Angel29 Posted March 10, 2017 Posted March 10, 2017 I fell for a guy at a walking group a few years ago. There was a mutual attraction but people in the walking group did everything they could to make sure we did not date. At the time I thought these people were friends and were trying to protect me. It turns out some of the men lied as they wanted to date me and some of the women lied as they wanted to date him. Over the years I have seen him but many times I have struggled to make eye contact or speak to him as though he isn't there as I never knew what was true. I was only temporarily not speaking to him at the time as I needed to gather my thoughts but then it got harder for me to make the first move and speak to him. I know he still likes me and he would love to date me. Some of his friends who I know and are not part of the trouble making walking group have told me this and I know as he recently has tried to speak to me and said hello and asked how I was and I said hi but then he had to go to a birthday party. I just feel so much heartache as I know we would make such a great couple but I don't even know how or what to say to him.
smackie9 Posted March 10, 2017 Posted March 10, 2017 Hi! how are you doing! *hug*, you are looking great *smile*.....not that hard. 3
CptInsano Posted March 10, 2017 Posted March 10, 2017 Or the no-brainer opener that work for most guys: "Oh, you're working out?" :laughs: But seriously, some things cannot be inferred. It doesn't matter what other people say about him, you know absolutely nothing until you talk to him, as you can never know the intentions of those around him, or how well they understand that guy. It takes more than eye contact and a quick hello, unfortunately. There is always a strong pull towards the status quo, to let complacency win. It takes will and effort to make things happen. 1
Ieris Posted March 10, 2017 Posted March 10, 2017 I know he still likes me and he would love to date me. Then what are you waiting for?! Get right to it! Don't think too much and just say hi 1
d0nnivain Posted March 10, 2017 Posted March 10, 2017 Stop listening to other people. As you have learned most have ulterior motives. When you see him say hello & be friendly. Flirt. The rest should come naturally. Whatever you do, do not discuss this background that you shared with us with him. 1
act00 Posted March 11, 2017 Posted March 11, 2017 Hi! how are you doing! *hug*, you are looking great *smile*.....not that hard. You don't even have to include the hug (I love the hug) if it's too much too soon, but just be friendly. "Hi! How are you? Are you still hiking the Grand Canyon?" Just be friendly and the other pieces will fall into place. Scurrying off really isn't a good approach. Something better, "I really wish I could chat, but I have to go to a birthday party. Let's catch up later." (possibly exchange numbers or agree to meet/chat/text). I really hope you've found a new walking group. They sound childish. 1
GoldSparkz Posted March 12, 2017 Posted March 12, 2017 People cannot stop two people from talking to each other. They are not military police! First off, give him your number and tell him to call you, and second, leave this obnoxious walking group and find another one where people actually respect one another.
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