Yeahyea41 Posted March 1, 2017 Posted March 1, 2017 Hi All! Been lurking for the last month since my break up in late January. I had a question based on how things ended in my relationship and just wanted you guys thoughts. Going to do my best to keep it short but informative. Girlfriend and I dated for 6 months. she wanted a "break" and i Reluctantly and ignorantly agreed it to it. 2 weeks into the break a mutual friend of ours saw her making out with another guy at a bar. when i confronted her via text about it, she did apologize, but it didn't feel sincere and it sounded like she expected me to just brush it off, chalking the incident up to Alcohol. And at the end, she tried to turn the whole argument against me, at which point i ended the relationship for good. And almost a month to this day of me breaking it off, she is already dating someone new. I guess i just want your guy's input on whether or not you feel i did the right thing. I have been strict NC since that time, but i carry this guilt with me that i am the dumper. I wanted none of this, and i feel im the dumpee. I mean, i had to maintain whatever self respect i had left and just walk away right? I am just very disappointed as i had high hopes for this one. If you guys need some more details as to the situation please dont hesitate to ask. Thanks for reading
marnus25 Posted March 1, 2017 Posted March 1, 2017 (edited) Good day...well friend I recently broke it off with my gf of 3 years i was cheated on multiple times by the girl with the same guy. I kept taking her back and I feel like such a fool and loser sharing the person I lived with another person emotionally. I respect you for ending it sooner than later because trust me I didn't it's been 2 days since my break up and I'm sitting alone here and she is probably with the guy who was pursuing her for 2 years. Feel good about yourself and realize you did nothing wrong...she lost someone that loved her and you lost a person not worth sharing a life with and be proud of ending it sooner than later. GOOD LUCK Edited March 1, 2017 by marnus25 1
JGB Posted March 1, 2017 Posted March 1, 2017 I for sure think you did the right thing, bro. For what it's worth, my girlfriend did similar. My girlfriend of 2 years started acting really distant and cold before she dumped me about a month ago. Within a week of the break up, she was out partying and drinking a lot and had a new guy in the picture. I'm pretty sure she "monkey branched" me and that's why she was so distant, she was already checking out of the relationship and basically cheating on me while I tried to make it work. It's not worth investing time and emotion into when you've been dumped and they don't care, so I've just been moving forward and I've felt 100x better in the last 2 days. Things are really looking up and I'm just taking it as a lesson learned. You should too. Stay strong, man, and forget her. If she wants you back, she'll reach out and you have to make her earn it. 1
Maldives Posted March 3, 2017 Posted March 3, 2017 Hi All! Been lurking for the last month since my break up in late January. I had a question based on how things ended in my relationship and just wanted you guys thoughts. Going to do my best to keep it short but informative. Girlfriend and I dated for 6 months. she wanted a "break" and i Reluctantly and ignorantly agreed it to it. 2 weeks into the break a mutual friend of ours saw her making out with another guy at a bar. when i confronted her via text about it, she did apologize, but it didn't feel sincere and it sounded like she expected me to just brush it off, chalking the incident up to Alcohol. And at the end, she tried to turn the whole argument against me, at which point i ended the relationship for good. And almost a month to this day of me breaking it off, she is already dating someone new. I guess i just want your guy's input on whether or not you feel i did the right thing. I have been strict NC since that time, but i carry this guilt with me that i am the dumper. I wanted none of this, and i feel im the dumpee. I mean, i had to maintain whatever self respect i had left and just walk away right? I am just very disappointed as i had high hopes for this one. If you guys need some more details as to the situation please dont hesitate to ask. Thanks for reading Yes definatley 110% u did the right thing. She cheated u dont take back a cheater I've had it happen to me the u will do it again garauntees they're self esteem is so low they need to make themselves feel good again by always being wth someone. She is trash. Trailer park trash u feel like the dunpeeled because u hav feelings for her and I know where the doubt comes from its from oh maybe if I hadn't dumped her she would com3 back and we would work out maybe? The issue here is it takes a very long time to rebuild trust wen this happens and the partner that did it has to commit I mean really commit to building ur trust again and that cld take a very long time of lots of reassurance ask ureself if she is this kind of girl my perception is is she will do it again be careful
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