Radil Posted July 25, 2005 Posted July 25, 2005 Spent most of the weekend with a new woman I am dating and we had a wonderful time. Would sending her flowers at work saying I had a nice time be too much ?
laRubiaBonita Posted July 25, 2005 Posted July 25, 2005 Originally posted by A Fly onThe Wall Did you have sex ? not yet....that is what the flowers are for!
Author Radil Posted July 25, 2005 Author Posted July 25, 2005 no we didn't I could have but I didn't want to rush into it.
A Fly onThe Wall Posted July 25, 2005 Posted July 25, 2005 I..Personally never send flowers to someone I am just starting to get to know.. But if you had sex then it is a brainer. Bring her flowers ( something small ) the next time you take her out
elijahBailey Posted July 25, 2005 Posted July 25, 2005 For me, I wouldn't send it for the simple reason that it lowers my stock value and raises hers but then, I would send it to someone that I'm already going out with.
Author Radil Posted July 25, 2005 Author Posted July 25, 2005 Well it isn't like I just met her. I am curious from a womans point of view on this. Would she be flattered ?
Author Radil Posted July 25, 2005 Author Posted July 25, 2005 ouch....... I know it is hard to explain online the chemistry between 2 people. I am older 37 actually and meeting someone today it seems everything just happens faster. I just thought it would be a nice gesture but that is why I asked for opinons here. I did think you could send someone flowers and be clear in your card with your intentions so nothing is taken out of context.
scratch Posted July 25, 2005 Posted July 25, 2005 Originally posted by Radil ouch....... I know it is hard to explain online the chemistry between 2 people. I am older 37 actually and meeting someone today it seems everything just happens faster. I just thought it would be a nice gesture but that is why I asked for opinons here. I did think you could send someone flowers and be clear in your card with your intentions so nothing is taken out of context. You want to send flowers so the girl will like you more. Either it will have the opposite effect as you intended (too much too soon), or it will have no effect, i.e. she likes you enough without the flowers. There's nothing to gain by going through with the gesture.
laRubiaBonita Posted July 25, 2005 Posted July 25, 2005 it IS a nice jestrure.....but a little too nice for a first date. i like what fly said, about Bringing her flowers the next time you go out...it is a bit more casual, and it sets the "flower tone". after that, sending them would be fine.
loony Posted July 25, 2005 Posted July 25, 2005 Ok, I think it would depend on who sent them. If this was a guy who had a tendency to be a tad too nice, then I wouldn't want the flowers. If this was a really nice person who likes to be generous and has been generous in general without being a wuss, then I might look at them differently. If I had been intimate with someone, then I guess, I would be really head over heels for him and then sending me flowers would have been greatly appreciated. Spoil her rotten if you know she likes you, too. As you are in the stage of wooing I'm not sure what the situation is for you, how she sees it, etc. That's why I thought it might be better to take things a bit slower.
Author Radil Posted July 25, 2005 Author Posted July 25, 2005 She is very much a woman who wants to be swept off her feet !!!
loony Posted July 25, 2005 Posted July 25, 2005 Originally posted by Radil She is very much a woman who wants to be swept off her feet !!! Well, these women are very demanding and expect a lot. Are you sure you can stand up to her? (That's no insult, just a question...)
JanieQP Posted July 25, 2005 Posted July 25, 2005 I wouldn't send flowers to her office. There are lots of other ways to sweep her off her feet ...
JS17 Posted July 25, 2005 Posted July 25, 2005 i would say wait until at least your third or fourth date for flowers. i've received flowers early on and it was great, i was swept off my feet. another guy gave me this australian licorice that i like that's not that easy to find. it was like $2.50 but it meant just as much to me and it was a smaller gesture that didn't feel too serious. needless to say, both turned out to be jerks. the best guy i ever dated never gave me a single material item. having him as a friend and confidant was more than enough.
Author Radil Posted July 25, 2005 Author Posted July 25, 2005 hehe I think I got the point. Yes I can stand up to her. She is not demanding at all. Well maybe another time. You know you always tell yourself to take things slow and don't rush into things but when 2 people have good chemistry it is like being on cruise control and sometimes it goes faster than one would expect.
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted July 25, 2005 Posted July 25, 2005 Originally posted by Radil She is very much a woman who wants to be swept off her feet !!! So am I, and I would LOVE to get flowers from a new guy to show that he is INTO ME! I was seeing a guy a few months ago. On our 4th date (and overnight sex) he gave me a beautiful bouquet of a dozen pink roses. It blew me away, they were gorgeous flowers and it meant so much to me. Then, while I was brushing my teeth, he came in and stood and took a piss in the toilet. Then a few min later on my way out of his bedroom, while he was standing at the doorway, he farted as I went past. He didn't think anything of it. When I didn't call him ever again, he asked me if he blew it with the flowers!
loony Posted July 25, 2005 Posted July 25, 2005 Originally posted by MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Then, while I was brushing my teeth, he came in and stood and took a piss in the toilet. Then a few min later on my way out of his bedroom, while he was standing at the doorway, he farted as I went past. He didn't think anything of it. When I didn't call him ever again, he asked me if he blew it with the flowers! Oh my god!!! :lmao:
scratch Posted July 25, 2005 Posted July 25, 2005 Originally posted by MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 So am I, and I would LOVE to get flowers from a new guy to show that he is INTO ME! I was seeing a guy a few months ago. On our 4th date (and overnight sex) he gave me a beautiful bouquet of a dozen pink roses. It blew me away, they were gorgeous flowers and it meant so much to me. Then, while I was brushing my teeth, he came in and stood and took a piss in the toilet. Then a few min later on my way out of his bedroom, while he was standing at the doorway, he farted as I went past. He didn't think anything of it. When I didn't call him ever again, he asked me if he blew it with the flowers! You mean to say that you went from head over heels to "no contact" with a guy because he pissed and farted in front of you? Methinks you weren't as blown away as you'd like everyone to believe.
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted July 25, 2005 Posted July 25, 2005 I wasn't head over heels for this guy. We were becoming closer and were intimate and he was into me. I was blown away by the "gesture" of being given flowers to show me how much he cared. I couldn't remember the last time I got flowers from a guy, and I love getting flowers for any reason. There were a few other red flags that night and I was still getting over an ex. I wasn't into HIM. I was making a point that it wasn't the flowers that blew it for him.
loony Posted July 25, 2005 Posted July 25, 2005 Originally posted by scratch You mean to say that you went from head over heels to "no contact" with a guy because he pissed and farted in front of you? Methinks you weren't as blown away as you'd like everyone to believe. You're not seriously claiming that you would not consider this to be a HUGE turn off??? It's not as if they were married for 20 years...
scratch Posted July 25, 2005 Posted July 25, 2005 Originally posted by MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 I was making a point that it wasn't the flowers that blew it for him. But they really didn't help him, either, now, did they?
scratch Posted July 25, 2005 Posted July 25, 2005 Originally posted by loony You're not seriously claiming that you would not consider this to be a HUGE turn off??? It's not as if they were married for 20 years... I am claiming that. Bodily functions generally aren't dealbreakers, I would think. But I think that men and women differ in that men look for ways to find a certain woman dateable and women look for ways to find a certain man undateable.
loony Posted July 25, 2005 Posted July 25, 2005 Originally posted by scratch I am claiming that. Bodily functions generally aren't dealbreakers, I would think. But I think that men and women differ in that men look for ways to find a certain woman dateable and women look for ways to find a certain man undateable. Ok, maybe you're not really the romantic type of guy to understand my point of view. And it's not about looking for ways to find a man undateable, I just wonder how he would behave when he really feels comfortable with her....
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