mmx Posted March 11, 2017 Share Posted March 11, 2017 A week ago I created an account on the dating app bumble. I connected with a guy and he responded maybe once or twice a day. Basically just responding to my questions. He said that I seem like a nice person which was a plus. A few days ago it took him 2 days to respond and he said sorry and that he was busy with work. I told him that is was all good and responded to his message. Then I responded to his question yesterday, but he hasn't responded back. If I guy is interested shouldn't he be wanting to respond more frequently? Especially in the beginning? If he doesn't respond by tomorrow should I message him again? Link to post Share on other sites
chphan Posted March 11, 2017 Share Posted March 11, 2017 You pretty much answer your own question. It works both ways for female or male. Lack of quick response means lack of real interest. Expect that a lot from online dating where the first response back and forth might be good and quick but as days go by you get the fade out and no response. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Larryville Posted March 11, 2017 Share Posted March 11, 2017 Yes you do exactly what most people do when they send somebody a message you assumed that you were the only person on the entire planet that has any interest in that individual and that they should contact you immediately doesn't work that way not in real life and not even on a dating site Link to post Share on other sites
Author mmx Posted March 11, 2017 Author Share Posted March 11, 2017 Do you think he'll respond? If not, should I message him again? Link to post Share on other sites
chphan Posted March 11, 2017 Share Posted March 11, 2017 Do you think he'll respond? If not, should I message him again? I'm guessing you must be a noob to online or something to ask that. The guy could be a fake, catfish, cheater, or just more interested in answering and talking to other girls. He is playing the field just like a girl is playing the field when she gets 100+ messages. If you are talking to him and thinking he's attractive, don't you think other girls are thinking the same and trying to talk to him as well. His lack of response already tells you something. You can't take a hint? Or do you need him to totally ghost you and fade out before the light bulb turns on. I can tell you as a guy that if you are super attractive, I don't take 2 days to respond no matter how busy I am. I can spare that 1 min to respond to show you that I'm still interested in you. Link to post Share on other sites
CaliforniaGirl Posted March 11, 2017 Share Posted March 11, 2017 I would not message him again. He knows you're interested and that's enough. Wait to see if he approaches you. If he is interested, he will. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted March 11, 2017 Share Posted March 11, 2017 When you're talking about contact via dating apps, then it's either lack of real interest OR a married or taken person who has to sneak. Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Spider Posted March 11, 2017 Share Posted March 11, 2017 Yes if he was interested he would respond. Messaging him again is just needy. If he's interested he would be talking to you consistently and then ask you out 1 Link to post Share on other sites
palmsand Posted March 12, 2017 Share Posted March 12, 2017 Wait for him to respond, but don't be surprised if he never does. I just met a girl in person who was sending one message every 2-3 days and things went well. She has been very busy lately. If his communication is consistently slow but the content still positive, I would say he is busy(could be good or bad reason) and not uber-focused on OLD in general, but may still like to meet you. Link to post Share on other sites
Grey40 Posted March 12, 2017 Share Posted March 12, 2017 (edited) Yeah, this is just a common thing with OLD. It doesn't even mean he's not interested, but other things could have come along--work, school, other girls etc. and he just forgot to open the app, I've been guilty of that myself..I've even forgot about girls I was really attracted to. Usually it's because I have a bunch of matches and I'm already in the process of locking up a date or two, that the other people have to be put on the backburner. It's unfortunate but it's how OLD operates. I'd wait a few days and then message again. As a guy, I like when girls do that because it shows a lot of interest. Girls flake on our dates all the time, or stand us up or don't get back sometimes, and maybe YOU can be the girl to slide into that empty slot for Friday or Saturday night. For example, last weekend I had a date scheduled for Saturday night, I confirmed the time I'd meet her the place earlier on in the morning, and she never responded or reached out to verify, so I knew she bailed and just didn't have the decency to come up with an excuse, or something came up. Either way, a girl on Tinder messaged me the same morning, and it was her saying "Hey, just checking to see if you got my first message! Sorry to bother you." And I was really happy to hear from her, because I DID remember her and actually wanted to go on a date with her as well, but was going to wait until the following week. Well, asked her what she was doing, she said she could make time that night to hang out, and we did. So there you go. Edited March 12, 2017 by Grey40 Link to post Share on other sites
GoldSparkz Posted March 12, 2017 Share Posted March 12, 2017 Just by sending him a first message, you're telling him that you're interested. So please don't double message him to get his attention. If he was that interested, he would find time out of his busy schedule to message you. You will most likely come across as desperate if you message him again. I would try messaging other guys at this point. Link to post Share on other sites
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