Frosty1234 Posted March 9, 2017 Posted March 9, 2017 So me and this girl have been talking for 2months. About a month in, she asked me to be exclusive and not get with other people. We've been going steady at that and it's been fun. Shes very honest but ik theres a lot of rumors about her which ive asked about and realized werent true, its just that shes very goodlooking to the point where a lot of guys say theyve been with her, however their friends tell me that the guys are lying about it because shes hot. Now heres where it gets tricky. She tells me she wants to be exclusive and not get with other people, but isnt sure if she wants a relationship and is like "maybe i guess. time will tell". So were exclusive, but not together or close to it... Not sure if im being played here and i dont want to ask over and over because than im clingy and desperate but it really does confuse me. Plus, her birthday is coming up. Usually when im together/exclusive with a girl for 3 months ill get a nice bday present, the problem is were not together/exclusive, just exclusive? Very confusing because this isnt usually a thing with girls. And i dont think shes using me because she thought i cheated once and buggeddd out very early in the talking phase and says if i get with other people or talk to other people shell be hurt, but doesnt want something serious, but likes me sm and is really conflicted.... Nobody i know knows whats goin on with this and calls her my gf and says were dating but idk. Plus idk her friends so idk what she tells them and idk what to think. So whats the move, i have other options but dont give em any thought bc were exclusive, but thn im like whats the point of talking to a girl for a long period of time like months for her to be like lol hes not my boyfriend to everyone? First post on here so whats everyones opinion maybe uve seen this before
Telemachus Posted March 9, 2017 Posted March 9, 2017 (edited) What you have is an arrangement to talk exclusively with someone. You have no other relationship with her. Regarding the header to your posting about whether you should dump her, there's nothing to dump her from. Might she be using you? No, all you're giving her is conversation. Might she be talking with other guys? Of course, an exclusivity agreement regarding talking is just about the strangest thing I've ever heard of. You're making way more of this than it's worth. It isn't a relationship. It isn't possible to dump her or for her to dump you. You're not together. The honest truth seems to be that you like the social attention you get by talking with this "hot" girl. She doesn't want a relationship with you, but gets some social benefit from the arrangement. Well, it isn't much of an arrangement to begin with, and there's no point for either of you to adhere to an exclusive-talking commitment that makes little or no sense in the first place. Edited March 9, 2017 by Telemachus
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