GemmaUK Posted March 12, 2017 Posted March 12, 2017 The main thing here is whether she likes the gift and she will also understand the effort he put into it. Had they met online and dated 3 weeks I would never have suggested it but they've known each other for a year prior to dating - so - they know each other pretty well at this point in time. Apologies OP, perhaps I shouldn't have posted again.
Els Posted March 13, 2017 Posted March 13, 2017 The main thing here is whether she likes the gift and she will also understand the effort he put into it. Had they met online and dated 3 weeks I would never have suggested it but they've known each other for a year prior to dating - so - they know each other pretty well at this point in time. I respectfully disagree - I don't think the time spent as acquaintances counts (if I recall correctly, he only said they were classmates, not that they were close friends). And if they had indeed been close friends but took a year to get together, I would wonder why as well, unless they were both in other relationships at that time. So in my view, they are a very, very new couple. But I'm not dismissing your opinion, Gemma - I think it's very valid. I just have a different one. IMO the whole point of asking for advice on a forum is to receive a variety of opinions, and then choose the ones that you think fit your situation best. Based on the way the OP presented himself initially, I guessed that he was a reasonable person who was capable of considering a range of opinions and saying "thanks, but I disagree" to mine if he felt it didn't fit. Clearly, I was wrong. Perhaps I touched a nerve? Who knows. Anyway, there is no need for him to request the thread to be closed - I'm not in the habit of wasting my time offering well-meaning advice where it is met with hostility (as opposed to civil disagreement, especially when I specifically stated that I was only offering a personal opinion). I'm happy to simply leave this thread. No hard feelings.
Author lover01 Posted April 1, 2017 Author Posted April 1, 2017 The main thing here is whether she likes the gift and she will also understand the effort he put into it. Had they met online and dated 3 weeks I would never have suggested it but they've known each other for a year prior to dating - so - they know each other pretty well at this point in time. Apologies OP, perhaps I shouldn't have posted again. Hey Gemma, I just wanted to write another short thank you - she really liked the gift and mostly emphasized that she liked how much thought and effort I put into it, so I want to thank you again for your help. Circumstances in life at the moment mean we can't spend as much time as we'd like - so time will tell how things will be for us, but this birthday gift at least was a success. We're both trying our best, so I'll keep hoping that that will change soon and that everything will work out. Thank you and take care. 1
GemmaUK Posted April 1, 2017 Posted April 1, 2017 If it was meant then things will turn out. Patience is a virtue but I am sure you know that anyway. I thought of you this week. Glad she liked it! Take care x 1
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