Tar Pockets Posted July 25, 2005 Posted July 25, 2005 After a spell of convention methods, I need a break and would like to try a different approach. I'm drained by flirting and being (mostly) rejected or stuck in an all flirt no action duo. I'd like to sit back a spell and make no advances to women I meet. (co-workers, at the store etc). At the same time I'd like to see if I can attract (some) of them. OK, I'm not hitting on people, what are some things I should/Shouldn't do, to interest them. I'm not a player, one special lady is plenty for me, but I'd settle for just a fun lady in the meantime. I'm past 40, never married, have had a few serious relationships, and a few not serious ones. What do women of different ages look for in a guy like me? I'm half way intelligent in good shape but not a jock, financially well off but not rich and not trying to project that (should I?) Women my age I've been seeing tend to be divorced, that's all well and good, but I'd like to be available for older and younger ladies at various stages of life.
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted July 25, 2005 Posted July 25, 2005 Keep your eyes and ears open. If you see someone you might like to go out with, find out if she'd be interested in going out and doing something fun (like a ball game or a concert). Just go as friends, and maybe it will turn into something more (ie. sex) And if not, I hope you have fun anyway.
Tar Pockets Posted July 27, 2005 Posted July 27, 2005 OK, eyes and ears open. What would catch the eye of potential dates? I'm looking to go about my daily routines, but somehow project myself (without flirting, and hitting on) to eligable women.
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted July 27, 2005 Posted July 27, 2005 and just being your friendly self. If you do see someone you are interested in, just make it a habit to show up at the same place the same time each week or if you notice she has a pattern like this, then make yourself visible. Don't be shy, if she's not approaching you work up the nerve to say hello or strike up a conversation. It really frustrates me when guys sit around all googly eyed and don't make the first move to ask a girl out.
fundamental Posted July 27, 2005 Posted July 27, 2005 Originally posted by MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 It really frustrates me when guys sit around all googly eyed and don't make the first move to ask a girl out. You can make the first move too ya know... there are no rules.
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted July 27, 2005 Posted July 27, 2005 Originally posted by fundamental You can make the first move too ya know... there are no rules. Yes there are plenty of rules and the biggest one is that guys love to chase women and women should never EVER ask the guy out first. I know this! I read the book! He's Just Not That Into You if he doesn't call and ask you out first! so there!
ReluctantRomeo Posted July 27, 2005 Posted July 27, 2005 Originally posted by Tar Pockets What do women of different ages look for in a guy like me? I'm half way intelligent in good shape but not a jock, financially well off but not rich and not trying to project that (should I?) Being friendly, kind and a good listener would be a great start...
crazy_grl Posted July 27, 2005 Posted July 27, 2005 Originally posted by MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 I know this! I read the book! He's Just Not That Into You if he doesn't call and ask you out first! so there!
SoleMate Posted July 28, 2005 Posted July 28, 2005 To be able to just sit back and let the young, attractive women flock to you...well, that is by no means an unique goal...other men have also desired this. Some have even gotten it! But 99% of them are the ones who are extremely good-looking and also charming and confident. I guess you're not in that category, or you wouldn't be posting . I would suggest working HARD on getting to be as attractive, charming and confident as possible. Fitness, clothing chosen to flatter you, posture, skin, hair, smiles, conversation, politeness, cognitive therapy, medications. Maybe plastic surgery or hair transplants if applicable. Do let us know how this works out!
old guy Posted July 29, 2005 Posted July 29, 2005 Originally posted by SoleMate To be able to just sit back and let the young, attractive women flock to you...well, that is by no means an unique goal...other men have also desired this. Some have even gotten it! But 99% of them are the ones who are extremely good-looking and also charming and confident. I guess you're not in that category, or you wouldn't be posting . I would suggest working HARD on getting to be as attractive, charming and confident as possible. Fitness, clothing chosen to flatter you, posture, skin, hair, smiles, conversation, politeness, cognitive therapy, medications. Maybe plastic surgery or hair transplants if applicable. Do let us know how this works out! Much of what you say is well advised. Fitness, politness, confidence are mostly there already. LOL on the transplants, therapy, surgery.
ReluctantRomeo Posted July 29, 2005 Posted July 29, 2005 Originally posted by old guy LOL on the transplants, therapy, surgery. Therapy is good though
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