Box Posted March 11, 2017 Posted March 11, 2017 I like this girl and she likes me back; she has been waiting for me to ask her out and I haven't. I think she is losing interest, what should I do?
d0nnivain Posted March 11, 2017 Posted March 11, 2017 Really what are your other options . . . continue to dither until you are sure she has moved on? Fortune favors the bold. Ask her out already. 3
mikeylo Posted March 11, 2017 Posted March 11, 2017 What are you waiting for ? For another guy to ask her out ? 3
todreaminblue Posted March 11, 2017 Posted March 11, 2017 why havent you asked her already and waited until you feel she has lost interest? what were you waiting for? for her to lose interest? did you have a better option or feel no interest back? are you shy? testing her staying power ? you knew she had interest so why didnt you? what is your mindset for not asking her.... whatever that mindset is..change it ...and ask her like you should have....take the risk...and i wish you well........deb 1
Author Box Posted March 11, 2017 Author Posted March 11, 2017 why havent you asked her already and waited until you feel she has lost interest? what were you waiting for? for her to lose interest? did you have a better option or feel no interest back? are you shy? testing her staying power ? you knew she had interest so why didnt you? what is your mindset for not asking her.... whatever that mindset is..change it ...and ask her like you should have....take the risk...and i wish you well........deb How do I overcome the shyness?
smackie9 Posted March 11, 2017 Posted March 11, 2017 You practice on girls that don't intimidate you. Chatting up a girl you don't find attractive doesn't obligate you to date them.....this will give you more confidence.
todreaminblue Posted March 11, 2017 Posted March 11, 2017 (edited) How do I overcome the shyness? how i overcome shyness is to just do what i have to do in spite of it.....i fugre out that my shyness is stopping me from truly living......and i ask ......when i was younger it was crippling shyness....it stopped me from acting....heres an example on holidays i would stay with my nanna.....there were this group of kids who would be having a holiday next door and they would play cricket on the beach at the back of my nannas house ..... i would sit on the hill and watch them hoping they would see me and ask me to play too sometimes it would be for hours..i would get sunburnt.......too scared they would laugh at me and reject me i would just wait for them to ask me.....if my grandpa were alive he would have grabbed my hand taken me down the beach said my granddaughter wants to play with you,thats why she sits here every day watching you play, her name is debbie keep an eye out for her on this hill because she will never ask you to play....but my grandpa had died ...so i sat there......for days ..day after day...... after a while just days before they were due to leave ..the oldest boy yelled out to me hey ...would you like to play...i didnt need asking twice...i launched myself off that hill....and he asked my name...and till they left ...i got to play cricket ...he said to me you should have just joined in ........every day......i wasted a lot of time sitting on that hill....waiting.....they would have welcomed me ..i allowed my shyness to cripple me......now as an adult.... whenever i am scared or shy i still ask ...for anything.....i know what not asking feels like...my grandpa told me.....before he died....that i should always tell people how i feel never let it go unsaid.....and i follow that...no matter rejection ..or how my knees shake or how shy i feel...... try to think about what it will be like to never know... to watch from the hill....and never knowing if you could have been having the best time with someone you care about who cares for you..or feeling happy and so glad you put your shyness away just for that time.......beats sitting on the hill getting sun burnt and anxious...waiting...with your bum going numb .....smilin...nike said it...just do it..dont let your shyness dictate your possible happiness...or stop you living..... you know what...it feels even more special when you do ask......because it takes all your strength to just do that asking...it means more to you.......that is what will build your confidence...asking regardless..dont practice on people its a waste of time/..go for the source...always.......thats coruage right there..... to chase your desire....your dreams...your hopes...your girl..not playing pretend with other girls....do the real thing..its the source or object you are shy about...or situation..face her..stand up..... that is the only way.........of dealing with shyness....is dont let it go unsaid to the person you are feeling for....the source of your shyness........deb Edited March 11, 2017 by todreaminblue 1
Grey40 Posted March 12, 2017 Posted March 12, 2017 How do I overcome the shyness? The same as jumping off a diving board, or killing a spider, or climbing a hill...you just have to do it. Once you do, you'll realize it was really stupid to be scared, because it's no big deal at all. You can ask her out over a phone call or even via Text if you can't muster up courage in person. It's much more likely that she "flakes" though if you do it through the phone. If you can ask her out in person, nothing is better. 1
GoldSparkz Posted March 12, 2017 Posted March 12, 2017 Have you tried practicing on your female friends? This could be one way to of overcoming shyness. If you don't have any female friends then make them. Get out and join groups - preferably groups with a higher ratio of women. Once you get used to talking to women, you'll gain more confidence.
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