daddyslilqt3 Posted July 26, 2005 Posted July 26, 2005 Ok first I am sorry if it is long but that is only because it is divided into little paragraphs and spaced so please read this and give me input. Everyone remembers or knows what it is like to have a crush on someone in high school and how hard it is to make something happen so pleaseeeeeee give me your advice. Ok so there is boy that I like alot. We have known eachother for years because due to being in high school we have gone to school together and have been on the same bus since 7th grade. We are now both going to be seniors. The thing is that I never liked him. I always just considered him an accquantince and would talk to him from time to time or when I bumped into him. It was always a casual conversation. Recently I changed my mind about him and have a full blown out crush on him. It's pathetic because I never got nervous talking to him before but now I always do. I had liked him towards the end of the year but never had a humongous crush. Then last month I was at a restaurant with some of my friends and had gotten up with one of them to go to the bathroom (because girls always go in pairs lol) and so on the way back to the table I saw him. I just said hi and was getting ready to turn around and walk back when he started up a conversation. I was actually a little suprised. He just asked how I was and all that stuff and then we talked about him working there. I sat down at the table and he was still standing there talking to me. Then his boss saw him just standing around and so the kid that I like got nervous and was like "i'd sit down and talk but my boss just saw me so i'll talk to you later." I said ok and that was it. After he left though my friends were in shock about how much he talked to me because he is naturally a quiet and shy kid. They started teasing me that he liked me because they have never heard him speak two words to any of them and one of them had been in his class. I was even a little shocked but in a good way. Then the next time I saw him there which was the week after I felt someone staring as I was getting change at the bar with a friend and when I turned around it was him leaning against the wall. I just smiled and said "hey whats up?" It was just a quick achknowledgement and then I left. The next two times were like that. Then yesterday I was back at the restaurant with my family. I saw him and just said hey and smiled. He did the same. And every time we passed we just looked at eachother or smiled. I figured maybe if I got away from my family he would come over so when my younger sibling said they had to go to the bathroom I offered right away to take him because then it gave me a reason to wait outside. We got up and I waited outside. I stood there casually and waited. He actually came up to me. First he came my direction and I just smiled and he smiled and I figured that was it but he stopped and went into conversation. He asked about my summer and we talked for like 5 minutes and then he said "ok i'll talk to you later I gotta get back to work" and we just smiled and said bye and that was it. See the thing is that I don't want it to just be a hey/bye/smile thing or to just see him when I am at the restaurant that he works at. I really like him. The problem is that i'm not sure if he likes me. From what I said do you think he seems like he could be interested or am I making it seem like more than it is and overanalyzing? Also remember that he is extremely shy and quiet. So even if he was interested I don't know if he would make a move or show it. How do I get it to go further than just seeing or talking to eachother at where he works? I would love to pursue this and maybe have it go somewhere. Do you think he likes me or is it too casual to tell? Please someone help me!!!
Merin Posted July 26, 2005 Posted July 26, 2005 Seems like he's interested to me Only way to be sure.. next time you're at the restaurant he works in, write your number down and give it to him.. tell him you'd like to get together sometime when he isn't at work. Good Luck
Zephyr45 Posted July 26, 2005 Posted July 26, 2005 Heh... there's a really easy way to get to the bottom of this. The next time you see him, instead of just doing the whole hi/bye/smile thing, ask him if he would like to go out with you at sometime someplace, and you'll have an answer and won't have to worry about posting follow up essays on whether you think he likes you or not. You can say something like "Hey some friends and I are going to ____, would you like to join us?" or make it a one-on-one activity. Do you know what he likes to do? Ask if he would like to play tennis, or go to some concert on the weekend. If he's a shy/quiet guy in general, and I'll assume nice all around, probably the best and most clear thing you can say to him would be something like this next time you see him. "Hey (name)! I always seem to run into you but we never really have much time to talk. Wanna get some ice cream after you get off work? I want to catch up / hear about your (something you've breifly discussed but not in detail) without your boss interrupting us all the time!" Then give him your number or ask for his or finalize the plans right there. Whatever happens, just make it fairly obvious you are interested. Look how it's eating you up inside that you don't know for sure if he is interested in you. He might be feeling exactly the same way! It's a two way street, it doesn't matter who initiates it, but someone is going to have to do it. It might as well be you! Good luck!
AMBOMB1 Posted July 26, 2005 Posted July 26, 2005 Based on what you've written, it seems like he likes you He started the conversation with you despite his shyness. He was staring at you. He came up to you when you were outside the restaurant.
blue16 Posted July 26, 2005 Posted July 26, 2005 Agreed. The fact that he initiates convo/is around you a lot usually means he likes you. That's his way of showing he is interested. But given the fact you said he is 'shy'...you will have to make the first move. As the other posters said, when you ask him out make sure to be fairly direct so there is no chance he misses your signals. Please ask him out, I've seen (and been a part of) like a million stories like this...where two people like each other but don't have the courage to ask each other out and it leaves them both with nothing. You can do it, he likes you.
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