popular girls and nerds?

[GunslingerRoland]

Alright, since you've joined the board 2 months ago with a post with these words:

 

"I have issues with communicating with women...

Sometimes I cry, because I never had a relationship. "

 

You've created posts, about wanting to date your cousin's ex wife. Some girl from high school, who has a kid even though you don't like kids, another girl from high school whose only interaction you've had since high school is stiffing her on a tip when she served you and you both made no reference to knowing each other, and a girl at college, who you've said you stare at but had no interaction with.

 

You've also made other threads about how upset you are that women only go for mean good looking guys, instead of not as good looking, nice guys.

 

You've received advice again and again, that you need to talk to women if you want to learn how to talk to them, and eventually get a girlfriend.

 

So, I'm sorry but I'm not buying your happiness about your situation in life. I do think you are trying to convince yourself of that, because you have a lot of fear of trying anything new though.

[Timshel]

Has the thinking of "popular" and "nerdy" gotten any better? I mean are more women more susceptible into going out with nerdy guys and vice versa?

 

When I was in highschool I had a crush on a quiet dude. I was a cheerleader and hung out with the subsequent crowd. I'm going to note here that it was a small private school with a graduating class of 80 and parents who demanded excellence. In other words, we were pretty straightlaced.

 

Anyway, brad, my friends had the idea that the QB and I would make a super cute couple and though I had a crush on a 'nerdier' dude, gave in to peer pressure.

 

For the one day that I was half of a 'power' couple, walking along with the posse, adoration and tatatada all around! Swinging arms/holding hands...someone said...hey, watch out! Right before my body slammed into a light pole.

 

That was our day in the sun. He's a friend of mine to this day but I ended up losing my virginity to the dude who warned me about the light pole, my original (nerdy) crush.

 

Men and women are attracted to each other or not. It's organic.

[Jj66]

I was called a nerd countless times in high school. I did ok with the brainy top 10 in the class types but not so much the cheerleader types. One day one of my classmates told me a cheerleader was interested in me. I didn't believe him. Just laughed it off. Years later at a class reunion I found out from her that it had been true. Lol.

 

Nowadays, being intellectual is in, especially if you are successful. My current gf was a majorette in high school. I never would have dreamed of dating a majorette. I've also noticed a lot of the popular boys didn't age well.

 

Amazing how things change over time.

[MidwestUSA]

Wait a minute ,I shouldn't talk about being petty or shallow. I mean I did stiff Brooke out of a tip and I think I told you all about that, because she wouldn't talk to me. It made me feel good driving home, but anyways, yea.

 

I remember that. That entire thread should tell you that you have a problem with social skills. It has nothing at all to do with being a nerd.

[bradt93]

I remember that. That entire thread should tell you that you have a problem with social skills. It has nothing at all to do with being a nerd.

Ok let me ask you this, if you were my waitress and you knew me from middle school and didn't say hi to me, you don't think that would hurt my feelings?

[preraph]

Wait a minute ,I shouldn't talk about being petty or shallow. I mean I did stiff Brooke out of a tip and I think I told you all about that, because she wouldn't talk to me. It made me feel good driving home, but anyways, yea.

 

You don't sound very nice. A waitress isn't being paid to talk to you -- except at Hooter's, of course.

[preraph]

Ok let me ask you this, if you were my waitress and you knew me from middle school and didn't say hi to me, you don't think that would hurt my feelings?

 

Sounds like she either didn't remember or didn't like you. Still, that's not what you tip about. If she served you your food, that's her job and you're supposed to tip.

[MidwestUSA]

Ok let me ask you this, if you were my waitress and you knew me from middle school and didn't say hi to me, you don't think that would hurt my feelings?

 

That was well covered in the other thread. Maybe she didn't recognize you.

 

I'm assuming she did the basic talking a waitress absolutely has to do? Like take your order?

[bradt93]

Sounds like she either didn't remember or didn't like you. Still, that's not what you tip about. If she served you your food, that's her job and you're supposed to tip.

Well, I showed how much I "liked" her didn't I? lol.

[bradt93]

That was well covered in the other thread. Maybe she didn't recognize you.

 

I'm assuming she did the basic talking a waitress absolutely has to do? Like take your order?

Yes, but it still pissed me off.

[bradt93]

Sounds like she either didn't remember or didn't like you. Still, that's not what you tip about. If she served you your food, that's her job and you're supposed to tip.

She had no reason not to like me, I didn't do anything to her back then.

[bradt93]

Well, I will have a successful career in the future while she will still be serving beers, so who is the better one now? HAHAHA.

[MidwestUSA]

Yes, but it still pissed me off.

 

Why?

 

Well, I will have a successful career in the future while she will still be serving beers, so who is the better one now? HAHAHA.

 

I sense an attitude problem. And that won't translate into a successful career.

[elaine567]

WE went through all this before with the waitress and your stalking of the other girl...

BUT

That is history, in the past

Finished.

 

YOU are now in college and you now need to make the most of it.

Social sklls

Social skills

Social skills

Without social skills you could be the best looking guy around and still not have women interested in you.

 

The best looking guy I have ever known in real life, model/filmstar good looks, never had a gf as he was boring, painfully shy, spoke in a monotone and was so serious and intense it was creepy.

 

What have you done to improve your social skills since the last time you were here?

[bradt93]

WE went through all this before with the waitress and your stalking of the other girl...

BUT

That is history, in the past

Finished.

 

YOU are now in college and you now need to make the most of it.

Social sklls

Social skills

Social skills

Without social skills you could be the best looking guy around and still not have women interested in you.

 

The best looking guy I have ever known in real life, model/filmstar good looks, never had a gf as he was boring, painfully shy, spoke in a monotone and was so serious and intense it was creepy.

 

What have you done to improve your social skills since the last time you were here?

I didn't STALK ANYONE.

[bradt93]

Their is nothing wrong with looking someone up on facebook.

[bradt93]

I swear to gawd I don't like people sometimes.

[Jj66]

I swear to gawd I don't like people sometimes.

 

Maybe that's the problem?

[RecentChange]

Well, I will have a successful career in the future while she will still be serving beers, so who is the better one now? HAHAHA.

 

Unless you improve your social skills I wouldn't count on that.

 

How will you charm a interviewer? How will you make your co-workers egar to collaborate with you? What will set you apart from the crowd when layoffs come, and choices have to be made as to who are the best team players?

 

These are real world skills that are necessary to make it "out there" - let alone get a girlfriend.