IonaIrvine Posted March 12, 2017 Posted March 12, 2017 Way back in August whilst travelling in Europe I met a guy from New Zealand (I live in Scotland). To cut a long story short we spent a good couple of weeks having aholiday romance. When it came time for me to go home we discussed continuing things but agreed that realisitcally with the distance things wouldn't work. Once I got home we stayed in touch and spoke quite often. After three or four months i realised that i wasnt getting over him and still had quite strong feelings for him. Essentially i told him exactly how i felt and that i wanted to see if there was a way we could make it work. His response was to ignore me and block me on all social media. The time we had spoken before that just casually on the phone he had said that he did still like me , really cared about me and missed me so his response to just block me is so confusing . This was almost two months ago now and I'm struggling to get over him - i still think about him a lot and am searching for an answer. I'm just not sure what to do as it is ruining my chances with other people as I'm just comparing them all to him. Any ideas anyone?
Telemachus Posted March 15, 2017 Posted March 15, 2017 Blocking someone on social media takes a few seconds and costs nothing. It's as meaningless as adding someone in the first place. You were a holiday fling for him. I'm sure he does still like and think fondly of you, but that doesn't mean he wants anything to do with you. I still like and think fondly of my ex-wife, and I understand from old mutual friends that she still holds me in high regard and wishes me well. However, we moved on with our lives and haven't spoken since 1990, about two years after our divorce. We had no children together (we each had them separately later with new spouses), and neither of us feels any need to be in contact. Our contact ended naturally with the birth of her twins, and her thanking me for a new-baby gift. Neither of us knew that would be it, but for the past 26+ years, we just haven't felt a need to contact each other. My guess is that he either went back to someone or found someone new. He either had a girlfriend at home, or he has one now. Whether that's the case or something else, the relationship has simply run its course. One person can't hold it together - it takes two, and he isn't a willing participant.
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