Icey Posted March 4, 2017 Posted March 4, 2017 Wont bore thee with a large wall of text but I'm going loco . Have been for months. This guy is quiet & shy and I'm almost sure he likes me. Nothing but stares, the occasional conversations and complements. It's driving me crazy wondering where it will go so I need answers! I am just dying to know if it's something or nothing - either way, whatever, I just want to know!!! So....Would it be strange of me to just message or Facebook him asking where he sees things going and if so what should I say or I have to keep waiting (pls no)? I do see him regularly so it's not like I can just drop this situation! Help a girl out.
Tressugar Posted March 4, 2017 Posted March 4, 2017 Take it from me when a guy stares, smiles and maybe lends a few compliments here or there, and doesn't follow up with solid actions, he's not interested. Spare yourself of a time waster and move on. 3
mightycpa Posted March 4, 2017 Posted March 4, 2017 Wont bore thee with a large wall of text but I'm going loco . Have been for months. This guy is quiet & shy and I'm almost sure he likes me. Nothing but stares, the occasional conversations and complements. It's driving me crazy wondering where it will go so I need answers! I am just dying to know if it's something or nothing - either way, whatever, I just want to know!!! So....Would it be strange of me to just message or Facebook him asking where he sees things going and if so what should I say or I have to keep waiting (pls no)? I do see him regularly so it's not like I can just drop this situation! Help a girl out. You want to know? Or you're interested in him? There's a difference, you know? If you're interested, what difference does it make if he's interested or not? Ask him out! You'll get your answer. If you're just curious, then leave it alone. What difference does it make? You'll just embarrass him anyway, whatever the answer is.
GoldSparkz Posted March 4, 2017 Posted March 4, 2017 There is nothing wrong with you approaching him, but if you started dating, you may find yourself taking the lead every time. I know I'm being old fashioned here but I personally prefer the guy to take the lead if he's interested. The problem with me approaching the guy is that I would never know whether he is genuinely interested. Yes, he may go on a date with me if I asked him to, but what man would turn down a woman? How many opportunities will he get in his lifetime where he is asked out by the woman? Hardly any! So of course he's going to say yes.But that doesn't mean he is interested. My advice is to stop with the flirting and start acting aloof with this guy. Don't contact him on Facebook or approach him in any way. If you see him, its just "Hi" and "Bye". Pull away and see whether he approaches you. If he doesn't then he's not interested. 1
CptInsano Posted March 4, 2017 Posted March 4, 2017 If a guy has spoken to you, sees you regularly, and still doesn't make an effort, then it's just not that important to him. There are a lot of men who are afraid to chat up a woman, but very few that are too shy to talk to her again after they have already spoken. The latter is usually a lack of interest.
Author Icey Posted March 4, 2017 Author Posted March 4, 2017 Take it from me when a guy stares, smiles and maybe lends a few compliments here or there, and doesn't follow up with solid actions, he's not interested. Spare yourself of a time waster and move on. I had wondered that, but I always account it towards his shyness, he seems very intimidated by me. I'm close to dropping it. D: You want to know? Or you're interested in him? There's a difference, you know? If you're interested, what difference does it make if he's interested or not? Ask him out! You'll get your answer. If you're just curious, then leave it alone. What difference does it make? You'll just embarrass him anyway, whatever the answer is. Oh yesss of course I'm interested, I would defiantly not care at all this much if I didn't like him so much. Eeeuugh..
Author Icey Posted March 4, 2017 Author Posted March 4, 2017 There is nothing wrong with you approaching him, but if you started dating, you may find yourself taking the lead every time. I know I'm being old fashioned here but I personally prefer the guy to take the lead if he's interested. The problem with me approaching the guy is that I would never know whether he is genuinely interested. Yes, he may go on a date with me if I asked him to, but what man would turn down a woman? How many opportunities will he get in his lifetime where he is asked out by the woman? Hardly any! So of course he's going to say yes.But that doesn't mean he is interested. My advice is to stop with the flirting and start acting aloof with this guy. Don't contact him on Facebook or approach him in any way. If you see him, its just "Hi" and "Bye". Pull away and see whether he approaches you. If he doesn't then he's not interested. Thanks for the reply! We have actually been out once, more as 'friends'. It seemed to intimidate him more. Maybe it's being uninterested. I tried the pull away for a few weeks and he did actually come up to talk with me alone - but he never asked me out again, just a chat. Boo. He's either really slow off the bat or not into me If a guy has spoken to you, sees you regularly, and still doesn't make an effort, then it's just not that important to him. There are a lot of men who are afraid to chat up a woman, but very few that are too shy to talk to her again after they have already spoken. The latter is usually a lack of interest. Talking to him more almost made him worse! Am feeling the need to drop it for sanity sakes, but I know as a shy guy he would be very experienced with women, I don't want to write him off just for that.
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