7675 Posted March 4, 2017 Posted March 4, 2017 Let me start by saying, things are great between my girlfriend and I. We've been together for 9 months now. So, like any other attractive girl in university, she attracts a lot of attention from other guys. The thing is, she has this habit of mentioning when a guy seems to be hitting on her. When she talks about it, she says it as though she is amused by what they do in an annoyed kinda way. Like this other guy who randomly called at her residence and tried to make convo with her. Or another one who randomly asked to walk with her on campus and then asked for her number. Now, i completely trust her, and I only ever feel slightly bothered by what she says. But I never react in any way other than to laugh it off. But I've been wondering why she would even mention those things? What BF would enjoy hearing about other guys hitting on their girl. Is this one of those "tests" that people always talk about. She doesn't seem like the type to play those games though 1
CollegeKid101 Posted March 4, 2017 Posted March 4, 2017 Let me start by saying, things are great between my girlfriend and I. We've been together for 9 months now. So, like any other attractive girl in university, she attracts a lot of attention from other guys. The thing is, she has this habit of mentioning when a guy seems to be hitting on her. When she talks about it, she says it as though she is amused by what they do in an annoyed kinda way. Like this other guy who randomly called at her residence and tried to make convo with her. Or another one who randomly asked to walk with her on campus and then asked for her number. Now, i completely trust her, and I only ever feel slightly bothered by what she says. But I never react in any way other than to laugh it off. But I've been wondering why she would even mention those things? What BF would enjoy hearing about other guys hitting on their girl. Is this one of those "tests" that people always talk about. She doesn't seem like the type to play those games though I actually think this is a good thing. The fact she is telling you, as long as she's not acting on anything, shows that she cares about you. Yeah it might be annoying that some dude is hitting on your girl, but you would probably do the same if you saw an attractive girl and were single. It's an ego-boost for her, laugh it off and just be happy you're her boyfriend and the other guys aren't. I dated a girl who wouldn't tell me things and later found out she was acting on things..no reason to worry man. 2
todreaminblue Posted March 4, 2017 Posted March 4, 2017 would you honestly rather she kept it a secret?....deb
GoldSparkz Posted March 4, 2017 Posted March 4, 2017 It sounds like she's trying to keep you on your toes by making you jealous. If she was a completely secure kind of woman, she wouldn't feel the need to tell you about it. Just tell her that you obviously trust her, you're not a jealous person and don't feel it necessary for her to mention every time she gets hit on. If she mentions it again, then just act aloof, like "OK whatever"...she'll soon stop when she knows that she's not getting the attention she wants. 3
Sparta Posted March 4, 2017 Posted March 4, 2017 OP whatever just tell yourself that this relationship among all your relationships are temporary. like prepare yourself she can be gone the next day, practice gratitude. because that's the reality of life. Nothing is for sure in this world ...I think it could head into red flag area kinda. Developing the need for some kind of validation.? she definitely likes the attention. Educate yourself relationships maybe try talking to her find out if there's any trauma in her past like have a verbal or physical abuse. If she has been molested anything like that can at the percentage to be candidate for infidelity. there's nothing you can really do is just. might want to find stay on top of your relationship never taking her for granted, Read books on relationships you've got to stay on top of your every aspect of your life. Just Love her learn about the alpha male thing. And keep your side of the street clean lead by example. Don't take any of her ***** though dude she'll test you. They don't even know that they're doing it sometimes that's about that Alpha thing stay on top your life
morrowrd Posted March 4, 2017 Posted March 4, 2017 Women get hit on all the time, even average looking ones. Attractive women get hit on more often, so you'd better get used to it. So far, you're doing the right thing, just laughing it off when she shares about when it happens. One thing you could do, is tell her that since she's so damn beautiful, that you're going to have to hold her close whenever you're out in public, so that nobody "steals her." Say it playfully, and put your arm around her and hold her close in a snuggly way. I'm betting that she'll smile, and be affectionate right back at you. 1
gorf Posted March 4, 2017 Posted March 4, 2017 Its not a matter of getting hit on. Girls get hit on. It happens. When its a girl in a relationship, and the guy flirting her up is not you, then the question becomes "how does she react" If you trust her, I say great. If she hasnt given you a reason not to, then dont stick the spoon in that pot and stir it up. From my perspective, being with an attractive girl, she might be doing a number of things: -reminding you she is desirable ** -showing you, since you are not there to see, that she is not letting them get anywhere -seeing if you care Remember she is telling you this for a reason. So dont ignore her or blow her off. Instead, remind her how much she means to you and how attractive she is to you etc. If it turns out she is a pure attention hog, then you will notice other signs in time. But for now just trust her and let her know how you feel about her 1
stillafool Posted March 4, 2017 Posted March 4, 2017 It sounds like she's trying to keep you on your toes by making you jealous. If she was a completely secure kind of woman, she wouldn't feel the need to tell you about it. Just tell her that you obviously trust her, you're not a jealous person and don't feel it necessary for her to mention every time she gets hit on. If she mentions it again, then just act aloof, like "OK whatever"...she'll soon stop when she knows that she's not getting the attention she wants. I agree. She is trying to let you know that she is in high demand. I think it's a sign of insecurity and immaturity to do so. I would never tell my husband that men are hitting on me unless someone crosses a boundary. 1
introverted1 Posted March 4, 2017 Posted March 4, 2017 I actually think this is a good thing. The fact she is telling you, as long as she's not acting on anything, shows that she cares about you. I dated a girl who wouldn't tell me things and later found out she was acting on things.. She is trying to let you know that she is in high demand. I think it's a sign of insecurity and immaturity to do so. OP, as you can see, there's no winning for her. If she tells you, she's attention-seeking. If she doesn't tell you, she's planning to cheat. You know her best. What do you think her motives are?
todreaminblue Posted March 4, 2017 Posted March 4, 2017 (edited) I agree. She is trying to let you know that she is in high demand. I think it's a sign of insecurity and immaturity to do so. I would never tell my husband that men are hitting on me unless someone crosses a boundary. i agree but as far as letting it get to the boundary level i tell before they breach it.......and normally that is touches that become uncomfortable when they act upon words and dont stop....i usually deal with things by distance.....set them straight from get go.....and put up with innuendo.....pretend like i dont hear it.......and i dont consider myself attractive...so i could totally imagine pretty girls,attractive women cop more than i do .......deb Edited March 4, 2017 by todreaminblue
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