn't want to talk about it! so you stop right there. Plus she said to wait a little until she feels comfortable to make the relationship public. Just chill and wait for her to be ready why the rush!

 

Stop asking her questions and creating arguments over nothing, it may look normal to you but for women that's super needy and annoying. Just hug her and give her head pat next time she tells you "i don't wanna talk about it".

 

You should do nothing, she friendzoned you so it's up to her to make it right. If you keep texting and chasing you'll push her away even more.

Edited March 14, 2017 by goldway90
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[Braytc]

She already communicated to you that she doesn't want to talk about it! so you stop right there. Plus she said to wait a little until she feels comfortable to make the relationship public. Just chill and wait for her to be ready why the rush!

 

Stop asking her questions and creating arguments over nothing, it may look normal to you but for women that's super needy and annoying. Just hug her and give her head pat next time she tells you "i don't wanna talk about it".

 

You should do nothing, she friendzoned you so it's up to her to make it right. If you keep texting and chasing you'll push her away even more.

 

It's just this is so hard to believe and make sense of after everything we've been through for the past month+ . I haven't apologized yet, not until tonight. Should i at least give her one of those messages? And then see how she reacts from there? Is there any hope from there or again, do i just go to a different girl lol. I liked her a lot, as a person, physically we liked eachother, and she lives really close to me. All of these things made me really want to at least see what happens, thats why i havent moved on.

[Braytc]

Well I would probably have a similar mindset as her so idk maybe it helps to listen to someone coming from her point of view.

 

Hmmmm, first of all, I thought I read that you had only been dating a month. To you, that means you are together and you liken it to a solid relationship--yet you haven't had sex. To her, that length of time and the circumstances obviously means something different (independent of her words because look at her actions). You are just at the beginning. Still figuring things out with her. She is not yet comfortable with certain things and you don't know each other fully yet.

 

You might think you were set in stone but she isn't feeling that you are. If you feel that stuff is sketchy and flakey from her, why are you still interested anyway? Then it is easy--state your position rather than trying to force the answer that you want from her (a yes we are together&i like you because basically you've been getting that according to you but it's not sufficient).

 

If you felt like she was playing games and it was ridiculous and unfair then why do you even care about her? Doesn't that cause you to lose respect for her character or not want to date her? idk, sounds a little possessive to me. I know some posts, including mine here, can put people on the defense--but look at what you are saying about what you think about her actions toward you and you actually have the whole matter resolved without anyone's help. The back and forth, hot and cold doesn't work for you. If you are sure your actions played no part in that, then you should be fine to rise above and walk away. good luck

 

Should i at least send her an apology and what i was thinking tonight? And then see how she reacts from there and if she doesn't just stop messaging her? Is there any hope from there or again, do i just go to a different girl lol. I liked her a lot, as a person, physically we liked eachother, and she lives really close to me. All of these things made me really want to at least try with her and see what happens, thats why i havent moved on.

[goldway90]

It's just this is so hard to believe and make sense of after everything we've been through for the past month+ . I haven't apologized yet, not until tonight. Should i at least give her one of those messages? And then see how she reacts from there? Is there any hope from there or again, do i just go to a different girl lol. I liked her a lot, as a person, physically we liked eachother, and she lives really close to me. All of these things made me really want to at least see what happens, thats why i havent moved on.

 

It's up to you, i think you shouldn't send the apology message because that's begging and pleading, also i'm sure you're going to say so many ***** and ruin any chance you have.

 

Then again it's your decision if you feel like your apology is going to fix the whole thing be my guest and go for it.

[Miss Spider]

Well we both aren't very old, go to college and live at home with parents. You can't exactly just come over and have sex lol. We slept together a few nights. Not all girls ive dated in my life just jump into sex right off the bat, idk if you have.

 

Do you want to see the text messages for the past month between us?

 

No I don't have sex off the bat...but you guys aren't in the "off the bat" stage, right? I also don't joke about it or allude to it without doing with a guy I consider my "bf", know very well, met parents, spend lots of time with, and am in a relationship that seems it's been practically like a year after only a month???

 

I don't engage in push-pull behaviors, flirt but pull away, deleting his messages off my FB when I consider him my bf...or hell, even a guy I'd potentially like to be my bf, but Inwanna take it slow...

 

I can think of one Great reason a girl would do that. To keep a friendzoned guy on the hook, while enjoying the attention and other perks of having a guy who likes you romantically stick around...

 

Continue to be steeped in your own delusion...but she told you last night she just wants to be friends. Even keeping you hooked in this faux bf situation has become to problematic for her than its worth at the moment

Edited March 14, 2017 by Cookiesandough

[Braytc]

No I don't have sex off the bat...but you guys aren't in the "off the bat" stage, right? I also don't joke about it or allude to it without doing with a guy I consider my "bf", know very well, met parents, spend lots of time with, and am in a relationship that seems it's been practically like a year after only a month???

 

I don't engage in push-pull behaviors, flirt but pull away, deleting his messages off my FB when I consider him my bf...or hell, even a guy I'd potentially like to be my bf, but Inwanna take it slow...

 

I can think of one Great reason a girl would do that. To keep a friendzoned guy on the hook, while enjoying the attention and other perks of having a guy who likes you romantically stick around...

 

Continue to be steeped in your own delusion...but she told you last night she just wants to be friends. Even keeping you hooked in this faux bf situation has become to problematic for her than its worth at the moment

 

A month isn't a long time, nor a short time. But it's enough time.

Again, do you want to see the text messages between us? She's been wanting me for a while now, and we just started getting closer. Girls actually do that? Seems like a waste of time and energy especially after all of that. You're saying i didn't like her romantically?

"I love being with you, nobody has ever touched me the way you do. You're the best"

"I could kiss you for hours. You're amazing"

(With my mom down the hall way, so no, you can laugh at us not having sex but i sure as hell know you wouldnt)

 

These are things people just say when you're together in the same bed?

[Braytc]

It's up to you, i think you shouldn't send the apology message because that's begging and pleading, also i'm sure you're going to say so many ***** and ruin any chance you have.

 

Then again it's your decision if you feel like your apology is going to fix the whole thing be my guest and go for it.

 

So now i either just sit here and not say anything and if she wants to make it better she will message me? I think i should at least apologize. Hard to make a choice

[clia]

Honestly, you are coming across as so insecure and needy that I'm not surprised she reacted how she did. You've been dating only a month! A month! That's nothing. It's not abnormal to me at all that she wasn't ready to start publicizing your relationship yet. You should've just backed off and given her some time.

[Braytc]

Honestly, you are coming across as so insecure and needy that I'm not surprised she reacted how she did. You've been dating only a month! A month! That's nothing. It's not abnormal to me at all that she wasn't ready to start publicizing your relationship yet. You should've just backed off and given her some time.

 

Thanks for the feedback!

So that's normal? I guess i've just been coming across some really different girls in my time.

 

I guess other people's perception of needy and insecure to me is professional, caring, and adult-like. I guess it's that bad to figure out how my mind should be thinking and if i should pursue other girls. Who knows. I really don't want to sound like this, but in light of that phrase... Do i like her a lot? absolutely. If she didnt want to play around i'd be with her 100%. Do i have 5 other girls waiting there for me. Yes.

 

I'll see what happens from here but if no oh well. Do you think i should text her and apologize tonight? Again, im just a professional person in a professional career and feel like that's the right thing to do but i guess this game might be different.

[goldway90]

She's not playing games! You are turning her off by being needy and insecure. Women HATE HATE this kind of things. If you have 5 girls waiting for you then go for them but with your needy behavior you'll always get rejected and end up in the friendzone.

 

I told you don't apologize but something is telling me you'd ignore that so again i hope it works for you man.

[Miss Spider]

A month isn't a long time, nor a short time. But it's enough time.

Again, do you want to see the text messages between us? She's been wanting me for a while now, and we just started getting closer. Girls actually do that? Seems like a waste of time and energy especially after all of that. You're saying i didn't like her romantically?

"I love being with you, nobody has ever touched me the way you do. You're the best"

"I could kiss you for hours. You're amazing"

(With my mom down the hall way, so no, you can laugh at us not having sex but i sure as hell know you wouldnt)

 

These are things people just say when you're together in the same bed?

 

 

Honestly, yes, girls do this. When a guy thinks you *like* like him when you don't, And he *like* likes you, it has soooo many perks. You can get him to do just about anything. So you kiss, throw a bone or two, even if you're that into the person.

 

 

And to be fair, guys do the same thing with often different motives. He'll take a girl he has little to no interest in out to dinner, hold her hand, call her beautiful and say he could "kiss her for hours", when he wants nothing more than to sleep with her and have her leave.

 

 

 

I never said you weren't into her, contrarily, you are WAY more into her than she is you. You're acting way too bf-y and it's making her very uncomfortable. She snapped.

 

I don't know if your neediness is what did it for this girl, but if you continue to be this needy so soon you may scare away a lot of girls who are genuinely interested in you.

[Braytc]

She's not playing games! You are turning her off by being needy and insecure. Women HATE HATE this kind of things. If you have 5 girls waiting for you then go for them but with your needy behavior you'll always get rejected and end up in the friendzone.

 

I told you don't apologize but something is telling me you'd ignore that so again i hope it works for you man.

 

I was just getting some other opinions because some people said apologize and some dont.

 

Maybe im just bad at this lol. "oh wow, there's a guy that i really think is good looking, i love spending time with him, ill invite him over to my damn house, ill tell everyone about him....but in the end i want nothing with him"

 

Just doesn't add up to me.

[Braytc]

Honestly, yes, girls do this. When a guy thinks you *like* like him when you don't, And he *like* likes you, it has soooo many perks. You can get him to do just about anything. So you kiss, throw a bone or two, even if you're that into the person.

 

 

And to be fair, guys do the same thing with often different motives. He'll take a girl he has little to no interest in out to dinner, hold her hand, call her beautiful and say he could "kiss her for hours", when he wants nothing more than to sleep with her and have her leave.

 

 

 

I never said you weren't into her, contrarily, you are WAY more into her than she is you. You're acting way too bf-y and it's making her very uncomfortable. She snapped.

 

I don't know if your neediness is what did it for this girl, but if you continue to be this needy so soon you may scare away a lot of girls who are genuinely interested in you.

 

I really appreciate you for that.

Maybe my perspective on this whole thing is off. That's why this seems to be happening often. Maybe i dont have patience or something.

Everyone wants a date with me, yet this happens. So something im doing is wrong. Sometimes, girls ive never even met invite me over to their house or their college dorm. And no, not just in a sexual way. The week long calling on phone, texting, getting to know eachother thing happens before that and we both know what we are looking for before hand.

[Miss Spider]

She may be trying the old "he's attractive enough, let's see if he grows on me" thing so many suggest around here lol. But if she was into you and considered you thirsty to put a message up and then deleted it. You guys have been dating for awhile. Not long, but long enough. I think your intuition is telling you she's not being 100% genuinel, brayc.

[Braytc]

She may be trying the old "he's attractive enough, let's see if he grows on me" thing so many suggest around here lol. But if she was into you and considered you thirsty to put a message up and delete it. I think your intuition is telling you she's not being 100% genuinely, brayc.

 

Talking with people about it , i guess i am. I want it to work so bad but my intuition knows that it might not be. So i get scared.

[goldway90]

I was just getting some other opinions because some people said apologize and some dont.

 

Maybe im just bad at this lol. "oh wow, there's a guy that i really think is good looking, i love spending time with him, ill invite him over to my damn house, ill tell everyone about him....but in the end i want nothing with him"

 

Just doesn't add up to me.

 

And you forgot that this good looking guy started asking questions like " is there anything wrong?" " is it about us" " Please talk to me".... even though he was told to stop and turned the girl off by being needy.

 

Seems pretty normal to me why you got friendzoned.

[Braytc]

And you forgot that this good looking guy started asking questions like " is there anything wrong?" " is it about us" " Please talk to me".... even though he was told to stop and turned the girl off by being needy.

 

Seems pretty normal to me why you got friendzoned.

 

The point im making is, so you think i just messed up down the line, specifically last night in asking her these questions? There was definitely something there i felt, but then she wasn't happy with that? I just thought that was the right thing to do, asking her how she's feeling. Guess i won't ever do that again.