Smosh Posted March 5, 2017 Posted March 5, 2017 A couple of months ago a girl added me on Facebook. I've send her a message to ask where does she know me but she didn't reply. I've accepted the friend request but had a relationship back then so I didn't asked again for a reply. Since I broke up I took the change of sending her a message a couple of days ago to ask something about a photo she uploaded with a person I know. We have some common friends. So we started texting. She told me that she added me because due to some of our close friends it seems that we might be relatives. So we both searched the issue extensively and it's 100% sure that we are not relatives at all (she might be my 8th or 9th cousin, we've even searched grandfathers, so no idea). We started Facebook chatting. On the 3rd day we talked on the phone for about 40 minutes. She studies in a college outside the city, which is 250km from here but she told me that she is planning to come for the next weekend or the weekend after that. My issue is that she is very slow in responding Facebook messages. Her response time is 15-60 mins. And Iam the one that always sends messages first during the day. When I left a day without sending anything she didn't even send too. And on the next day after the one that we didn't text each other I've also sent a message first, asked for a Skype and we did a Skype call with webcam for like 7 minutes because it was Saturday night and she had to go to a house with friends. I told her that we didn't have enough time to speak on Skype so we could repeat it this afternoon. So my question is: Why all this slow response in Facebook? Maybe she hangs out with another guy or she is interested and justs tests me? The response time seems to increase and has reached one hour. I haven't mentioned the issue of slow responses at all. Also keep in mind that she is a perfect 10 for me.
GemmaUK Posted March 5, 2017 Posted March 5, 2017 Er..15 to 60 minutes is not slow. Not at all. 2 weeks would be slow. 1
Erik30 Posted March 5, 2017 Posted March 5, 2017 (edited) Er..15 to 60 minutes is not slow. Not at all. 2 weeks would be slow. ^This was pretty much what I was thinking. However, if you notice you're not really able to have a conversation with her anymore like you used to because her texts are also getting shorter, she might be losing interest. Maybe she changed her mind after seeing you on Skype, or she got bored of texting. For some people, texting every day can become too much. I wouldn't mention it, but try to set up a date as soon as possible. (Maybe also back off a little bit and let her come to you) Edited March 5, 2017 by Erik30
GemmaUK Posted March 5, 2017 Posted March 5, 2017 Also, do you actually have a date arranged (time place, venue and you both know it's a date rather than just a meet up) ? The 'date' word is only mentioned in your title, not in your post so it kinda sounds like you don't have one arranged with her. She contacted you because she thought you two might be related - so not in an interested in dating type way from what you have said. 1
smackie9 Posted March 5, 2017 Posted March 5, 2017 (edited) From what you have posted, there was no intention to peruse anything in the romantic sense on her end. You are just another person added to her FB friends list. If she was into you she would have said you were cute and ask if you had a GF....then she would start calling you boo. None of that has happened so stop investing yourself in this girl. Edited March 5, 2017 by smackie9
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