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So this seems to be a common problem i believe but I am not sure how should i really behave/react. This thing happens probably like twice a month where my girlfriend gets mad/upset for silliest reason to the human kind.

 

Should keep confronting her and keep saying sorry and making her feel good?

 

Or

 

Should i leave her alone and let her be normal after sometime?

smackie9 Established Member

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If it's twice a month it's not because of her period.

 

So what does she get upset about? Maybe you are the source of the problem.

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ExpatInItaly Established Member

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So this seems to be a common problem i believe but I am not sure how should i really behave/react. This thing happens probably like twice a month where my girlfriend gets mad/upset for silliest reason to the human kind.

Should keep confronting her and keep saying sorry and making her feel good?

 

Or

 

Should i leave her alone and let her be normal after sometime?

 

PMS would occur once a month, not twice.

 

Can you give an example of what she gets upset about, and why you deduce it's because of PMS? Is that what she says, or is that your guess?

preraph Established Member

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Why don't you just tell him ahead of time your PMS time is coming and do him a favor and just stay away during that time.

basil67 Established Member

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I've got many thoughts whirling around here but I really need context before I can form them.

 

First question: What kind of things upset her? How does she react?

Second question: Is it really PMS or is it simply bad behaviour on her part?

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Yes it's possible she gets upset twice in a month and it's due to her period. It's all about hormones rushing through her body whether it's rushing up or rushing down. She could be affected by both phases. I get edgy during my ovulation and again a day or 2 before my periods.

 

Is she on the pill? if she is than it's not her problem as we do not ovulate while on the pills.

coolheadal Established Member

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Very touchy subject and all this behavior stems from what's going on in her mind. PMS more private for women, we men shouldn't be involved but they do need us to go out and buy the midol, pads an etc.. We have to be there for our women, no matter what they call us and throw things lol. Most women act differently but during that week. I can't wait for the 7 days to go away.

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when i am pmsing i get my guy to go into a store and buy me tampons and tim tams....i call tampons mini timtams so i can ask public or in front of people without embarassing my guy. can you buy me some timtams please...and some double coat tim tams as well....and nurofen.....a guy who knows me and my pms cycle...wont need to be told the difference between tim tams and timtams.....fi i ask for tim tams twice they know to pass em both packets...through the door smile say i love you and just leave me for a little while......if i start crying at everything fro example roadkill on the side of the road..... or snappy....and then crying again because i was snappy........its pms.....i need timtams and tim tams double coat......a guy i fully respect is my guy who can nonchalantly throw the mini timtams up on the counter...and smile at the check out chick with full confdidence only real men with guts can buy tampons in the right size....... for their gf with her period and pms...and remember double coat tim tams too....with a side order of nurofen for cramps.....now thats a man.....and i do it to torture him.....test his patience......

 

and then that man just fades and leaves me be till i am at least half way normal again......

 

i suggest ...leave her be..you will never be safe.....come back at a later time.....test the air in her place first...toxicity level rank is when you hear sniffles and snuffling.....or exorcist whispering and giggling...not a good sign....alert alert.....you can bet her head is spinning and about to be facing backwards....do not walk in...that image will never leave you.....close your eyes ...visualise butterflies back away.....best wishes...and have a lovely day...:bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny:...there ...fixed the image for you.deb

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I don't date women but, if I did, I would only date women who did not use PMS-ing as an excuse for poor/irrational behavior. Yes, hormones can make us feel more irritable or whatever, but we also have the ability to control our behavior. Barring that, we have the ability to recuse ourselves when we know our hormones prevent us from responding appropriately.

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^ Well it doesnt really work like that. I can control my behaviour for sure but sometimes its not possible because its not me its my hormones. E.g. you just feel like crying even everything is fine. Surely you can fight back the tears and control yourself at work but you still have that feeling of crying because of your hormones and pms.

smackie9 Established Member

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The OP has yet to respond.................

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OatsAndHall Established Member

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There shouldn't be an issue if she is controlling herself during this time. My girlfriend gets moody and irritable before period and I understand this when she is quiet and distant. I'll ask her if she's alright or if there's anything I can do ONCE during this time so she knows that I care but that's it. I leave her be during this time. She has only lashed out at me once during her period, I told her that I was going for a walk to calm down, we talked about it when I got back and it was done and over.

 

It becomes an issue when ANYONE feels that they have the right to lose control and be disrespectful when they're stressed out, sick, dealing with PMS, (etc..etc..). I have been in several relationships with where my significant other feels that this is acceptable and it is not.

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If I am upset I want my husband to be supportive & kind. Sometimes that may mean listening to me or holding me. Sometimes I may need pampering. Sometimes I may want him to be alone.

 

I would never expect him to guess or figure out what I want. I would ask for it.

 

 

If you GF isn't communicating with you clearly, ask (do not confront her. Confronting is too aggressive). Say something like:

Honey, you seem out of sorts. Is there anything I can do -- a hug? Chocolate? wine? Go away?

 

See how she responds. But you better follow through on what she asks for.

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frigginlost Established Member

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Lob chocolate in her direction and run...

 

 

 

(or just be supportive)

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coolheadal Established Member

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If I am upset I want my husband to be supportive & kind. Sometimes that may mean listening to me or holding me. Sometimes I may need pampering. Sometimes I may want him to be alone.

 

I would never expect him to guess or figure out what I want. I would ask for it.

 

 

If you GF isn't communicating with you clearly, ask (do not confront her. Confronting is too aggressive). Say something like:

Honey, you seem out of sorts. Is there anything I can do -- a hug? Chocolate? wine? Go away?

 

See how she responds. But you better follow through on what she asks for.

 

Correct he and all us men here should be supportive to our PMS women. I agree on this too!

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