Mysterio Posted March 6, 2017 Posted March 6, 2017 So my 35 yr old cousin has been slapped with a restraining order and has to go to court. The woman he has a crush on has a BF and I guess found out that he is writing about her on his Facebook. I and other relatives told him not to write about her or other girls on his FB page. Get another account if he wants to but not something official. So in your mind what does Stalking equal to. To me. Stalking would be setting up cameras in your object of affections place where they live and other places they go to. Sometimes I hear this word thrown around without much meaning.
todreaminblue Posted March 6, 2017 Posted March 6, 2017 to me stalking is making someone feel uncomfortable with unwanted attentions shown...like following someone behind in a car......following them on foot from a distance ......scaring them .....opening their gates to their property for easy access later..........knocking on their front door and hiding so they come out.....knocking on their windows...throwing things at their windows while they are asleep so they walk outside again......getting other people to spy on them..follow them or do any or all of the above. ...had guys stalk me.....follow me home when i used to work.....follow me in cars...yell stuff out at me...scare me by creeping up behind me in a car and yelling out the window boo right behind me and speeding off.......and the knocking thing............scare me or try to...i dont scare easy.... and then say anytime you need me im here for you.....emptying out my rubbish bin ...taking my mail...finding out my family and their names...where they live.....then talking to me about my sister or my mother calling her by her first name when i havent said her name...i call her mum always ......unless i introduce her in person even then i have to remember to say her name and not mum...ill say this is my mum....and then say her name....so they directly use intimidation and manipulation...thats stalking.....aggressive stance .....making the person feel trapped and uncomfortable yet unable to know fro sure ....make you feel crazy and unsure of your own instincts......thats a predator stalking......so you dont know which way to run...its why predators stalk they play on that sixth sense in animals and people.....so you run basically straight into them..... you know doctors think i suffer from paranoia...i dont im pretty mellow .. ...just been stalked too many times.....so i often feel it when theres something off... as far as writing names on face book......its not stalking.....its probably inappropriate...not decent and kind...but its not stalking......more probably annoying for some...and not appreciated or respected by most........and can be dealt with pretty quickly......successful stalking actually you cant dceal with it easily...because most of the time you cant prove crap....... stalking is predatory not in your face at all or publicly known and often hidden......so only the survivor feels it.....knows it and cant prove it... heres the definition....as i take it factually to be.. the act or an instance of stalking, or harassing another in an aggressive, often threatening and illegal manner: Stalking is now a crime in many states. adjective 2. of or relating to the act of pursuing or harassing: .....deb
Author Mysterio Posted March 6, 2017 Author Posted March 6, 2017 I think that my cousin should stop writing about his ex's in post on Facebook. If I break up with a woman. No one is going to really hear about it. Esspecially on Facebook. He is almost done a degree in the medicine field. If anyone finds that out. It could be used against him. Everything can be tracked.
elaine567 Posted March 6, 2017 Posted March 6, 2017 He is almost done a degree in the medicine field. If anyone finds that out. It could be used against him. Everything can be tracked. ...and If he has been stalking and harassing this girl then he deserves all that is coming to him. At 35 he should know better. 1
Author Mysterio Posted March 6, 2017 Author Posted March 6, 2017 He is in a very angry state of mind. He talks about one of his Ex's in his Facebook posts. The other girl is someone that he became interested within the last year. Its her that filled the restraining order. he lives close to her. Again. He should no better at 35. Its just that he has other issues and is angry about other things in his life. I told him. Being super bold and telling some girl that you like them romantically, never results in the girl being very flattered and falling into your arms. Beyond the stalking. I look for patterns in life. All the movies/tv/books. That present a man being all bold and gusto in their approch to get a woman romantically. That never works. Unless the woman already likes him. My cousin really has to re -evaluate his life and actions. He is just going from one self destructive situation to the next. I think he either has to just concentrate on school. Or check himself into a mental health facility to chill and start his life fresh.
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