meche Posted March 2, 2017 Posted March 2, 2017 Uuugh, Ive been at my current job for about a month and I noticed him right away. I thought his energy was interesting and that he has a really nice profile (irl, not in social media). But then he noticed me too. He turned and looked at me. For a long time. At first I thought it was because I was new. Or he caught me looking and wanted to see what Im about. Im really shy and I deliberately avoided him acter that. Also trying to be professional. We dont really talk. We were in a lunch with a mutual friend at work and he asked me lots of questions at the same time i got an uncomfortable vibe from him. He was either nervous or thought i was obnoxious. Since then we say hi when we bump into each other but nothing more. I often feel his eyes on my face until i notice and acknowledge him. He raises his eyebrows, hd looks at me with soft eyes and smile, and thats it... None of us stops to talk. Sometimes when i talk to his cubicle mate he turns his whole body around and looks at my face (i have good peripheral vision). I pretend not to notice but i like feeling his eyes on me. He has a giflfriend. Im also dating someone but mine isnt serious. Is there any hope? What does he want? Be nice
Shanex Posted March 2, 2017 Posted March 2, 2017 Be nice err. I lost interest when I read ''he has a girlfriend, I am dating someone but he isn't serious'' Surely, you are? 1
smackie9 Posted March 2, 2017 Posted March 2, 2017 A guy that has a GF is mackin on ya.....I would go ewwwww. There is nothing flattering about a dawg drooling over you. 1
OnlyHonesty Posted March 2, 2017 Posted March 2, 2017 He has a gf and is checking you out. Are you saying that you wish you were that girl?
CollegeKid101 Posted March 2, 2017 Posted March 2, 2017 Uuugh, Ive been at my current job for about a month and I noticed him right away. I thought his energy was interesting and that he has a really nice profile (irl, not in social media). But then he noticed me too. He turned and looked at me. For a long time. At first I thought it was because I was new. Or he caught me looking and wanted to see what Im about. Im really shy and I deliberately avoided him acter that. Also trying to be professional. We dont really talk. We were in a lunch with a mutual friend at work and he asked me lots of questions at the same time i got an uncomfortable vibe from him. He was either nervous or thought i was obnoxious. Since then we say hi when we bump into each other but nothing more. I often feel his eyes on my face until i notice and acknowledge him. He raises his eyebrows, hd looks at me with soft eyes and smile, and thats it... None of us stops to talk. Sometimes when i talk to his cubicle mate he turns his whole body around and looks at my face (i have good peripheral vision). I pretend not to notice but i like feeling his eyes on me. He has a giflfriend. Im also dating someone but mine isnt serious. Is there any hope? What does he want? Be nice Is there any hope? Hope for what? Cheating on his girlfriend with you? Probably. What does he want? One of two things: nothing and it's all in your head, to get in your pants. Be nice - Are you though to either his girlfriend or the person who probably thinks you are more than serious....? Oh, in the event that you somehow ruin his relationship..he'll turn around and do the same to you, but chances are you'll never be in a relationship with him if you do this.
Shanex Posted March 2, 2017 Posted March 2, 2017 A guy that has a GF is mackin on ya.....I would go ewwwww. There is nothing flattering about a dawg drooling over you. Agreed but she is just as much to blame for ''dating someone who isn't serious'' while she stare around at work about a co-worker with a girlfriend. Made me giggle a bit.
act00 Posted March 3, 2017 Posted March 3, 2017 The attention is fun. He's off limits. Just enjoy and keep it professional. In my experience in the cube world, it's not entirely private, and coworkers get involved in the conversation, so the fact he's turning toward you doesn't seem odd or creepy to to me in a general sense. If it's clear this is not a group thing, he should be turning his attention away. If you need a private conversation, don't do it on the floor with the other cubes. Leering at you is creepy. You caught an "uncomfortable vibe" from him, and that should be a hint this is probably not the best idea. You know he has a girlfriend. His behavior should be a put-off since he is in a relationship. Dating coworkers is a precarious situation. Right now you're a bit flattered by the staring and attention, but with that behavior, if it continues, it is going to start making you feel really uncomfortable. He has a girlfriend. You have a boyfriend, even though it's not really serious. Leering is really not going to go over well long-term. I would not put any more stock into this. Just be professionally friendly as coworkers are. Don't put in your mind anything will come of this. I suspect it would be a bad idea if anything did, so stay away.
Author meche Posted March 3, 2017 Author Posted March 3, 2017 Mine isnt serious = my dating situation isnt serious What am I REALLY hoping for? That he breaks up with his gf, gets some time alone and then dates me :B if he made a move while with her id not respect him much. And if i accepted he wouldnt respect me either. Id hope to just get closer to him mehtally/emotionally for now He s not creepy! If thats the case im creepy also, only I am a master of peripheral vision and it looks as if im gazing towards my friend s (his cubicle mate s) direction. With my friend we spoke a language he doesnt speak. Not everything in life is black and white. It feels as if there is something there. Maybe there isnt. But im only wondering if my wish could come true
CollegeKid101 Posted March 3, 2017 Posted March 3, 2017 Mine isnt serious = my dating situation isnt serious What am I REALLY hoping for? That he breaks up with his gf, gets some time alone and then dates me :B if he made a move while with her id not respect him much. And if i accepted he wouldnt respect me either. Id hope to just get closer to him mehtally/emotionally for now He s not creepy! If thats the case im creepy also, only I am a master of peripheral vision and it looks as if im gazing towards my friend s (his cubicle mate s) direction. With my friend we spoke a language he doesnt speak. Not everything in life is black and white. It feels as if there is something there. Maybe there isnt. But im only wondering if my wish could come true So you want him to emotionally cheat? Okay, now I got it!
Author meche Posted March 3, 2017 Author Posted March 3, 2017 Being attracted to others while in a relationship or dating is natural btw. Looking and having feelings and checking what an attractive person is about doesnt make you an awful person. Yes, Id want to steal him if he wanted to be stolen (completely). But i wouldnt push anything prematurely or create a tangle. I have my feelings, he has his (i dont know if they are about me) and id wish to meet him halfway.
Author meche Posted March 3, 2017 Author Posted March 3, 2017 So you want him to emotionally cheat? Okay, now I got it! Yes, lets say this is what i want. Cant lie
TheTraveler Posted March 3, 2017 Posted March 3, 2017 only I am a master of peripheral vision and it looks as if im gazing towards my friend s (his cubicle mate s) direction. When I'm at the gym i feel the STARE. Like something hitting me out of left field and I look over and bam the girl is staring at me. I look over, make eye contact, she looks away and heads to wherever she's going. Heck, tonight I was taking a break from a machine(gym) two women were behind me on different machines. I finished a set in front of them and wasn't looking at them at all, I decided to turn around and saw one of the girls and she was making humping measures towards me and immediately stopped when i saw her and looked down. I walked away The STARE is powerful 1
CollegeKid101 Posted March 3, 2017 Posted March 3, 2017 (edited) Being attracted to others while in a relationship or dating is natural btw. Looking and having feelings and checking what an attractive person is about doesnt make you an awful person. Yes, Id want to steal him if he wanted to be stolen (completely). But i wouldnt push anything prematurely or create a tangle. I have my feelings, he has his (i dont know if they are about me) and id wish to meet him halfway. Okay now we're talking about just looking and being attracted to others. There's a fine line between thinking somebody is attractive vs wanting to make that person yours or in your case, as you describe, "stealing" them from someone else. I'm willing to bet you would create a tangle if you went to LS after barely talking to this guy.. Just my two cents. Good luck stealing or whatever you intend on doing. EDIT: just saw your last post on how you want him to..If he would do it to the other girl, he'll for sure do it to you since he already knows you know how he can be. Maybe you'll get your wish and be in his gf's position one day. Edited March 3, 2017 by CollegeKid101
TheTraveler Posted March 3, 2017 Posted March 3, 2017 (edited) Leering at you is creepy. You caught an "uncomfortable vibe" from him, and that should be a hint this is probably not the best idea. We have already seen multiple on multiple threads the STARE works. Women break down and ask the guy out, gives her number, wondering wtf is going on, etc This thread is another example Edited March 3, 2017 by TheTraveler
Author meche Posted March 3, 2017 Author Posted March 3, 2017 The traveller, i laughed. But i guess its true, we all like to be acknowledged by nice looking people, isnt that so? Collegekid, yes, id want to get him for myself. And hopefully have him in a mental dilemma position, but without having done any of the PRACTICAL stuff, if you know what i mean.
TheTraveler Posted March 3, 2017 Posted March 3, 2017 The traveller, i laughed. But i guess its true, we all like to be acknowledged by nice looking people, isnt that so? Butterflies Feels amazing.
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