justanickname Posted March 2, 2017 Posted March 2, 2017 So, I am traveling. I met a very nice guy on the road. I didn't think of dating or anything, I just wanted to meet local people, and he was one of many local I have met on the road. The thing is, when we met, I felt something for him immediately. It sounds very silly and unbelievable to me, because I don't really believe in "love at first sight", or fairy tales story like "by touching the person's hands, you know you are in love", etc.; but ironically, it did happen. I don't say it is love, no, at least not yet. Anyway, since I am traveling, and we just met once or twice, I didn't expect anything... Just tried to enjoy the moment. It was no kiss, no romantic things, just talking, laughing, smiling, etc. during the time we met, but it was so enjoyable. When I left, I recognized we started to flirt via text... He initiated. I was very happy and trembling, because I haven't been sure if he felt the same... We still barely know about each other, though the time we were together flying so quick, 12 hours felt like an hour. Last night I made a bad move. He talked about the possibility to catch me in another city of his country before I depart to home (in Asia), but then for the very last conversation, I sent him the information of Arthur's theory, which saying that if the two strangers open and talk about 36 questions, they could fall in love. Bad move, yes. He immediately said that "I don't want to be misunderstand, I don't want to rush." and then he said he will not try to see me again before my departure. I don't know. Is it because he thinks I am too fast to fall for him? The last message from him was "have a nice trip". Well, I know, again, I am traveling, I was confident that this kind of thing would never happen for me (but it happened), and I know long distance is suck for lovers, I could not expect anything, I still don't know much about him, etc. and mostly, I should not expect anything. However, I still hope that there is still chance for us. This is the first time ever I have that kind of feeling for anyone. Just by a touch of hands, how idiot. I am not that young, but yes, it happened... What do you think? Should I just let it go? Maybe I know already that I would not contact him again till he contacts me, and just let things happen naturally, but I felt embarrass to let him know I like him, and let him think I felt too fast for him, and yes, I still hope, at least to keep contact with him. I don't know... He is French, by the way...
basil67 Posted March 2, 2017 Posted March 2, 2017 Holiday romances are wonderful things. But be careful not to confuse them with real life. 1
Author justanickname Posted March 2, 2017 Author Posted March 2, 2017 Yes, I am aware of that, and as I said, I am not a teenager, but anyway, hope is a hope...
ExpatInItaly Posted March 2, 2017 Posted March 2, 2017 I don't necessarily think you lost a chance for anything but one last opportunity to see each other. It doesn't sound like he felt the same way about you, unfortunately, so I don't think it would've developed into something more anyway. But to address your question- yes, your message about these 36 questions was way too much. You took it from flirting and maybe potential for a fling to "couple" territory. Even if you didn't mean it seriously, he saw that you were definitely hoping for something more than he was. At least, that's my perspective. He doesn't want to lead you on or give you false hope, so he backed out. I would just let it be, and chalk it up to some fond memories. For all you know, this guy could have a girlfriend back home and was just looking for a little side action on the road. It's best to leave it alone and enjoy the rest of your trip. 1
Recommended Posts