smackie9 Posted March 10, 2017 Posted March 10, 2017 An interested man wants to see you more than once a week, an interested man will contact you daily, an interested man is interested in you and wants to get to know you, an interested man wants to spend time with you, an interested man will buy you flowers, an intererested man doesn't waste time letting you know how much he cares about you, etc. Step one: date those who treat you the way YOU want to be treated. If you have to tell them how to date you, you are winning a losing battle. 1
d0nnivain Posted March 10, 2017 Posted March 10, 2017 It's pop psychology so don't take it too seriously but read a book called He's Just Not That Into You. It may help you differentiate between interested vs willing to go along because you made it so effortless. 3
Tressugar Posted March 10, 2017 Posted March 10, 2017 I disagree. You can see/date a person once or maybe twice a week and have it develop into a relationship. But both individuals must be on board. 1
Chris2016 Posted March 11, 2017 Posted March 11, 2017 Yes. OP, have standards and expectations. For yourself, for the guy. Even if you don't have better prospects, or no other prospects. Don't beat yourself up. Learn from this. Can I ask if he's out of your league? Can you, or do you, like the guys that like you back? Kind of going along the lines of smackie, date those who treat you the way you wanted to be treated.
hercules22 Posted March 11, 2017 Posted March 11, 2017 nowdays best to drop contact asap if they are not acting interested easier to move on aswell as u never really got close with them what the point if they dont show much interest 1
Miss Spider Posted March 11, 2017 Posted March 11, 2017 Join the club. There is punch and cookies in the back.
CptInsano Posted March 11, 2017 Posted March 11, 2017 [...] What should I expect from the man I am dating. You can expect consistent behavior. Some men are busier than others, some travel for business, other are divorced and have kids. The frequency of dates may vary. But a man who is interested does what he says. If he plans a date for Tuesday, he will follow through. He will also suggest things to do. He may not buy you flowers, but he may buy you new brake pads and install them. Men express their love differently, don't look for any particular signs, other than that he is consistent, direct in his communications, and that there is a positive progression in the relationship. Am I giving off signs that are wrong? Can't tell from afar, sorry. 1
stillafool Posted March 11, 2017 Posted March 11, 2017 When I made it clear that I wasn't willing to carry on seeing him on a Saturday night unless things change, he slowly withdrew. He started texting me less and less each day until it just stopped one day. . Why can't you go out on Saturday nights?
Eternal Sunshine Posted March 11, 2017 Posted March 11, 2017 I feel your pain. The main things you should be looking for is consistency and escalation. Consistency is extremely important. Some guys move slow. Some guys are busy with work or children. Seeing you once a week is fine at first. If a guy is a slow mover, then he should be a slow mover in words as well. What I find a big red flag is a guy who keeps showering you with constant compliments and words of affection, yet barely makes an effort to plan seeing you once a week. That's not a slow mover, that's a BS-er. He should also follow through with what he says he is going to do - no last minute cancellations or frequent change in plans. He should be taking you out and/or doing activities, especially in the first 3 months of dating. Just hanging out at each other places is a bad sign. Escalation: you should feel even within 2-3 months that your relationship has progressed. You should be much closer, know him better and at this point (sans children) spending regular weekends together should start. He should be integrating you into his life. Hanging out with his friends, some family members, making future plans. This is usually a time when you should have a "check-in" talk just to make sure that you are on the same page regarding the relationship and feelings for each other. Also, very importantly, watch how you feel. A new relationship will always add some anxiety at first. But if you find yourself feeling anxious, annoyed and frustrated more often than not, it's a bad sign. It's a sign that your needs are not being met. There should be smooth flow of things. Instead of forcing yourself to lower your expectations, have a serious talk and if you can't get on the same page, have the strength to walk away. The sooner you do this, the sooner you will free yourself up for a new prospect that may actually be right for you.
Titanll Posted March 11, 2017 Posted March 11, 2017 The sad thing is that OP is going to meet a man that gives her everything that she says she needs and then in a couple of months, he will be here posting about he always meets the "one" then they lose interest after he invests so much in the relationship. You need to figure out what you want and expect from a relationship and simply scotch your heels and quit settling for less. 1
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