Girl in class?

[bradt93]

I have a girl in my college class who I want to start a conversation with? The problem is she looks snotish, but maybe I'm overreacting since I haven't said anything to her yet? Sometimes I stare at her in a distance, sometimes she does stare at me too. I sit in a few desks ahead of her. I don't know if she has a b/f or not? so how can I tell if she does or not and what kind of things can I say to her to get an idea if she's in a relationship?

[ZayKayWill]

Don't think about it too much and just talk to her. Maybe just ask her about some things that are class related and go from there? People tend to overthink these things a lot and the whole idea is to just go with the flow and get to know her better step by step.

[d0nnivain]

Stop over thinking it.

 

Start with hi. Seriously. Just hi.

 

 

Then ask a Q about class or something going on at your school. What you talk about doesn't matter. Just get her talking. She will reveal the existence of a BF if it's relevant.

[preraph]

Yup. This isn't a marriage proposal. Someone snotish staring at you isn't necessarily a green light, you know. The bf will likely be seen in her vicinity if she has one. But honestly, does it matter? Her having a bf has little bearing on if she would be interested in you. And at school age, people who have boyfriends don't usually have them a long time.

 

So as DOnnivain wisely says, just say hi. See if she says hi or if she doubles down on the snotishness. Once you're on a "hi" basis with her, say something else, like what class she has next and eventually, is she interested in going to the school dance or game with you.

 

Good luck.

 

I would also just make one tiny suggestion and that is to not just concentrate on her to the point where you wouldn't notice if some other nice girl was trying to catch your eye or being nice to you hoping you'd do something about it. Better chance with someone friendly than snotish, you know.