Gift for Girlfriend's Birthday

March 4, 2017

Hi girls of Loveshack,

About 3 weeks ago I got together with a girl who used to be my classmate and who I know for about a year now. It's her birthday next week, and I'm thinking about what to get for her. Given our work schedules, we get to see eachother no more than once a week usually, and I'll probably only have 10 minutes to bring a gift to her work next week. She's a very girly girl who e.g. likes to buy nice clothes and get her nails and hair done. She is also someone who takes things slow, and who wouldn't react good to something too full-on, so I don't want to blow her away with anything too crazy, nor want to embarass her at work.

Could anyone recommend some good gift ideas? I was thinking of buying her perfume, or e.g. a Rituals gift box given that she has to work a lot and it might be a nice thing to relax. Both options seem a tad generic though, and I want it to seem as if I put some thought behind it, because I am putting a lot of thought behind it at the moment but not really getting anywhere. I don't know what perfume she likes, so I'd have to pick something out myself, don't know if that's an issue or not. How would you feel if you got something like that, or do you have better ideas - just want to make her feel special and feel loved!

Thank you for your help

Edited March 4, 2017 by lover01

March 4, 2017

If I got a Rituals gift box I'd think - nice, but he wasn't even trying. Is there's something you associate with her?

March 4, 2017

If I got a Rituals gift box I'd think - nice, but he wasn't even trying. Is there's something you associate with her?

I was afraid that'd be the case already ! Not necessarily, though what I associate with her is that she's someone who liks to go shopping with her girfriends and get her nails done, likes fashion etc. Like I said, a very girly girl. Also she's really an independent type of girl with a great career who works very hard if that helps. What makes it hard is that I really just don't know one specific thing that she would like...

March 4, 2017

I was afraid that'd be the case already ! Not necessarily, though what I associate with her is that she's someone who liks to go shopping with her girfriends and get her nails done, likes fashion etc. Like I said, a very girly girl. Also she's really an independent type of girl with a great career who works very hard if that helps. What makes it hard is that I really just don't know one specific thing that she would like...

What about a gift card for her to get some sort of massage or facial treatment? Or a day at spa?

March 4, 2017

What about a gift card for her to get some sort of massage or facial treatment? Or a day at spa?

I think she would like that, because I've heard her say before that she went to a spa. Is that a thing girls do on their own though or should I get should I get two tickets for the spa then so she can go with a girlfriend, or is that not really necessary? Given how busy she is, I don't know if she'll actually go - which makes it hard. Still a good option though. Should I not also give her like a physical gift though? Feels a bit silly to give someone a voucher.

Was also thinking about buying tickets to go the ballet together since she mentioned she likes the ballet, but again would be afraid to book in advance given her busy schedule.

Life as a boyfriend is hard...

March 4, 2017

I think she would like that, because I've heard her say before that she went to a spa. Is that a thing girls do on their own though or should I get should I get two tickets for the spa then so she can go with a girlfriend, or is that not really necessary? Given how busy she is, I don't know if she'll actually go - which makes it hard. Still a good option though. Should I not also give her like a physical gift though? Feels a bit silly to give someone a voucher.

Was also thinking about buying tickets to go the ballet together since she mentioned she likes the ballet, but again would be afraid to book in advance given her busy schedule.

Life as a boyfriend is hard...

Oh believe me, she will go to the spa alright no woman is too busy to get spoiled, especially if she does find time for girlfriends, nail appointments and shopping. But why don't you go with her instead of sending her off with a girlfriend?

March 4, 2017

Oh believe me, she will go to the spa alright no woman is too busy to get spoiled, especially if she does find time for girlfriends, nail appointments and shopping. But why don't you go with her instead of sending her off with a girlfriend?

Haha, I guess you're right ! I won't have time to spend with her next weekend because I'm visiting family, and to be honest I feel like it's more of a thing to do for girls (I don't think I would enjoy it). Would it be weird if I just got a spa day for her, or then always add a ticket for a girlfriend? Edit: just looked online, can't believe how pricy spa days are actually, seems like 100 pound is the absolute minimum price. Willing to spend a bit, but was hoping to also give a small physical gift, so become expensive I guess.

Btw, would e.g. tickets to the ballet seem like a lesser option to you?

Edited March 4, 2017 by lover01

March 4, 2017

Haha, I guess you're right ! I won't have time to spend with her next weekend because I'm visiting family, and to be honest I feel like it's more of a thing to do for girls (I don't think I would enjoy it). Would it be weird if I just got a spa day for her, or then always add a ticket for a girl friend?

And would e.g. tickets to the ballet seem like a lesser option to you?

If you get a voucher for spa she can call and book it when it suits her (at least that's how it works where I live). Ballet isn't that flexible since there are probably fixed dates for the performances. Though it's a nice option as well.

You would not enjoy bubble bath and champagne with her or getting couples massage? For me it's a very nice activity to do with your SO

March 4, 2017

If you get a voucher for spa she can call and book it when it suits her (at least that's how it works where I live). Ballet isn't that flexible since there are probably fixed dates for the performances. Though it's a nice option as well.
You would not enjoy bubble bath and champagne with her or getting couples massage? For me it's a very nice activity to do with your SO

I think it would be but at the same time I don't want to put any pressure on her because I feel like it's a bit of an intimate thing to do together, and since we've been together for such a short while I'm not sure she'd like that now. And since it's her birthday, I mostly want her to enjoy it. Hope you get what I mean? Thanks a lot for the good advice!

Oh and by the way, should I also give her some physical gift? I don't know if it's silly to just give a gift card?

Edited March 4, 2017 by lover01

March 4, 2017

I think it would be but at the same time I don't want to put any pressure on her because I feel like it's a bit of an intimate thing to do together, and since we've been together for such a short while I'm not sure she'd like that now. And since it's her birthday, I mostly want her to enjoy it. Hope you get what I mean? Thanks a lot for the good advice!

Oh and by the way, should I also give her some physical gift? I don't know if it's silly to just give a gift card?

no to the gift card......what i have really appreciated is my guy who knows my scent.....and obviously loves it because he would buy it for me....if it s a perfume you smell all the time...does she have a day time perfume and a different night time perfume.....does she layer her scents so when, one perfume wears off theres an underlying base scent that comes to the top ...most perfumes have a top note and a base note.....my boyfriends would go through my handbag or my bathroom and find it out themselves..because i only have a signature night scent....i love many scents......lol...scents to me are huge......and during the day i wear lighter fragrances layered ..fruity ...soft flowers...ocean scents..... and i have a passion for woods.......and at night i wear one stronger oriental musk scent.....layered in different forms.....by creams or moisturizers as well perfume...and bath products....if she is a rose lover for example she may wear rose scented perfumes.....

there is this organic shop called lush...who have amazing skin care products massage bars that are a dream for skin...and gorgeous soaps........you could check them out...they have lovely bath soakers and melts......and shower gels.....they use essential oils in their products... and care for all types of skin......another shop is red earth who do clay body cleansers as well....

i feel you should just do the observe thing and find out what your gf is into.....listen when she says things like you know what i would really like.....or i love this.....then when you gift her something you have remembered you get top points for thoughtfulness...you know...sometimes just a really nice card with a really lovely message is a real treat fi given with a bunch of wildflowers...something different from a generic gift......can be ....a card personal and only meant for her....sent by snail mail.....to be a little bright spot ....in a letterbox full of bills......that makes a woman feel....loved....and appreciated..........i wish you well....deb

March 5, 2017

no to the gift card......what i have really appreciated is my guy who knows my scent.....and obviously loves it because he would buy it for me....if it s a perfume you smell all the time...does she have a day time perfume and a different night time perfume.....does she layer her scents so when, one perfume wears off theres an underlying base scent that comes to the top ...most perfumes have a top note and a base note.....my boyfriends would go through my handbag or my bathroom and find it out themselves..because i only have a signature night scent....i love many scents......lol...scents to me are huge......and during the day i wear lighter fragrances layered ..fruity ...soft flowers...ocean scents..... and i have a passion for woods.......and at night i wear one stronger oriental musk scent.....layered in different forms.....by creams or moisturizers as well perfume...and bath products....if she is a rose lover for example she may wear rose scented perfumes.....

there is this organic shop called lush...who have amazing skin care products massage bars that are a dream for skin...and gorgeous soaps........you could check them out...they have lovely bath soakers and melts......and shower gels.....they use essential oils in their products... and care for all types of skin......another shop is red earth who do clay body cleansers as well....

i feel you should just do the observe thing and find out what your gf is into.....listen when she says things like you know what i would really like.....or i love this.....then when you gift her something you have remembered you get top points for thoughtfulness...you know...sometimes just a really nice card with a really lovely message is a real treat fi given with a bunch of wildflowers...something different from a generic gift......can be ....a card personal and only meant for her....sent by snail mail.....to be a little bright spot ....in a letterbox full of bills......that makes a woman feel....loved....and appreciated..........i wish you well....deb

Thanks for your advice! I still like the idea of giving perfume as well because it's something she'll smell all day and carry with her. The problem is: even though I really want to I don't know what she likes since we've been together for just about 3 weeks, and I probably won't see before her birthday next week so can't really look into her bag. Would it be a bad idea if I tried out some perfumes in the store and bought her one based on what I think would be nice for her? And then add some chocolates or flowers? I was thinking to add a written note with an invitation to a dinner for 2 cooked by myself whenever she has time, but it might be a cheesy - and she's not a girl who likes overly cheesy things. Really appreciate the input again!

March 5, 2017

After 3 weeks... I'd say "happy birthday. Do you want to get together for a drink?"

March 5, 2017

After 3 weeks... I'd say "happy birthday. Do you want to get together for a drink?"

Part of me feels this way as well. My romantic half feels like it'd be a bit of a let down for her and a bit of a missed opportunity for me...

March 5, 2017

Part of me feels this way as well. My romantic half feels like it'd be a bit of a let down for her and a bit of a missed opportunity for me...

You dont want to be too romantic so soon especially since you dont know her well. Too much may scare her away

March 5, 2017

You dont want to be too romantic so soon especially since you dont know her well. Too much may scare her away

I know her for a year though - it's not like she's a complete stranger to me. And yes I know I shouldn't overdo it, but buying someone perfume is nothing overly crazy, is it? It's not like I'm buying her lingerie. I just want to make her feel special on her birthday, that's all.

March 5, 2017

Perfume is far too dangerous. It is very personal and you can really muck it up. She will buy the perfume that she likes.

I am biased but just acknowledging my birthday is special enough...maybe offer to take her to dinner and "if" she accepts ....bring flowers.

March 5, 2017

Perfume is far too dangerous. It is very personal and you can really muck it up. She will buy the perfume that she likes.

I am biased but just acknowledging my birthday is special enough...maybe offer to take her to dinner and "if" she accepts ....bring flowers.

I get your point, but I know I'm going to personally end up feeling better at least getting her something - I'm not goint to have time to spend with her on her birthday so just texting here "happy birthday" just won't make me personally feel good. Maybe back to the Rituals gift box then again lol? Why are girls so complicated...

Edit: would it be weird to just ask her what perfume she likes? Like "hey, I'm in a store because I want to get you something for your birthday, are you okay with being surprised or what kind of scents/perfume do you like?"

Edited March 5, 2017 by lover01

March 5, 2017

ugh...you don't have time to spend with her on her birthday...maybe a half-hearted gift will suffice. meh.

Can you offer to celebrate with her at a more appropriate time? I don't know many peple who actually celebrate ON their birthday. Maybe the weekend before or after?

p.s. my birthday is in 2 days and I will be working...and i like Hugo Boss

March 5, 2017

ugh...you don't have time to spend with her on her birthday...maybe a half-hearted gift will suffice. meh.

Can you offer to celebrate with her at a more appropriate time? I don't know many peple who actually celebrate ON their birthday. Maybe the weekend before or after?

p.s. my birthday is in 2 days and I will be working...and i like Hugo Boss

Haha, you again make a valid point, but I was also going to offer to celebrate with her later. It's just, the weekend after her birthday I'm not going to be able to see her since I'll be visiting family abroad, and this weekend she's busy.

I.e. I wanted to just give her something in the mean time, while still offering to celebrate later. What do you think about this idea of just asking her what she likes?

March 5, 2017

Perfume isn't a good idea if you don't know her favourites.

It's very personal so if she doesn't like the one you choose she isn't likely to wear it.

Spa days are very expensive generally.

I have bought a few female (girly types) the same kind of little gift - it's easy and doesn't take long to pick out either but is personal and useful.

I get myself off to Boots and Superdrug (assuming you are from the UK as you mentioned £'s).

I'll get a pretty little make up type bag and then fill it with various things:

Glass nail file.

Baylis & Harding mini anti-bac hand gel - (it smells lovely)

Travel hand cream

A compact mirror

A nail varnish or two (if she uses it and choose colours she uses).

Then I'll look for other little bits like tweezers, a travel make up brush (one of the twisty up ones which is compact)

Then a lip balm or a rose tinted lip gloss.

Just make sure it all fits into the bag you get and then you can wrap each item in wrapping tissue and place it in the bag.

I haven't given this to anyone yet who didn't love it.

Also, if you're stuck for what to choose then explain to one of the female members of staff what it's for and I have no doubt they'd help you pick things out.

You can spend as little or as much as you want.

March 5, 2017

Perfume isn't a good idea if you don't know her favourites.
It's very personal so if she doesn't like the one you choose she isn't likely to wear it.

Spa days are very expensive generally.

I have bought a few female (girly types) the same kind of little gift - it's easy and doesn't take long to pick out either but is personal and useful.
I get myself off to Boots and Superdrug (assuming you are from the UK as you mentioned £'s).
I'll get a pretty little make up type bag and then fill it with various things:
Glass nail file.
Baylis & Harding mini anti-bac hand gel - (it smells lovely)
Travel hand cream
A compact mirror
A nail varnish or two (if she uses it and choose colours she uses).
Then I'll look for other little bits like tweezers, a travel make up brush (one of the twisty up ones which is compact)
Then a lip balm or a rose tinted lip gloss.
Just make sure it all fits into the bag you get and then you can wrap each item in wrapping tissue and place it in the bag.

I haven't given this to anyone yet who didn't love it.
Also, if you're stuck for what to choose then explain to one of the female members of staff what it's for and I have no doubt they'd help you pick things out.
You can spend as little or as much as you want.

Think this is probably the best advice so far! Was already thinking to go to a store and ask for advice, this really sounds good ! I am indeed in the UK, so think I'll head to one of those stores today. Thank so much!

March 5, 2017

What do you think about this idea of just asking her what she likes?

nah you can't ask her because then you didn't put any thought into it. Can you phone a friend? I once hacked my (she was my girlfriend at the time) phone and arranged a surprise party. She was so mad that everyone suddenly had "plans" and then we wen't to the bar where we met and all her friends were there!

March 5, 2017

Think this is probably the best advice so far! Was already thinking to go to a store and ask for advice, this really sounds good ! I am indeed in the UK, so think I'll head to one of those stores today. Thank so much!

It'll take a bit of picking out - but it's a one stop shop thing and as she is a girly type will look personal to her. It'll make it look like you put some real effort in!

When I get the good stuff it can come to around £30/$40 but I've also spent just £15 and it's turned out good.

March 5, 2017

really? Do you know what colors of blush and crap she wears? Maybe buy her a dress and guess what size she wears

March 5, 2017

really? Do you know what colors of blush and crap she wears? Maybe buy her a dress and guess what size she wears

I have never put anything that tricky to choose in there - best avoided IMO.

Lightly tinted lip stuff is much easier - unless of course she wears very heavy dark lipsticks.

Nail varnishes - many of us tend to use pinks/reds/purples on our toes even if we don't do our nail varnish on our hands ourselves so again - you pretty much can't go too wrong.

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