Author Larryville Posted March 14, 2017 Author Posted March 14, 2017 I skip over profiles where the main picture is them with someone else, too. Unfortunately after doing more reading on this, women who read online dating profile articles from other women in many instances give the exact opposite advice many guys might give or comment on. Also people don’t take into consideration when reading and processing information things like age, race, ethnic origin, religion, class, where someone is from (region: in the US east coast vs Midwest), educational level, lifestyle choices. Just like this site, I sometimes wish the people who posted here would reveal (I know some do) or we knew their age because a piece of advice given to a 20 something is never going to be the same or necessarily good advice to someone 40, or 50 years of age. 2
elaine567 Posted March 14, 2017 Posted March 14, 2017 So if a guys posts a picture of him with his golfing buddies, did he upload the picture to say... "I'm looking for a woman who likes golf" or "I'm looking for a woman who will tolerate my love of golf" I guess maybe both. His "advert" to the dating world is showing everyone who he is. In OLD there is no other back story to refer to, so people will assume if he is posting pics with his golf buddies he does actually play golf and that he is presenting himself as a golfing man. Similarly if a person sees themselves as an intellectual, a bit of an introvert and a loner, then it is better that they do not post pics of that one time they went to a club and hated every minute of it, on their profile. That is not who they really are and any woman attracted by that pic is going to be a bit disappointed when she finds he is not the party animal she thought he was.
Author Larryville Posted March 14, 2017 Author Posted March 14, 2017 Elaine I get this. I guess for me if I were going to post pictures that “truly” represented me at this stage in my life all my profile pics would contain pics of my grandkids. I adore my grandkids. I’m an onion peeler and I like to slowly learn about people, having been a photographer, videographer I process more of the overall picture than the subject. Part of me that would attract me to someone is their own ability to tell me and communicate to me who they are and what they are all about. People who can’t share parts of themselves as you get to know them would bore me to tears. I have met people who put all sorts of “stuff” in their profile, and litter the profile with pictures of more “stuff” let’s say they took a cool trip to the Grand Canyon, and put that they “love to travel” on Match and some sites you look at someone’s income and that does not jive with their honest ability to be able to afford to actually travel… UNLESS they get with a dude who is willing to foot the bill to take her to nice places. Or if someone’s job does not allow them so much time off to travel. Some folks jobs, work situation, kids, family situation does not jive with their actual ability to do all of the “fun” things in an OLD profile. I personally have run into some many women where their pictures were nothing like the lifestyles they truly led, was more a fantasy than reality. Yes I know L tends to freaking overthink every damn thing…. I get that is many times NOT a good thing.
CaliforniaGirl Posted March 14, 2017 Posted March 14, 2017 Elaine I get this. I guess for me if I were going to post pictures that “truly” represented me at this stage in my life all my profile pics would contain pics of my grandkids. I adore my grandkids. I’m an onion peeler and I like to slowly learn about people, having been a photographer, videographer I process more of the overall picture than the subject. Part of me that would attract me to someone is their own ability to tell me and communicate to me who they are and what they are all about. People who can’t share parts of themselves as you get to know them would bore me to tears. I have met people who put all sorts of “stuff” in their profile, and litter the profile with pictures of more “stuff” let’s say they took a cool trip to the Grand Canyon, and put that they “love to travel” on Match and some sites you look at someone’s income and that does not jive with their honest ability to be able to afford to actually travel… UNLESS they get with a dude who is willing to foot the bill to take her to nice places. Or if someone’s job does not allow them so much time off to travel. Some folks jobs, work situation, kids, family situation does not jive with their actual ability to do all of the “fun” things in an OLD profile. I personally have run into some many women where their pictures were nothing like the lifestyles they truly led, was more a fantasy than reality. Yes I know L tends to freaking overthink every damn thing…. I get that is many times NOT a good thing. I don't think it matters that you overthink (in your view). You just find other people who think the way you do. Other people do not necessarily think this way, and MOST people have layers over time, so ultimately, most people will wind up with someone who is right for them. It's all good. As Wayne Campbell said: "Led Zeppelin didn't try to make everyone like them. They left that to the Bee Gees." Sometimes not being some general "everyone's taste" totally acceptable/non-remarkable vision isn't the best way to be. Sometimes our pariculars are what will lead us to the right person for us, not the generic right person who does the generically appropriate things, in an online profile or elsewhere. For instance, I personally love someone who DOESN'T really give a rat for looking "just right" or following convention all the time. I like the guy who can go off the beaten path; I find such a person truly unique...and sexy. And I have never had trouble finding such a person, though he was, each time, not the absolute norm. We just sort of seemed to find one another in our mutual bucking of "but you SHOULD do X or Y." JMO. 1
Miss Spider Posted March 14, 2017 Posted March 14, 2017 (edited) main profile pics that make me nope out: Pic of you with Snapchat filter Pic of you neck down Pic of you shirtless when you have no need to be Pic of you in a public bathroom mirror Pic of you in a dirty mirror Pic of you wearing anything camo Pic of you holding a fish or any other dead animal Pic of you next to a fancy car(or just the car) Pic of you in 2 pixels Pic of you flipping off the camera or doing the shocker (it wasn't funny when you were 12, not now) Pic of you wearing an obviously forced smile Pic of you at Macchu picchu Pic of you finishing whatever race you ran Pic of you on a pillow making bedroom eyes Pic of you at a club Pic of you licking your lips Pic of you with girl(s) significantly more attractive than me Pic of you with a baby (your baby, your cousins baby, you as a baby) Pic of you headless and shirtless when you have no need to be Pic of you in a huge group( cool, you have friend, but not playing where's Waldo) Pic of you with a friend (they're always the less cute one ) Pic of you with a tiger/other wild animal that would be ripping your face off if it wasn't sedated To be continued... Edited March 14, 2017 by Cookiesandough
Author Larryville Posted March 14, 2017 Author Posted March 14, 2017 You know Cookie, this could be a cool group drinking game. Go onto a OLD site, browse thru profiles and if you see any of these on a profile you have to drink! 1
CaliforniaGirl Posted March 14, 2017 Posted March 14, 2017 You know Cookie, this could be a cool group drinking game. Go onto a OLD site, browse thru profiles and if you see any of these on a profile you have to drink! Or OLD Picture Block Bingo. 2
bluefeather Posted March 15, 2017 Posted March 15, 2017 main profile pics that make me nope out: How's that filtering working out for you?
Miss Spider Posted March 19, 2017 Posted March 19, 2017 (edited) The objective of it is to avoid dating anyone I wouldn't be attracted to or compatible with. So pretty well, I'd say Pic of you skiing Pic of you skydiving Pic of you doing outdoor activity in general where you're really far away Pic of you doing that pensive/quizzical face Pic of you looking all serious and "hard" Pic of you pulling a ~seductive~ face Pic of you in the gym mirror Pic of you doing a yoga pose Pic of you lifting up your shirt to show your abs Pic of you in Halloween or other cosplay costume Pic of you playing or holding a guitar Pic of you making making duckface even jokingly Pic of you giving best man toast Pic of you giving some kind of speech Pic of you on stage doing improv Pic of you taken mid-drinking beverage Pic of you drinking or doing drugs Pic of you at a party/bar/club/bonfire completely wasted Pic of you where I have to turn my head more than 15 degrees to the side Pic where most of your face is obstructed Pic of you wearing anything ed Hardy, affliction, Abercrombie, or Aeropostale Pic of you with fake mustache (including, but not limited to , on a cup, a stick, your fingers, or sharpie ) Pic of you in car with sunglasses Pic of you in scrubs and stethoscope and saying you're a dr (we get it, you get ladies) Pic at machu freakin picchu (already said that) Pic of you wearing a fedora Pic of you summiting a mountain Okay lol I'm not being completely serious about this xD Edited March 19, 2017 by Cookiesandough
LookAtThisPOst Posted March 19, 2017 Posted March 19, 2017 The objective of it is to avoid dating anyone I wouldn't be attracted to or compatible with. So pretty well, I'd say Pic of you skiing Pic of you skydiving Pic of you doing outdoor activity in general where you're really far away Pic of you doing that pensive/quizzical face Pic of you looking all serious and "hard" Pic of you pulling a ~seductive~ face Pic of you in the gym mirror Pic of you doing a yoga pose Pic of you lifting up your shirt to show your abs Pic of you in Halloween or other cosplay costume Pic of you playing or holding a guitar Pic of you making making duckface even jokingly Pic of you giving best man toast Pic of you giving some kind of speech Pic of you on stage doing improv Pic of you taken mid-drinking beverage Pic of you drinking or doing drugs Pic of you at a party/bar/club/bonfire completely wasted Pic of you where I have to turn my head more than 15 degrees to the side Pic where most of your face is obstructed Pic of you wearing anything ed Hardy, affliction, Abercrombie, or Aeropostale Pic of you with fake mustache (including, but not limited to , on a cup, a stick, your fingers, or sharpie ) Pic of you in car with sunglasses Pic of you in scrubs and stethoscope and saying you're a dr (we get it, you get ladies) Pic at machu freakin picchu (already said that) Pic of you wearing a fedora Pic of you summiting a mountain Okay lol I'm not being completely serious about this xD Pic of you lighting your own farts, not a very good way to impress ladies, but...well...you may impress SOME one...right? 1
OatsAndHall Posted March 19, 2017 Posted March 19, 2017 I did a little experiment with my profile when I was using OLD. 1. I changed my profile from the usual "Getting To Know You" stuff to a random diatribe involving my favorite music and movies. I got more than three times as many responses when I did so. 2. I changed my profile pic from a head shot to a full body pic. I got about a little less than twice as many responses. I used the same full-body pic I had in my profile originally. It gave me a little more respect for the OLD process as it appeared as if some folks actually cared read the profile. 1
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