Jeweliamj Posted March 1, 2017 Posted March 1, 2017 We will have been together one year in May. We have had some issues and he broke up with me once for a month and his family sort of began to hate me. His sister hates me and she makes it very obvious. A couple period of times I wasn't allowed to be around his house or any of his family. I began recently to hang out at his house again with his brother around, who doesn't seem to mind me. But I feel I can't be a part of his life. I can't be included in anything. Tonight he came over and told me he's going to his friend's house (also his sister's boyfriend), and I just stood there thinking I'm not even invited. So I'm stuck sitting home by myself, again. I feel left out a lot. I feel like I'm a girlfriend who will never be able to participate in any family events. I'm not that close to my family except my mom so I rarely see anyone, so he doesn't interact with my family. But he's closer to his family and I can't be a part of anything. I used to be in the past but since December when we had a huge issue and things seem good now, I can't be around. I just keep wondering if this is the type of relationship I want. I want to be included. Getting left out makes me extremely depressed and it feels like I'm not a priority. I wanna be involved. I just feel like some second rate girlfriend at this point. He hates discussing issues so I'm nervous to bring this up to him, though I have clearly expressed how depressing it is for me to be left out.
morrowrd Posted March 1, 2017 Posted March 1, 2017 You probably need to evaluate this relationship; what are you getting out of it exactly. Is there love, friendship, companionship, support, security? I'm not sure what age you two are, but the above are elements that should be a part of even young love to some extent. Definitely adult relationships require these things, to thrive. If this relationship is lacking those items, then ask yourself that question. Why the hell am I in this? I always say, you only live once. Make it count...there are a ton of guys out there who would love a chance to have a relationship with you, and treat you right. 1
d0nnivain Posted March 1, 2017 Posted March 1, 2017 No there is no hope for a future because there isn't a healthy present. You don't say how old you are but your post reads "young" meaning inexperienced, immature. That's not a crack against you; we were all there once upon a time. The minute the break up make up cycle starts, things are already over. Just end it already.
coolheadal Posted March 1, 2017 Posted March 1, 2017 You are there for him and not his family. At the end of the day are you with him or his family. No your suppose to be with him. If you do not know what you want out of a relationship yet then this is not going to work with you and him. He's close to his family you can't take that away from him nor can he simply give up on you. There is a give and take in any relationship. Being depress is another factor to consider your not happy with the way things are so your just settling that is not the way to go about all of this. You need to be included in everything you have with him, if you don't get that time to pull out and find a man that makes you feel special about yourself and him as you are the one that counts as much as the man your with.
whichwayisup Posted March 1, 2017 Posted March 1, 2017 Fact that he hasn't talked to his sister and rest of the family who aren't fond of you, hasn't stood up for you and told them to treat you with respect and to accept you because he loves you and you're his girlfriend just shows he may not be the one for you. Whatever issues you two had and broke up over for a small amount of time he obviously told them about it and because of that they don't like you anymore. They need to get over it and he needs to include you more... If he doesn't then end it with him. Life is too short to be with someone who won't have your back. 1
mikeylo Posted March 1, 2017 Posted March 1, 2017 Unfortunately, his actions are speaking louder than he could ever put in words. He is trying not to be the bad guy by breaking up.
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