TheBullFrog Posted March 6, 2017 Posted March 6, 2017 Just wondering what do you think the best way for me to deal with this girl. My first post will try to explain the situation, i will try my hardest not to make this too long. Met a girl at a bar, I was pretty drunk and approached her and her group of friends, made them all laugh a lot. Talked to them for 30 minutes i think. Got her facebook . Talked to her a lot the next day via facebook messenger, even though she was out with friends. Then almost daily we were talking on facebook, she even initiated some of the conversations. The tone of our conversations where good, she was always laughing. Even once during our texting conversations i joked to her that she was lucky to meet a handsome guy like me and she agreed i was handsome. I organised to meet her on Friday night, could only meet her after 10 as she finished work 9:30pm The date went really well in my opinion, it was almost 4 hours long, we just walked around the lake and talked. I made her a laugh a lot and at the same time we had serious conversations about life. I did my best to try not make it into the “friendzone” complimenting how she looked etc Even though it was the first date i didn’t try to escalate too much, at times i would try to sit right next to her, as in her legs and arms where right next to mine. She would be ok with that for a while but move away. Strangely she would do the same, move in very close and then eventually move away. Time for me to drop her off home so we walk to my car, i notice when we are walking she is right next to me, shoulder to shoulder, i think its the perfect time for me to put my arm around her shoulders. Shes ok with this for a few minutes but then needs to adjust her purse and says sorry – don’t know if i read this incorrectly as a sign for me to leave her alone to i stopped putting my arms around her. Driving to her place everything seems fine, we are joking and stuff. I pull over to her house to drop her off, we both thank each other for a good night etc. I go in for a kiss on the lips, i cant remember what she said, i think it was “sorry” or “not now” – cant remember. The we go back in for another kiss but a kiss on the cheek and hug, and that’s it. It was a very awkward moment I didn’t text her the next day because i was still feeling awkward, and didn’t want to give the impression i was bothering her or looking needy. Texted her on Sunday afternoon asking how the party was that she went to on Sunday. The texts from her seemed different from normal, not so long or detailed, and a few words at most. It wasn’t as bad as those one word texts, but they weren’t great as well. Maybe sent her 4 text/conversation starters but could see maybe i had to do more of the work and i was feeling awkward. She was sending the texts back in less than 5 minutes though. In the end i thought i better give her some space and to enjoy her weekend so i sent something along the lines “its great you are enjoying the weekend, i texted you to see how you are going and if everything is ok, enjoy your weekend and talk soon”. Her response was “ok, you too”.
Author TheBullFrog Posted March 6, 2017 Author Posted March 6, 2017 So im thinking maybe she is not so interested know, or "confused" about me. I am thinking wait until Tuesday, send her a few text messages for small talk, and either way just ask her out again? Im not sure what is going on or what went wrong. to me the first date seemed great. Perhaps i wasn't flirty enough or i didn't read her correctly? Maybe i scared her off by trying to kiss on the first date?
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