hindsight2021 Posted April 3, 2017 Posted April 3, 2017 Hey mrtini, This sounds like trouble to me. She broke up with a long term boyfriend only a few months ago. There is no way she is over it yet. She might be spending so much time with you because it makes her not have to feel the hurt 100% from that breakup. The illusion of a relationship. And attention from someone. Although this may seem like a virtuous thing to you, this is not a good situation. You have inquired multiple times over the course of a few months about what this is/can we make this a relationship. She has said she has to think about it more than once. It shouldn't take this long to think about it if the dinners and these behaviors have gone on for so long. I truly believe what is happening here is that she feels hurt and about strong sense of loss from her previous relationship, and doing this stuff with you is keeping her from feeling the complete hurt from it. She's not over it yet. And telling you things to keep you around so she doesn't feel alone. You cannot rescue her or help her. She must do it for herself. Of you try to, you will get hurt my friend.
VeveCakes Posted April 3, 2017 Posted April 3, 2017 Again, she's just not that into you. You fill a void for dinners and company. When someone she is interested in dating comes along, you'll be on the back burner. It's the same situation you posted before. All the work of a relationship but none of the perks. Tell her you will only hang out if it's a date. See if you see her outside work again.
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