Its all my fault, my ex left me, but I really wanna patch things up with her....

[leeyco]

I hope anyone could give me some advice how I could able to patch things up with my current-ex.

 

To make it short here, we just broke up slightly more than 2 months ago,for the 2nd time, due to my egoness and unwillingness to change. We were really great and treated each other well when the first few weeks we patch up, but after sometimes as we noticed ones, weaknesses and attitude, things started to change again. I wasnt able to tolerate her in some ways, (but now, I realized that I should have tolerate her and be more patient), and that had somehow makes me temperemental most of the time when she nags or complaint at me.

 

I started to mistreat her in many ways, and did not do what a bf should do. She is kind, and a simple sweet girl, without much expectations All that she need is a guy to shower her with care and love. I was too selfish, to only think of what I wanted and expected most of the initiative from her without considering how she feels. When times we argued, I was unwillingly to give in and hold tight on my stand. I had hurt her in many ways and treated her terribly bad. I even came to the extend to ask her to return everything that I gave her and told some people about her personal life and her pass after she told me she wanted to have a break.

 

She was really mad and hurt and she told me that she couldnt go on with this anymore. We did agreed to become friends, but she just said she couldn't, not sure for how long. She told me she needed the space to be alone and that was the time, I shouldn't call or contact her at all, by all means. I tried for couple of days but, I did try to do somethings to win her heart, after that, but it seems, the more I do, the more harm I did to her, without realizing. I felt miserably pain for couple of weeks. Up till now I am still missing her very much. We are no longer talking to each other anymore, she even ignores me when she sees me. We are working at a same place, but at different part of the building.

 

I had really regretted for what I did and am willing to change. I realize my jerky behaviour and it was hurting to know that I had hurt the person I love so much. I know it's too late now, but is there anything I could do to win her back?

I felt really guilty for treating such a lovely and sweet girl like that, as she does not deserve this. But I am really willing to change, and become a better person. There are times I just felt abit insecure and still wanna knows what happened around her. She has forbidden me to ask anything about her, not even to her friends. I felt really pain and miss her alot.

 

Could anyone give me a good advice here? Please? Thanks alot.

[MWC_LifeBeginsAt40]

I'm afraid it's probably too late for you, but that's only if she has half a brain in her head. Why would anyone want to be treated that way? Why would she give you a second chance to repeat? Why would she want to be with someone who made her feel so terrible?

 

Please just promise yourself you will never EVER treat any woman this way ever again, no matter how you feel about her. If you are in love with a woman then all the more reason to cherish her and not be an azzhole, which you are, by the way.

 

This is not something you can just "patch up". You have very probably ruined this poor woman's self-esteem and she has very likely spent the last two months trying to find new ways to feel good about herself and repair all the damage you have caused her.

 

Please just let her live her life. You will have a second chance at love, just not with her. She deserves much better.