Jolene Posted July 25, 2005 Posted July 25, 2005 What is a "good woman" exactly? Can any men out there perhaps translate this for me? Example e-mail my man sent to his friend recently: "...My life is pretty good. Found a good woman, had a good holiday, got my kitchen renovated, and got a new job here at *** with a bit more money. The woman I'm with has a 6 year old son from a previous relationship, so I'm doing a bit of a Dad thing. Life is good. Hope you are well." I am constantly hearing how I am a good woman. Also, he maintains friendship with his ex because she is also a "good woman". That's a whole other contentious issue. Although I am not interested in talking about it with him, I am interested if this whole "good woman" thing is really such a "good" thing. It gets on my nerves a bit. I don't want to be his "good woman/dog", I want to be his "wife". We are always making plans and saying "we" this and "we" that. How do I take him away from thinking of me as a good woman to actually buying me a ring and getting on with our future????
loony Posted July 25, 2005 Posted July 25, 2005 Your guy sounds like the type of guy who when he calls a woman a good woman will eventually marry her. He doesn't sound to be very complicated. You have good qualities and you're stable = good wife in his eyes.
relativity Posted July 27, 2005 Posted July 27, 2005 How is it that you have access to his email? Spying are we? When guys brag to other guys, they will usually say their lady friend is hot...if it's even remotely true. I'd find out if he thinks you're very attractive or not, or he'll be straying.
Author Jolene Posted July 27, 2005 Author Posted July 27, 2005 Ummm...I was not spying. He forwarded me the email so I could see the photgraph his friend sent back to him. It was sweet, but they all seem to understand the "good woman" language. I think they understand it as someone worth settling down with even though the term, to me anyway, reeks of male chauvinism. I just take it for what it's worth and ignore the inclination to point it out. P.S. I have always been quite aware of my good looks, so I am confident with that. He's not the type to brag about it anyway as he is overly "mature" about everything. I guess he's just a bit different in that sense, I agree.
A Fly onThe Wall Posted July 27, 2005 Posted July 27, 2005 A good woman is the kind that we see ourselves with in the future .. It's a good thing .. A compliment for your relationship..
alphamale Posted July 27, 2005 Posted July 27, 2005 Originally posted by Jolene How do I take him away from thinking of me as a good woman to actually buying me a ring and getting on with our future???? start acting like a beeyotch!!! contrary to popular opinion, men don't like totally "nice girls" or "good women". we want a women who is good and bad.
Author Jolene Posted July 27, 2005 Author Posted July 27, 2005 Well, I guess I'm really sitting on the throne of happiness with him then. I've been a biatch at times, but lately I've decided to reserve the biatch for when I need her most. Our last fight was a bit too scary for us both, meaning although it wasn't loud and physical, we were both very upset. I think I get your meaning, though. Luckily, I have been well trained in the past and can be soooo bad where he wants me to be the most. You know what I mean, right? And what you're saying makes sense....his last gf was also a "good woman" but he did not "love" her....what I get from that is that she was a doormat and a bad lay!!!!!
Woggle Posted July 27, 2005 Posted July 27, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale start acting like a beeyotch!!! contrary to popular opinion, men don't like totally "nice girls" or "good women". we want a women who is good and bad. This is not true. Real men appreciate when they find a member of the near extinct species we call a good woman. Your man means just that. You are a good woman. Don't analyze it too much. If you are really a good woman he might just give you a ring one day.
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