RonChalant Posted March 8, 2017 Posted March 8, 2017 (edited) Met her 2 months ago at a bar, hung out once about a week later, been heavy text buddies ever sense. She text me good morning EVERY morning, but randomly told me she has a boyfriend. At this point she's told me she has thoughts of stepping out of her relationship, but not physically. We're supposed to hang out one day and she bailed, no call no show. Explained her way out of it but the she bailed on another time we were supposed to chill which was last Thursday. When that happened I stopped talking with her until yesterday as "punishment". Later last night I asked her if she only saw me as a friend and am I wasting my time looking for anything more. She said that she can't predict the future but that as of right now she only views me as a friend. Then out of nowhere makes a date to go see lego batman tomorrow. I think she wants to sleep with me and that she is waiting for me to make an actual move...can't explain the flaking though. Input? Edited March 15, 2017 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Language ~T
goldway90 Posted March 8, 2017 Posted March 8, 2017 (edited) She said that she can't predict the future but that as of right now she only views me as a friendClearly wants the D. She has a boyfriend, she friendzoned you and bailed on hanging out with you not once but twice! a women who wants you won't say such a thing. Edited March 15, 2017 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Language~T 4
CollegeKid101 Posted March 8, 2017 Posted March 8, 2017 (edited) Met her 2 months ago at a bar, hung out once about a week later, been heavy text buddies ever sense. She text me good morning EVERY morning, but randomly told me she has a boyfriend. At this point she's told me she has thoughts of stepping out of her relationship, but not physically. We're supposed to hang out one day and she bailed, no call no show. Explained her way out of it but the she bailed on another time we were supposed to chill which was last Thursday. When that happened I stopped talking with her until yesterday as "punishment". Later last night I asked her if she only saw me as a friend and am I wasting my time looking for anything more. She said that she can't predict the future but that as of right now she only views me as a friend. Then out of nowhere makes a date to go see lego batman tomorrow. I think she wants to sleep with me and that she is waiting for me to make an actual move...can't explain the flaking though. Input? Friendzoned. She has a boyfriend, find someone single. Edited March 15, 2017 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 1
Author RonChalant Posted March 8, 2017 Author Posted March 8, 2017 (edited) Part of me still thinks she wants it though. Again, call me sense but I feel like she's playing a childish game. But I've never been good at this so feel free to set me straight in as real a way as possible Edited March 15, 2017 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Language~T
goldway90 Posted March 8, 2017 Posted March 8, 2017 (edited) Part of me still thinks she wants it though. Again, call me sense but I feel like she's playing a childish game. But I've never been good at this so feel free to set me straight in as real a way as possible She didn't make a date, it's movie to watch called lego batman it's what friends do lol. At this point she's told me she has thoughts of stepping out of her relationship, but not physically Don't bull***** yourself and find single ladies, be more dominant around them or you'll always end up in the friendzone.Save Edited March 15, 2017 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Language~T 1
KBob Posted March 8, 2017 Posted March 8, 2017 (edited) But I've never been good at this so feel free to set me straight in as real a way as possible Goldway set you straight. You're not good at this if you think this woman wants you, but you can get better, just start listening to the advice from experienced people on here. Edited March 15, 2017 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Purepony Posted March 8, 2017 Posted March 8, 2017 Clearly wants you to pay for the movie ! Thts all I got out of your post I think yo should go and when it's time to pay walk away and expect her to pay ... pretend you forgot your credit card hahaha
Erik30 Posted March 8, 2017 Posted March 8, 2017 If she wants to be more than just friends, she would be cheating on her boyfriend. She hasn't ended anything. Up to you if you want to be that guy
preraph Posted March 8, 2017 Posted March 8, 2017 She left the door open for you to make a move. So if you want to make a move, make it before she changes her mind.
staggerlee71 Posted March 8, 2017 Posted March 8, 2017 I agree with PREAPH...She has the door open. "She has thoughts of stepping out but not physically", That translates to " help me make a bad decision" She doesn't want you as a boyfriend. she wants an infrequent hook up at her disposal. With a little you pay for get togethers sprinkled in
smackie9 Posted March 8, 2017 Posted March 8, 2017 That's right...you are her male GF with blue ballz. Before you know it you two will be sleeping together with your clothes on....being her cuddle B______ 1
preraph Posted March 8, 2017 Posted March 8, 2017 That's right...you are her male GF with blue ballz. Before you know it you two will be sleeping together with your clothes on....being her cuddle B______ Maybe he likes blue balls. There are plenty of guys who seem more comfortable seeing but not touching the woman and then going home and fantasizing about it and getting off. I don't think a lot of these women who have "just friend" guys have thought that through. Because that IS what they are doing. And if it goes on for months or years, it's creepy. Not so much in this case as long as he at least tries soon. OP, ask her on a real date and then just kiss her when you drop her off at the end of the night. If she won't accept a real date (be sure she knows it's a real date), then it saves you the humiliation of trying it.
GoldSparkz Posted March 8, 2017 Posted March 8, 2017 It sounds like you were hoping for something more physical so now you are "reading betwen the lines". Based on how she's treating you, you are nothing but a distraction I'm afraid.
TheTraveler Posted March 8, 2017 Posted March 8, 2017 I agree with PREAPH...She has the door open. "She has thoughts of stepping out but not physically", That translates to " help me make a bad decision" She doesn't want you as a boyfriend. she wants an infrequent hook up at her disposal. With a little you pay for get togethers sprinkled in She left the door open for you to make a move. So if you want to make a move, make it before she changes her mind. Yep, that's what I'm sensing in her hot/cold phase towards the OP. She's in a relationship. Right now it's going rocky so now she reaches out asking to go to the movies. It's up to the OP to go all the way. If he's got game, he gives her the D. If he doesn't, she will remind him they are friends and she's in a relationship 1
Author RonChalant Posted March 8, 2017 Author Posted March 8, 2017 With all that I'm gonna go for it.. Will likely crash and burn but it's worth the effort..at the end of the day at least its a story to tell 1
OnlyHonesty Posted March 9, 2017 Posted March 9, 2017 She's getting the emotional connection that is missing from her bf from you. She gets the best of both worlds, and you get nothing... If you are interested in a girl and you hear the words ''bf''...you run as fast as you can. As far as I'm concerned, I'm not there to provide her with a supplement to her relationship, I'm not her pillow, I'm not her Councillor and I'm not her shoulder to cry on.
Simple Logic Posted March 9, 2017 Posted March 9, 2017 (edited) She just likes having you chase her. Edited March 15, 2017 by a LoveShack.org Moderator language~T
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