saradee93 Posted March 1, 2017 Posted March 1, 2017 (edited) So I met this guy at work about two months ago and we hit it off instantly. We became quick friends but it didn't develop into more until about 3 weeks ago. We were put working beside each other and things progressively got flirtier as the night went on. In return, I started developing a romantic interest in him. Just a little background. He's 18 and about to start college whereas I'm 23 and I have a college degree. Anyways, I finally broke down and told him that I was interested in him. He got really excited and we ended up going out that Saturday. Well, the date progressed to the point where we ended up hooking up. After that, things started to get a tad awkward between us. We don't text as much as we used to and our conversations don't flow like they did. I talked to him about it and he swears up and down there's nothing wrong. He said he's just got a lot going on right now. I asked him where I stand with him and he said he didn't know. I'm really wanting something to happen but my anxiety (yes I'm diagnosed) is telling me that things are wrong. I'm confused and don't know what's going on with anything. All my friends are telling me something different but my therapist is telling me to not lose hope. I'm just lost and don't know what to do. Edited March 1, 2017 by saradee93
kendahke Posted March 1, 2017 Posted March 1, 2017 You had sex with him and he's now lost the intensity of his interest? I would stop investing in anything taking off with this boy. I always advise people to not date coworkers because of exactly what is falling out in experience with you right now. Having a good co-working relationship doesn't' mean that you will have a good romantic relationship--it sounds like life came at him fast here and he was taken by surprise by your "generosity" of intimacy, but he isn't ready to (or interested in) reciprocate on your terms. Don't poop where you eat. 1
lurker74 Posted March 1, 2017 Posted March 1, 2017 Everyone is right...if you sense something is wrong, it probably is...and you can still have hope. But you definitely should back off. If you back off and he becomes more interested, you can have an honest conversation with him. But if you let your anxiety rule you, you will push him away. Also, be very careful about dating someone you work with...it can make things a total mess.
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