brightdays Posted March 8, 2017 Posted March 8, 2017 (edited) Hi all Background: He and I have known each other for ages, but didn't talk much because we both had a gf and bf. After I moved to a different city, we started to chat more often. Now, we are living in different cities. He is looking for a job, which stresses him out. He said he would visit me when he lands on a new job, but I don't know if he really would. Seemingly, he is not actively looking for a date now because of his job situation. I initiate 80% of contact, and he initiates 20% of contact. Maybe he initiates conversation once a month. He replies to my messages instantly, hears me out and sends me long messages. We joke around too. As he doesn't initiate conversation very often, I think he is just polite. Do you think he's just being polite or he is into me? If he's just being polite, there's no chance for us? I find him interesting and want to get to know about him more. Thank you for reading. Edited March 8, 2017 by brightdays
Larryville Posted March 8, 2017 Posted March 8, 2017 I initiate 80% of contact He replies to my messages instantly, hears me out and sends me long messages. he's just being polite... you are buds 1
angel.eyes Posted March 8, 2017 Posted March 8, 2017 He's keeping his options (you) open, so he's not going to shut you down. No, he's not really interested or he would be initiating. Down the road, should he find himself in the desert, with no compelling possibilities, at least he'll have you available as an option.
preraph Posted March 8, 2017 Posted March 8, 2017 I don't think he's overly interested in you or he'd be all over you especially since he's got nothing else to do. It's true he may realize he can't have a gf without money and a job though. But I still don't think he's more than mildly interested in you.
Redhead14 Posted March 8, 2017 Posted March 8, 2017 Hi all Background: He and I have known each other for ages, but didn't talk much because we both had a gf and bf. After I moved to a different city, we started to chat more often. Now, we are living in different cities. He is looking for a job, which stresses him out. He said he would visit me when he lands on a new job, but I don't know if he really would. Seemingly, he is not actively looking for a date now because of his job situation. I initiate 80% of contact, and he initiates 20% of contact. Maybe he initiates conversation once a month. He replies to my messages instantly, hears me out and sends me long messages. We joke around too. As he doesn't initiate conversation very often, I think he is just polite. Do you think he's just being polite or he is into me? If he's just being polite, there's no chance for us? I find him interesting and want to get to know about him more. Thank you for reading. If he is "into you" and this is what he has to offer, you're gonna be bored and unfulfilled. he's just being polite -- Stop initiating and see what happens I find him interesting -- Exactly what's interesting about a guy who initiates conversation once a month, is stressed about his job, doesn't want to date because of that but can joke around and lives in another city???? 2
smackie9 Posted March 8, 2017 Posted March 8, 2017 Come on OP you can do better than this guy.....start looking.
Author brightdays Posted March 8, 2017 Author Posted March 8, 2017 Right, I need to move on. He's obviously not into me haha I'll stop initiating messaing Thanks for all your comments!
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