7675 Posted March 3, 2017 Posted March 3, 2017 Rather simple question. Is it ok to befriend your girlfriend's friend/s on social media, especially if you see them quite often.
todreaminblue Posted March 3, 2017 Posted March 3, 2017 i think its really respectful to ask first...i dont see a problem with it unless you say hey they are hot can i add them or have desings on th efriends you wan tto add........ ..if you see them all the time...then there shouldnt be a problem...but every woman is different and some might find it uncomfortable...would you feel comfortable if a gf added your male friends without asking?...deb
Author 7675 Posted March 3, 2017 Author Posted March 3, 2017 I suppose you're right. But I'm not sure about the asking part, just seems like an odd request. I barely use social media, so it wouldn't be about chatting with her friends or anything like that. It would simply be like a form of acknowledgement that I am friendly with her friends. I don't know how girls feel about that kinda stuff though because i think it's a little different when the roles are reversed 1
todreaminblue Posted March 3, 2017 Posted March 3, 2017 (edited) I suppose you're right. But I'm not sure about the asking part, just seems like an odd request. I barely use social media, so it wouldn't be about chatting with her friends or anything like that. It would simply be like a form of acknowledgement that I am friendly with her friends. I don't know how girls feel about that kinda stuff though because i think it's a little different when the roles are reversed tell me why is it different? I am not being smart i just want to know..do you think its different for a woman to ask to add a bf male friends....????..personally i wouldnt feel the need to .....my guy could go between if i had something to say to his mates or ask of his mates ...or i would see them in person.... i think by the way its odd not to ask it is respect shown.... and to just do...that to me is a little rude...... \ to discuss something before you do it to me makes more sense.....maybe im backward or old fashioned ..but having a discussion about what makes you comfortable and what doesnt is growth.....its knowing the person you are with....and saving misunderstandings and overstepping boundaries.....deb Edited March 3, 2017 by todreaminblue
Author 7675 Posted March 3, 2017 Author Posted March 3, 2017 tell me why is it different? I am not being smart i just want to know..do you think its different for a woman to ask to add a bf male friends....????..personally i wouldnt feel the need to .....my guy could go between if i had something to say to his mates or ask of his mates ...or i would see them in person.... i think by the way its odd not to ask it is respect shown.... and to just do...that to me is a little rude...... \ to discuss something before you do it to me makes more sense.....maybe im backward or old fashioned ..but having a discussion about what makes you comfortable and what doesnt is growth.....its knowing the person you are with....and saving misunderstandings and overstepping boundaries.....deb Well, from my experience, the opinions of friends are very important to girls. So their friends will more or less always know about (and eventually meet) any guy she is dating, and the more her friends like you, the better. So if you end up knowing any of her friends a little better, it seems more natural to just be friendlier with them. Guys, on the other hand, don't ever seem to really care about the specific girl, so long as she is loyal and all that. I barely know any of my guy's girlfriends. All I know of them is what they tell me. Also, as guys, there's that element of we don't want anyone getting too comfortable with our girlfriends, even if it's our friends. As for the asking part... I would never have any issues with my GF befriending my friends over social media. As long as they don't start texting or messaging each other all the time, it wouldn't matter at all. So.. if she ever felt like she had to ask me before doing it, I would automatically question why she's asking. Like, am I supposed to be worried about it or something, is there something more to it than just sending a friend request, you know... That's just me though 1
todreaminblue Posted March 3, 2017 Posted March 3, 2017 Well, from my experience, the opinions of friends are very important to girls. So their friends will more or less always know about (and eventually meet) any guy she is dating, and the more her friends like you, the better. So if you end up knowing any of her friends a little better, it seems more natural to just be friendlier with them. Guys, on the other hand, don't ever seem to really care about the specific girl, so long as she is loyal and all that. I barely know any of my guy's girlfriends. All I know of them is what they tell me. Also, as guys, there's that element of we don't want anyone getting too comfortable with our girlfriends, even if it's our friends. As for the asking part... I would never have any issues with my GF befriending my friends over social media. As long as they don't start texting or messaging each other all the time, it wouldn't matter at all. So.. if she ever felt like she had to ask me before doing it, I would automatically question why she's asking. Like, am I supposed to be worried about it or something, is there something more to it than just sending a friend request, you know... That's just me though i see your point.....i never added any of my bfs friends off social media.....guys or girls.....i see what you are saying about being friendly with her friends...but do you see to some women that may be a problem that is why i suggested ask first...because like men ...some women have that not too friendly with my friends attitude.....me... doesnt bother me....even though..i have had an ex who slept with my best friend....we didnt have face book back then.....if a guy or girl wants to get overly friendly adn they are not loyal..... they will be disloyal ..regardless if they have face book or not..... to me...friends have little influence on who i date...if none.....i would like my friends to like my guy...and i would like my guy to like my friends too.... to see what i see more or less...adn we can all be a love fest of happiness and fun outings..........but if they dont see what i see....respect goes both ways......they just have to respect we are together...like my guy has to respect my friends even if he doesnt...really see what i see.....he trusts me i trust him and friends..well ....if they care for me ..they will be happy for me.....and trust me and respect my judgment.... i dont think friends .....should have much sway......if any...the guy i would call a boyfriend would have access to my facebook anyway.......deb
CptInsano Posted March 3, 2017 Posted March 3, 2017 I would stay away from her friends on social media altogether. If you are not aware of the dynamics of her little social circle, befriending a "close enemy" can have very unintended consequences. These are also her friends and not yours, she may not even want you to have close contact. I would tread carefully. 3
Gaeta Posted March 3, 2017 Posted March 3, 2017 Don't even think about it. Then you'll like a picture or a post of one of her friends and she'll accuse you of 'liking' her too much etc. Save yourself all the drama. Keep it separate on social media. 6
d0nnivain Posted March 3, 2017 Posted March 3, 2017 Maybe. It depends on the maturity level of those involved. As I started to get to know my husband's Marine buddies I was reluctant to "friend" them. I did friend a few of their wives. The wives encouraged me to friend the husbands. It made it easier to coordinate group events / trips. When I was younger, in my 20s etc. if social media had existed I think I would have refrained from these connections. When the relationship ends, it's just more people you have to delete from your life. It also has too much potential to cause misunderstandings & hurt feelings. You can see what they do on your GFs page; no need to interact directly. 2
smackie9 Posted March 3, 2017 Posted March 3, 2017 You would be a damn fool to them them into your inner circle getting all up in your biz. It's a recipe for disaster. The less they know about what is going on with you the better IMO. And what about the dudes you know on your FB page....that's all you need is for them to start hitting on her friends through social media. More drama you can live without. 2
dumbass2 Posted March 3, 2017 Posted March 3, 2017 Don't do it. You say you're not on there much anyway so why even bother going there? Nothing to gain except potential for drama that could effect your relationship.
kendahke Posted March 3, 2017 Posted March 3, 2017 Rather simple question. Is it ok to befriend your girlfriend's friend/s on social media, especially if you see them quite often. ask your girlfriend if she minds. Personally, I'd take a pass on all of the silly drama... and that's what this will turn into with you being cast as the villain.
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