leeroy1985 Posted July 25, 2005 Posted July 25, 2005 Me and my girlfriend get on really well and we can talk for hours which is nice because she can trust me with really personal info. but yesterday we were having a talk and she started asking me really worrying things! She asked me if id still be her friend (because we were really good friends before we got together) if she finished with me..... then she asked me what id do if she got back with her ex (whom i hate because he treated her like sh*t) These questions seemed really strange and worrying. Also during this talk her ex rung her numerous times but she wouldnt answer it! She also told me that shed cheated on her other boyfriends but only when shes drunk, which makes me think shell do it to me when shes drunk and she always asks me if im happy to stay with her forever and i say yes but she wont tell me when i ask her the same. She also says that she could get her ex boyfriend to beleive her no matter what she did and i thought well how do i know that shes not getting me to beleive what she wants me to beleive! Shes the first girl ive ever loved and im really confused because she always tells me that she loves me and that im the best thing thats ever happened to her and shes never been happier with anybody else other than me. So if all that is true then why is she asking me these weird questions? My vision is smogged by my love for her and i really need someone to shed some light onto the situation.... what should i do/say/think? All replies GREATLY appreciated
JanieQP Posted July 25, 2005 Posted July 25, 2005 I'd pay attention to the warning signs. Even if she loves you, it's hard to break old patterns ...
LucreziaBorgia Posted July 25, 2005 Posted July 25, 2005 She asked me if id still be her friend (because we were really good friends before we got together) if she finished with me..... then she asked me what id do if she got back with her ex She is making sure that when she cheats on you, you'll still be there for her.
Jolene Posted July 25, 2005 Posted July 25, 2005 She is playing games. You need a woman, not a child. Love means sacrificing and giving completely to another person. Being friends with an ex is one thing, but when it interferes with your relationship, it's time to think about if she is being forthright with you and being fair. I can tell you that if my boyfriend's ex was calling him at his house, I would pick up the phone and ask her if I could help her, say, get on with her life. If there is unfinished business there, you can break up with her to see if they get back together. You know, you wouldn't want to stand in the way of their relationship, because that's the difference between being a friend and being a goddam nuisance.
SoftDrink Posted July 25, 2005 Posted July 25, 2005 how blunt does this girl need to be? lose her before she does something stupid that affects you. even if she is saying these things to test your feelings, that's crappy too. she needs to grow up a lot.
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