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He is a waste of your time, you drop him and go to next.

 

A man that is interested would never wait 9 days or more to meet a woman he's in communication with. I don't care what he says this guy has a girlfriend or a wife. Never chat with a man that says he wants to take his time. Those are the words of men only looking to waste people's time.

 

I don't think you can conclude this, yet. He may be meeting others, because he is in no rush to get in a relationship - unless it's a good one. Before you've even met in person, you can't really tell too much from a brief delay in meeting.

 

 

Someone who wants to take their time is unlikely to dive into just any relationship, and is less likely to make a bad choice. The people who are more deliberate, are more likely to commit more strongly because they are sure they are making a wise choice.

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Just from my experience, I could tell he might be seeing another girl. The last guy I met told me he wanted to take things slow, then he told me he had met someone else. So I assumed he was already seeing that girl when he was seeing me from the timing.

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I don't think you can conclude this, yet. He may be meeting others, because he is in no rush to get in a relationship - unless it's a good one. Before you've even met in person, you can't really tell too much from a brief delay in meeting.

 

 

Someone who wants to take their time is unlikely to dive into just any relationship, and is less likely to make a bad choice. The people who are more deliberate, are more likely to commit more strongly because they are sure they are making a wise choice.

 

In my 4 years of experience online with meeting close to 200 men, never once one of these take my time turned out to be a positive experience.

 

They all did that because something else was holding them back and I was the pot on the back burner.

 

I even once gave the guy the benefit of the doubt and gave him a week, then 2 weeks, then 3 weeks. He had all types of excuses and we ended up never meeting. I gave him a full month and he was still begging me for time after a full month.

 

 

ETA: Turns out the guy was not over his ex and he was just getting his ego boosted with me while he was waiting for her to come back to him.

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I don't think you can conclude this, yet. He may be meeting others, because he is in no rush to get in a relationship - unless it's a good one. Before you've even met in person, you can't really tell too much from a brief delay in meeting.

 

 

Someone who wants to take their time is unlikely to dive into just any relationship, and is less likely to make a bad choice. The people who are more deliberate, are more likely to commit more strongly because they are sure they are making a wise choice.

 

I know he's talking to other girls. Like right now we are just friends tbh.

He's just constantly texting me everyday and initiating it so who knows... maybe I'm in the lead. Like others said I'm going to get other guys to talk to as well and keep him as a friend. On Friday I'm going to pick a place I want to go to and if he shows up cool, if he doesn't then I'll be at the place I wanted to go to. But I really don't think a guy isn't interested just because we text for 9 days or so. He may be busy or he doesn't want to jump up just like that to meet others. He wants to take his time and so do I. I might even gain a cool friend out of this. But I will not have sex. Idk time will tell tbh.

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In my 4 years of experience online with meeting close to 200 men, never once one of these take my time turned out to be a positive experience.

 

They all did that because something else was holding them back and I was the pot on the back burner.

 

I even once gave the guy the benefit of the doubt and gave him a week, then 2 weeks, then 3 weeks. He had all types of excuses and we ended up never meeting. I gave him a full month and he was still begging me for time after a full month.

 

 

ETA: Turns out the guy was not over his ex and he was just getting his ego boosted with me while he was waiting for her to come back to him.

 

I think you may need to slow it down a bit too. Have some friends first and not date straight off the back. I'm glad I'm taking my time with this guy I'm talking to. Regardless if there's other girls or not, he's texting me. I can't stop him from texting other people, we aren't dating. Honestly my mind is oberthknking and saying things... but my gut is telling me to wait. Something good might come out of this with patience. Something I really need to learn... "patience"

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Just from my experience, I could tell he might be seeing another girl. The last guy I met told me he wanted to take things slow, then he told me he had met someone else. So I assumed he was already seeing that girl when he was seeing me from the timing.

 

If he is or if he has a gf then oh well.

I wouldn't know. He can hang out with me or not.

I'd rather be friends first and start off slow. If he disappears that's his loss on me. I learned from some of the answers on here to keep my options open which is good.

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