girlfriend accidentally texts me thinking it's one of her guy friends

[gotsarzes]

so i recently found out my so far very faithful and honest gf of 1 year is meeting another guy near my workplace for lunch. this morning she texted me and said she is going out for lunch (after i asked her what she's up to). we didn't go into any more details and left it at that. later this morning i received a text from her saying "where do you want me to meet you sam? i'm at xyz station now". that station is literarily by my work and i was shocked that:

 

1. she came all the way here, it's 1.5 hour commute from her town

2. she is meeting a guy who i think i know and is single and never told me about

me

also if i remember correctly she once received a text from someone named sam and i remember she deleted it before even reading in front of me.

 

i mean i trust this girl and i know she can't find anyone better than me and i'm sure she is not cheating. but just wanted to see how to respond to these types of situations? do i just reply saying "it's ok that you got the wrong person" or do i ignore? so far it has been 30min and i have ignored and i think she is panicking because she keeps on texting me now and asking how i'm doing...

 

thanks

ali

[Giacomo67]

I would respond.... something like:

 

Sorry babe, this is not Sam but your loving 1 year boyfriend..... actualy EXBOYFRIEND

[Titanll]

Good lord, man. I guess that's why there are forums like this for clueless folks that get burned and never seem to get it.

 

Sounds like it's time to get the C4 out and destroy that bridge...

 

Ok, even if it's harmless, you are here posting as if it's a problem...so it's a problem. Handle it. Tell her you have zero tolerance for BS or knuckle under and be her b@tch until she dumps you for a Sam...or Chad...or Josh...

 

Too many dudes accept dating a girl with guy friends...nip that crap on day one or soon after.

[kendahke]

so i recently found out my so far very faithful and honest gf of 1 year is meeting another guy near my workplace for lunch. this morning she texted me and said she is going out for lunch (after i asked her what she's up to). we didn't go into any more details and left it at that. later this morning i received a text from her saying "where do you want me to meet you sam? i'm at xyz station now". that station is literarily by my work and i was shocked that:

 

1. she came all the way here, it's 1.5 hour commute from her town

2. she is meeting a guy who i think i know and is single and never told me about

me

also if i remember correctly she once received a text from someone named sam and i remember she deleted it before even reading in front of me.

 

i mean i trust this girl and i know she can't find anyone better than me and i'm sure she is not cheating. but just wanted to see how to respond to these types of situations? do i just reply saying "it's ok that you got the wrong person" or do i ignore? so far it has been 30min and i have ignored and i think she is panicking because she keeps on texting me now and asking how i'm doing...

 

thanks

ali

 

I'm failing to see her trustworthiness here.

 

She's meeting Sam and she was at the xyz station waiting for him when she sent the text.

 

She just might think she's meeting someone better than you--if you being the better guy was enough, this texting adventure of hers wouldn't even be happening.

 

I'd text her back and give her a place to meet--then meet her and break up with her.

[SoThatHappened]

she is panicking because she keeps on texting me now and asking how i'm doing...

 

That's because she is guilty as F***.

 

Next question: what do do?

 

There are many things you can do, but on my end, those all involve you dumping her. Just depends how creative you want to be in doing that.

 

Sorry to hear, but you're getting two-timed buddy.

[Zahara]

How is this your girlfriend of 1 year when you posted about being in a relationship with a girl in January 2017 that was only 2.5 months old?

[Tressugar]

On the contrary to what others have posted, I simply would not count this incident against her if there's no other infractions.

 

I would casually bring it up for discussion.

[dumbass2]

Just ignore her right now.

 

You don't need to say a thing. Let her be the one to do the explaining.

Edited March 8, 2017 by dumbass2

[smackie9]

As the saying goes, if you are keeping it a secret then you know you shouldn't be doing it.

[gotsarzes]

Just ignore her right now.

 

You don't need to say a thing. Let her be the one to do the explaining.

 

she did some explaining at lunch time via text but avoided my followup question of who she was with completely. so i'm continuing to ignore.

[dumbass2]

she did some explaining at lunch time via text but avoided my followup question of who she was with completely. so i'm continuing to ignore.

 

Do not discuss the issue any more via text. Her explaining needs to be done in person so you can watch her body language and get a better sense if she's telling the truth.