Risha7 Posted March 12, 2017 Posted March 12, 2017 After 1 week of NC,yesterday i noticed my bf played truth or lie quiz bout me in fb then in the evening i noticed he unfriended me makes me panic.i send him msg in WhatsApp and he said pls don't disturb me i have new gf i said then what bout me and i asked him to call.my guy is a very stubborn and he always talk with pride.yesterday in phone he was begging to me.he said pls don't ask me anything,just leave me like this. I asked then what bout me he said i don't know pls I'm happy like this just leave me.i asked what is this he just said i like other girl and i ask which girl he said someone it doesn't matter who i already show my mum i like her (which made me to doubt) we have been in love for 5 years his friend know bout us but he never open bout me to his family although his sister got suspision on me.how come he can tell to his family just in 2 weeks time yet he never even go back to his hometown.For me it looked like an excuse for break up and my friends felt the same because they know his character well.if its true why don't he just me a pic of him with the new so called gf n off me.and even if got new one he should be talking with pride isn't it? Like i got someone better ,things won't work with us ! Something like that he didn't even said the word break up and i just don't know . the thing he keep repeating was just leave me like this don't ask me anything.my friends said he is hiding something that maybe he think you should not know or he just confused with himself.For sure he is pulling away.i remember his words that he said nobody could replace me bout 4 months ago even last month he said i can never forget u.we were like meant to be .is it that much easy for him to move on from him to another relationship...
MidwestUSA Posted March 12, 2017 Posted March 12, 2017 Asking for 'space' is code for break up. His actions have confirmed it. Get back to NC, and yes, block him. 1
JohnnyStreet Posted March 12, 2017 Posted March 12, 2017 After 1 week of NC,yesterday i noticed my bf played truth or lie quiz bout me in fb then in the evening i noticed he unfriended me makes me panic.i send him msg in WhatsApp and he said pls don't disturb me i have new gf i said then what bout me and i asked him to call.my guy is a very stubborn and he always talk with pride.yesterday in phone he was begging to me.he said pls don't ask me anything,just leave me like this. I asked then what bout me he said i don't know pls I'm happy like this just leave me.i asked what is this he just said i like other girl and i ask which girl he said someone it doesn't matter who i already show my mum i like her (which made me to doubt) we have been in love for 5 years his friend know bout us but he never open bout me to his family although his sister got suspision on me.how come he can tell to his family just in 2 weeks time yet he never even go back to his hometown.For me it looked like an excuse for break up and my friends felt the same because they know his character well.if its true why don't he just me a pic of him with the new so called gf n off me.and even if got new one he should be talking with pride isn't it? Like i got someone better ,things won't work with us ! Something like that he didn't even said the word break up and i just don't know . the thing he keep repeating was just leave me like this don't ask me anything.my friends said he is hiding something that maybe he think you should not know or he just confused with himself.For sure he is pulling away.i remember his words that he said nobody could replace me bout 4 months ago even last month he said i can never forget u.we were like meant to be .is it that much easy for him to move on from him to another relationship... **a little chuckle at bold text above** I know this is rough for you, but you do have to realize he has moved on to greener pasture. The guy obviously has ZERO respect for you, so flush him down the toilet like you would any other piece of shiit. Respect and love yourself so that others will respect and love you just the same. Cut all contact, block him from all communication and give yourself time to grieve the loss. BTW, there is no such thing as "meant to be", there are only choices, which ultimately decide our fate. He made a choice to leave you in the cold with utter disregard for your feelings. Have some respect for yourself and move on with your life. Read up on narcissistic personality. 1
basil67 Posted March 12, 2017 Posted March 12, 2017 Let's backtrack a bit. What led to you being in NC with your boyfriend? And why did you still view him as your boyfriend if you weren't talking to each other?
Author Risha7 Posted March 12, 2017 Author Posted March 12, 2017 Let's backtrack a bit. What led to you being in NC with your boyfriend? And why did you still view him as your boyfriend if you weren't talking to each other? basil67 he wanted space about 10 days ago and yesterday he unfriended me and said to just leave him and go that he is happy now
Author Risha7 Posted March 12, 2017 Author Posted March 12, 2017 **a little chuckle at bold text above** I know this is rough for you, but you do have to realize he has moved on to greener pasture. The guy obviously has ZERO respect for you, so flush him down the toilet like you would any other piece of shiit. Respect and love yourself so that others will respect and love you just the same. Cut all contact, block him from all communication and give yourself time to grieve the loss. BTW, there is no such thing as "meant to be", there are only choices, which ultimately decide our fate. He made a choice to leave you in the cold with utter disregard for your feelings. Have some respect for yourself and move on with your life. Read up on narcissistic personality. Johnny yes i understand i still couldn't believe he left !
Bromeo Posted March 12, 2017 Posted March 12, 2017 Risha, I went through almost the same thing. My ex for 2 years told me so in love, I was the one, she'd never leave... Then she left. Three times. And the last time she never said we were broke up. This, among her other antics took me a very long time to come to terms with. The previous posters are correct. It shows cowardice, and a lack of respect for your feelings. Please don't contact him further. Sort yourself out, then decide what to do about him. 1
Author Risha7 Posted March 13, 2017 Author Posted March 13, 2017 just fyi, they never use the term "break up." preraph but why ? im just fed up with this guy! i dont think he have a new gf but maybe he is looking into someone else but im very sure he is now more to enjoy his life 'freedom' maybe :/
JohnnyStreet Posted March 14, 2017 Posted March 14, 2017 Johnny yes i understand i still couldn't believe he left ! Believe it my friend! You're hurting right now and are probably re-playing every moment in your head, thinking about the should have's and the could have's. Don't blame yourself. People like him have no regard, nor do they care for anyone but themselves. Do a 180 and run as fast as you can. Be happy that you didn't end up with this emotional wreck! Can you imagine being married to this guy and putting up with that sort of narcissistic behavior day in and day out? Yeah, didn't think so
PegNosePete Posted March 14, 2017 Posted March 14, 2017 preraph but why ? It doesn't matter why. If it looks like a duck and it quacks like a duck, it doesn't need a sign around its neck saying "I am a duck" for you to know that it's a duck.
basil67 Posted March 14, 2017 Posted March 14, 2017 basil67 he wanted space about 10 days ago and yesterday he unfriended me and said to just leave him and go that he is happy now Oh dear. Wanting space is 3/4 of the way to a breakup. Don't accept a boyfriend who doesn't want to have you around.
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