MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted July 25, 2005 Posted July 25, 2005 So if you don't know from my other posts, the EX-bf should be back from his working on the road by now. We last talked a couple of weeks ago when he finally answered one of my phone calls that came up as "private number" on his phone. He said he couldn't wait to get home again, and wanted to pick up where we left off as was been the understanding all along. But c'mon, when I told him it had been a month since we talked he played innocent and said he hasn't called anyone except his mother (who has cancer). I find that hard to believe because he is also trying to run his business. Whatever, yes I realize all that is important but I also realizeD how unimportant I was to him. We broke it off while he was away, because he somehow forgot how to use the phone and didn't return home for any of the visits as initially was the plan. I left him about one message a week, just to say hi and see how he was doing, to let him know I was still alive. He didn't return any calls, not once. And I still didn't "get it". When we talked on July 12 he thought they would be home July 17. I haven't heard from him since and gave myself a few days to see if he would call. When he didn't I finally left him a voicemail: "Hi. It's me. I was hoping I would have heard from you by now, and even if you're not back yet, a phone call would have been nice. No, not just nice ...it would have been CONSIDERATE. I'm tired of the bullsh*t excuses. You say you have no control over it, but it's your own F'ing business. Of course you have control over it! I said I wouldn't assume anything, but okay I get the HINT now. Have a nice life." I've cried waaaay too many tears over this asswipe. I decided I had to do something to get on with my life so I bought myself the book "He's Just Not That Into You" and OMG I can't believe how many of the excuses in that book were right from my mouth! Holy Crap! I have to rise above this and not cave in, and not even hold a glimmer of hope that he will call. Yes, he was into me at the beginning, but I think I became too available. I don't know and I don't want to waste my precious time trying to find out.
Forever Searching Posted July 25, 2005 Posted July 25, 2005 I'm so sorry you are hurting right now. You are correct in wanting to not waste another moment of your life on this looser. He isn't worth it at all. You are taking the right steps in finding someone who is worth it. Best of luck to you.
A Fly onThe Wall Posted July 25, 2005 Posted July 25, 2005 Originally posted by MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 I've cried waaaay too many tears over this asswipe. I hope you really believe theses words.. they will save you more hurt
Author MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted July 25, 2005 Author Posted July 25, 2005 This little book is my new bible and I'm keeping it in my purse and will read it everytime those tears come back, whether it's over this guy or any other guy I meet.
smile95 Posted July 25, 2005 Posted July 25, 2005 I have to rise above this and not cave in, and not even hold a glimmer of hope that he will call. Yes, he was into me at the beginning, but I think I became too available. I don't know and I don't want to waste my precious time trying to find out. OMG this is me! I have been accepting crumbs! He takes advatgae of me and today is day 1 of NC for me (again). THis time is diff. I hate him. I text him that he has lost me forever and treats me like dirt. Everything else is more imp thatn me and I have finally had enough of this ASS!!!!! We are strong and I belive that time away from them will help us. Do not break NC. I will not either!!!!!!!I madeup my mind today that I could never be with him. I keep sayng"what if this and what if that". I do not care anymore. All I know is that deserve better and so do you.
Author MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted July 25, 2005 Author Posted July 25, 2005 My favorite in the book is the last part of #48.... "Don't you want a guy who will forget about all the other things in his life before he forgets about you?"
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