GemmaUK Posted March 10, 2017 Posted March 10, 2017 Why don't you just say you like to regularly go to upscale restaurants with a romantic atmosphere, enjoy dressing up or minimum smart casual, that you like to go dutch and that you don't like blue jeans and you want to date someone who feels the same and would want to attend these kind of restaurants as a regular thing, not just at the start of dating?
Author Wayne0789456 Posted March 14, 2017 Author Posted March 14, 2017 Why don't you just say you like to regularly go to upscale restaurants with a romantic atmosphere, enjoy dressing up or minimum smart casual, that you like to go dutch and that you don't like blue jeans and you want to date someone who feels the same and would want to attend these kind of restaurants as a regular thing, not just at the start of dating? It seems as though the same words can mean different things to different people. Perhaps I just need to get in to it somewhat in phone conversations.
basil67 Posted March 14, 2017 Posted March 14, 2017 It seems as though the same words can mean different things to different people. Perhaps I just need to get in to it somewhat in phone conversations. Yes. I have no idea what a lot of the descriptions you came up with in your first post intend to convey. If a woman *asks* you how to dress, use the standard phrases such as d0nnivain suggested in post #31. But if she doesn't ask your opinion, DO NOT tell a woman how you want her to dress when you go to a restaurant. If she wants your advice or opinion, she will ask.
Author Wayne0789456 Posted March 14, 2017 Author Posted March 14, 2017 Basil67, I got to all the questions you asked me in #49, but I think this thread fell down too low to be found. Just wondering if you got a chance to read my responses. I have never, nor will I ever, tell a date what to wear. It's all about the atmosphere of the restaurant, I'm just looking for a way to communicate that i like those types of restaurants, but a byproduct of that is the "appropriate type of attire". It's not about the attire in itself.
basil67 Posted March 14, 2017 Posted March 14, 2017 You could take the suggestions by Gemma and Introverted just above your post. Simply say that you enjoy getting dressed up and going out to nice restaurants. No more, no less. Keep it simple. And you may laugh to find out that this thread inspired me to draft and sew a pair of 1940's style high waisted pants. Now I have to sew a blouse or find one at a goodwill store 1
Miss Spider Posted March 14, 2017 Posted March 14, 2017 (edited) Wayne, I mean no disrespect but I don't believe for one second this has anything to do with food. However, id wear flip flops to Red Lobster. I mean, my feet are nice and yea they aren't as cute as peep toes heels or cute sandals but dammit they're comfy and it's Red Lobster? Who is going to seem classy binging on cheese biscuits anyhoo Edited March 14, 2017 by Cookiesandough
basil67 Posted March 16, 2017 Posted March 16, 2017 If the rest of the date can work with the attire appropriate for the nicer atmosphere restaurant, then that's the restaurant I look for For instance, maybe seeing a movie, or mini golf, or taking a little road trip to see the fall colors, or a Christmas parade or light show, or if we go out to eat only, things like that. After that, it's about good food and less about the atmosphere. Activities like a stroll (not a hike) in the park, riding a paddleboat, bowling, roller skating, ice skating, then I would suggest something more casual, like Applebee's or Red Lobster, or maybe slightly nicer, but not like the fancy non-formal of the previous paragraph. This was the bit which got me stuck when we were writing earlier. It's all so contrived. So planned. I would suggest going out on fun dates and not even considering what you're wearing when choosing dinner. The best dates I ever had with my husband were when we'd have post Friday night drinks with my hubby's work mates then catch the first bus going in approximately the right direction home. We'd then choose a random restaurant for dinner. Our choice would be made according to what we felt like eating and with zero regard to how we were dressed or the ambience of the restaurant. We had good and bad experiences and they were truly the best dates ever! 1
GemmaUK Posted March 18, 2017 Posted March 18, 2017 Must admit I ended up googling the Red Lobster and Olive Garden places and they're the kind of places I never go to unless it's a work meal or something and obligatory or if there is just nowhere else nearby. For what these places are they are over priced, not great service and not great food. In the UK I'd put them along the same scale as Prezzo and Zizzi's. If the OP is shifting between those places and then whilst out springing somewhere nicer when you're been on a round of mini golf or a Christmas light show then I can see why she'd opt for Applebee's ( I googled that too!) - cheaper, more relaxed and a better looking menu to be honest. Dressing up would not be appropriate really for somewhere just a step above Red Lobster and Olive Garden but if all you need is food 'on the fly' as the OP mentioned then Applebee's actually looks like it's OK to me. I would rather go there that RL or OG. I prefer great little independent bistro's for a dinner 'as a night out' experience and would dress up for that but that would be the destination for the night, not a meal after an activity.
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