Sisters in a lot of trouble, and not much of a future if their behavior is kept up.

[fyre]

I have two twin sisters, 15 years old. They do drugs, steal from us (family), and get violent (if they don't get their way). My parents feel stuck, I feel disgusted with my sisters. I feel that they can do what they want, whenever that want to, and get their way. Which is pretty much true as it appears. My parents wont call the cops because they know that if they do get busted, they would have to pay the court fees, which they cant afford. As it is we live with my Mom's dad.

 

They also wont call the cops because they know that when the cop goes to go knock on the door, that person there doesn't have to answer the door, regardless if they were there, or if there was a party going on and my sisters were in there. My sisters will pretty much break out of any place. Last time one of them was locked up in this place called CRC (it's a crisis center), she broke out by breaking the fence down. A nice $400 we had to pay.

 

The same sister that broke down the fence got locked up in the hospital, for pulling a knife on my mom.

She was there for 9 and a half months, she too broke out of there. She just walked out. When she returned all was quiet, then things got worse, then they ever were before.

 

What can we do? and it actually work!? and not be expensive?! remember they are twins..

[shamen]

Any updates to report? I know that it's been a while since you last posted on this...

[suegail]

My heart goes out to you and your parents. That has to be so hard to deal with. It's hard if there is no money for a treatment center or anything like that. God knows they need some kind of treatment program with heavy duty counseling.

 

What about the school counselors? Wouldn't they know of some programs for low income people? There has to be something...

[fyre]

Well, I told my grandpa what they stole from him like 3- 4 months ago.

They stole his, I think it was either a 10, or 12 gauge, single barrel shot gun.

It was his old hunting gun he had in his room, behind his door. He had his room open on accident. Usually he keeps it locked because of them.

 

I guess they snuck it out, then hid it on the side of the house, then waited for someone to come pick it up.

It was sold for money. That gun was like 30 years old or so. The whole incident of them stealing it happened like 3 or so months ago.

 

We only found about it because one of them confessed saying that she took it. The time she told us about it a month had passed by. My Mom didn't want to tell her dad about it, because she didn't want to hurt him, or anger him. Besides at the time that we found out about this he had just barely gotten over stress from a car accident. So we decided to keep it a secret.

 

Even though I felt that was a horrible thing for her to do, I felt that she needed to tell him the truth. She wanted to wait until he noticed that it was missing, until he asked questions. If he did find it missing, she was going to tell him she had it, and had it put away so that my sisters didn't get ahold of it. Lies, they disgust me.

 

Well one night my sisters kept pushing my buttons, and just kept pushing. I gave them a warning to leave me alone. They kept at it. So I threatened, if they kept up I was going to tell grandpa. They didn't care, and they didn't think I would do it. So I was like really? So I told him.

 

He was more hurt that nobody was going to tell him, that everyone knew, and nobody told him. That they did this to him. He does know about them and their problems. But he would of never have imagined that they would steal THAT from him.

 

My sisters as of now barely forgive me. My mom, I guess she forgives me..I felt like crap that day I told. All because I had to be immature, and because I was mad. And as for school counselors, or counselors in general. They've been down that road. Counselors don't do squat for them.

[suegail]

I don't feel you did anything wrong. You told the truth about what happened and you told the right person, in my opinion. It was your grandfather's gun. He had a right to know that his property had been stolen and by whom.

 

I don't know your mom, but it seems to me if she's ready to lie for the daughters in order to cover for their crimes she's only compounding the problem that exists. It teaches them nothing good. It teaches them that it's okay to lie your way out of problems.

 

The things these girls are doing now are eventually going to land them in prison if no one finds a way to get through to them.

 

Does your family have a church? If not, would they consider finding one and trying to get the girls into some Christian counseling? Some of these churches have large youth groups, things the kids can get involved in. I used to go to a church that was very big and had all kinds of teen groups. I now attend a small church, but I know that church is still going strong and hundreds of teenagers attend. It would be nice to get them involved with a group of kids who would influence them in a positive way.

 

I sure hope things work out for you....

[fyre]

Actually Sue, they were in counseling for quite a while that was through a church. The counseling didn't seem to help though. As for youth groups, my aunt who is quite a devoted Christian, has tried to get them to go to church with her, and to get them into youth groups, etc. They wont. As for me telling my grandpa because I was upset... My Mom says, that it was her responsibility, to tell him, not mine.

[Barby]

Wow I am so sorry that your family is going through this. Clearly your sisters need some kind of help...honestly with little to no income available nor insurance (I'm assuming) that would be able to pay for them to be placed in a long term facility; the only real solution I can see is allowing them to be busted for the crimes they're committing and allowing the court system to offer them the services/help that is available to them. (ie girl school, juvenile hall, or treatment facilities)

 

I know it's in a mother's nature to protect her children and in this case, cover for her daughters and not turn them in to the police.......but honestly they are only going to get worse. It is sad that they have no respect for the man (your grandfather) who is helping all of you by allowing ya'll to live with him, something he didn't have to do. Stealing something that he treasured in order to obtain money or drugs (you stated they are using drugs)....that is so wrong!

 

Maybe you should contact the Maury show....they handle out of control teens...maybe he can help?!?! Not to sound dumb but I dunno.....it was a thought!

 

http://www.mauryshow.com/

[suegail]

Absolutely it was her job to tell your grandfather. She's right about that - only she wasn't going to tell him. She was going to lie about it. I still say you did nothing wrong.

 

Anyway, I hope something works out, some way to help these girls. I hate to think of what their future will be if they don't come out of this. It sounds as if you're very level headed. That's wonderful. It's amazing how kids can come from the same family and turn out so differently....

 

God Bless...

[fyre]

thank you sue, and barby. I hope things improve for them also..