ExposedBrick Posted March 12, 2017 Posted March 12, 2017 I'm not sure if there is a cookbook for communication or timing between dates. If I thought the first date went well, I usually ask if the girl made it home safely. There is almost a 100% correlation between a response to that and me getting a second date. Typically, in the next day or two I send some texts to arrange the next date logistically. I don't really delve into small talk early on. I also usually ask the women when they are available to gauge how soon they want to meet again, usually I find this to be anywhere from 4-7 days. I'm wondering if I don't really send additional texts during that time frame, does it seem like I'm not interested? When would you expect to start hearing from someone on a daily basis? Is having more than one date a week too much initially? I don't want to appear desperate or uninterested, so what's the best strategy?
smackie9 Posted March 12, 2017 Posted March 12, 2017 Too early to get all chatty....I believe the expectation after the first date is to set up a second one and confirm the date either the day before of the day of. Asking for a second date shows that you are interested.
d0nnivain Posted March 12, 2017 Posted March 12, 2017 Daily communication would be excessive this early on IMO. However there have been numerous people on these boards complaining that they didn't get daily messages even before the 1st date. My advice: do communicate but go at a pace that makes you comfortable. 1-2 dates per week in the beginning seems fine. Who has more time than that anyway? More seems excessive. Honestly, I don't think I saw my husband daily until he moved in 3 months before the wedding.
Titanll Posted March 12, 2017 Posted March 12, 2017 Sweet baby Jesus! Are you interested in her? Yes? Text her, call her, be respectful of her time but communicate with her. You don't want to appear desperate or uninterested? Then don't act like either...the appropriate amount of contact and number of dates per week is as much or as many as you two want. Anyone that gives advice inconsistent with that is foolish. Ok...I guess you want a "number". Try this: Treat her exactly the way that you want her to treat you. When she says "hey, you are texting and calling too many times per week" or when she says that she doesn't want to go out with you every night, well...there's your number. Until then, if she's into you, she will not give two ****s about how much attention you give her... 1
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